posted April 01, 2015 08:06 PM            

I've not had the best experience with this aspect. There is always tremendous growth and the potential for deep healing. There's no room for superficiality in such a synastry -- despite the 5H overlays. There can be a lot of pain here; a lot of fear -- from both.

NNODE conjunctions tend to set the tone of a relationship -- and mine wasn't even making a conjunction; it was just sharing the sign, way out of orb.

posted April 01, 2015 08:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
Wow. I am hardly looking at that but his CHIRON right on your NNODE.

I've not had the best experience with this aspect. There is always tremendous growth and the potential for deep healing. There's no room for superficiality in such a synastry -- despite the 5H overlays. There can be a lot of pain here; a lot of fear -- from both.

NNODE conjunctions tend to set the tone of a relationship -- and mine wasn't even making a conjunction; it was just sharing the sign, way out of orb.

An exact conjunction? THAT's the purpose of the connexion. Nothing else matters. We can have the eternal 'who feels what?' conversation, but THAT's not what matters here.

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Wait so what does that mean? It sounds scary and... painful?! Ahh, should I run away from him now?

posted April 02, 2015 01:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
Wow. I am hardly looking at that but his CHIRON right on your NNODE.

I've not had the best experience with this aspect. There is always tremendous growth and the potential for deep healing. There's no room for superficiality in such a synastry -- despite the 5H overlays. There can be a lot of pain here; a lot of fear -- from both.

NNODE conjunctions tend to set the tone of a relationship -- and mine wasn't even making a conjunction; it was just sharing the sign, way out of orb.

An exact conjunction? THAT's the purpose of the connexion. Nothing else matters. We can have the eternal 'who feels what?' conversation, but THAT's not what matters here.

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Ah man. I have this with my boyfriend. It's at 0°22, my NN conjunct his Chiron (in my 4th house and in his 1st house).

posted April 02, 2015 02:20 PM            

I can say one thing is that each of us in the relationship need to understand and accept (because this leads to healing) the pain that Chiron brings to our natals. Otherwise when someone else aspects your Chiron, you are unexpectedly feeling your Chiron and won't be ready to face the pain, and thus it can be detrimental to your relationship.

I feel I'm comfortable with my Chiron, however my guy wasn't. Us being together brought out a lot of pain he worked so hard to FORGET. But you're not supposed to ignore Chiron. You're supposed to FACE it. He wasn't ready to deal with his issues. Our relationship unfortunately ended.

posted April 02, 2015 03:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Pretty Theft:
Ah man. I have this with my boyfriend. It's at 0°22, my NN conjunct his Chiron (in my 4th house and in his 1st house).

Can you explain a little bit more about your experience/thoughts with this aspect?? Chiron is pretty significant for him, it's conjunct his Gemini Ascendant as well (at 2°11).

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In my experience, we were best friends for nearly a decade. It turned romantic about five years into it. But distance (we live 6 hours from each other in different states) and a mutual deep-seated fear of intimacy turned us into primary producing partners, who put the romantic feelings on the back burner. By the time we finally started to deal with it -- it was too late. He couldn't even try, and he hated me for it (which everyone has stated multiple times is unfounded).

So he hates me, because I 'ruined his life' by being the person he finally loved, but could never actually make the move to have. Since he never SHOWED how important it was to him, I married someone else. He acts like it doesn't matter, but it does. We've pretty much been frenemies since the relationship blew apart in 2012. He said the most awful things to me, I spiralled into a deep depression, and, at the end of it, decided he was too damaged to even try being real friends with. So now he feels abandoned.

See how all of this is the BAD side of CHIRON?

CHIRON relationships, at heart, need to be founded on honesty, trust, and a need for cooperation and synthesis -- not the need to defend, strike first, and win. Sadly, too much ego gets in the way of the potential for real good.

It can even destroy Twin Flame relationships, if not kept in check. It certainly has done so to ours. I suspect the future CAN be brighter, with serious work and growth. But, for now, I keep my distance. All he does is lash out and wound me. At every turn. He lures me in, then guilts me and hurts me.

He used this phrase, 'tragically disappointed', in regards to what would happen if we never figured out how to be ultimately loving and forgive each other. I forgave him, eventually. He's never truly forgiven me. It seems it's not in him to. He isn't capable of loving, nor can he offer true forgiveness.

So, we're tragically disappointed.

posted April 02, 2015 07:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
Bottom line is, CHIRON takes emotional maturity, dedication, and the ability to really, truly love -- without ego. Otherwise, it can be tragic disappointment, indeed.

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Interesting! Chiron is not especially prominent in my chart, but so far I'd say we fall more on the "healing" side of things. Looking at our charts, we take no poor aspects to the conjunction other than a wide square (4°53) to my Venus and an even wider opposition to my Mars (5°02).

We've both been through a lot, regarding personal relationships -- him more than me, with his moon trine Pluto. Talk about crazy ex-girlfriends! I don't have any crazy ex-boyfriends, except for one who is, literally, crazy -- but he's the gentle kind of crazy.