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Topic: Have I done the right thing?
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CuriouserAndCuriouser
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posted November 27, 2014 06:30 PM
  
You know when you have a 'zingy' thing with someone? I've just told my zingy guy, after a bit of naughtiness together, that I can't be his friend anymore as we want different things. I want a relationship and he says he has issues and can't. So in the interests of self-preservation I've removed myself from the situation. He was someone I saw every day and I really miss him  My question is, have I done the right thing? (I know in a sensible, level-headed way I have but that's not really how these things tend to work...) Some charts for you that I can't even pretend to understand... Synastry is here:  Composite is here: (I like that it makes a star shape!).  What does it tell you about how our relationship should be? Is there anything I should be aware of, or cautious of, or jumping for joy about?
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LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
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posted November 28, 2014 08:10 AM
The charts look good for a relationship, IMO. However, I would prefer to see astro.com charts, these are hard to read.
And welcome to Interpersonal Astrology! 
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CuriouserAndCuriouser
Newflake Posts: 8
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posted November 28, 2014 12:22 PM
Thanks LeeLoo!Are these charts easier to read? Synastry: 
Composite:
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LeeLoo2014
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posted November 28, 2014 12:51 PM
The charts are different  IP: Logged |
CuriouserAndCuriouser
Newflake Posts: 8
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posted November 28, 2014 01:04 PM
I got my 24 hour clock muddled!I've updated the links above. Should be right now IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
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posted November 28, 2014 01:47 PM
These are comfortable charts, IMO. You don't do much for his love houses though. maybe that's why he's having second thoughts?------------------
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CuriouserAndCuriouser
Newflake Posts: 8
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posted November 28, 2014 01:57 PM
Which are the love houses?IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
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posted November 28, 2014 02:03 PM
Well, actually, I was wrong...your Venus stellium and your Sun are in his 12th house, and his 5th house is in Pisces. Your Moon is on his 2nd cusp, and his DSC is in Taurus. There are important and good overlays  Your overlays are good too. I don't see problems here. Is there something you would like to know in particular?You could also try to post the charts with love asteroids: Lilith, Juno, Vesta, Eros, Psyche, Amor, Valentine, Ceres, Pallas, Cupido, the Vertex.
The love houses are generally the 5th, 7th and 8th and those corresponding to the signs on the cusps on your 5th, 7th and 8th
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CuriouserAndCuriouser
Newflake Posts: 8
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posted November 28, 2014 02:13 PM
It's like learning another language!With asteroids... 
I suppose the important thing to know is how it applies to real life and what course of action/inaction I should take? It sounds like it's worth pursuing but maybe the pursuit is 'doing nothing. I know he's stubborn and likes to be in control. Are there any clues in his chart?
Oh, and I suppose I still don't know the answer to the original question - have I done the right thing by walking away from him and his friendship? Or should I just move on and find someone who isn't so indecisive!?! IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
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posted November 29, 2014 06:08 AM
If you ask me this question, you always stumble into a wall: one simple rule "If a man wants you, he will pursue". It doesn't mean you shouldn't make yourself beautiful and walk around before him, in your circle of friends or wherever that is, to show him what he's about to loose.  No need to wait for a guy, IMO, just go on with your life. ------------------
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Randall
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posted November 29, 2014 10:05 AM
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Geeky
Knowflake Posts: 1274
From: the Sun, vacation house on Mercury
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posted November 29, 2014 01:57 PM
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Originally posted by CuriouserAndCuriouser:
My question is, have I done the right thing?
Yes. You did the right thing in spite of having good synastry and a nice composite. You can't make him participate and nothing good can come from trying to pursue someone who isn't interested in a relationship. If you're still feeling attached to him, you don't have to see other people, but you do need to involve yourself in your own life. If you find you have too much time on your hands and your mind wandering, take up a new hobby. I started making jewelry after a rough breakup. I also started a small container garden. I'm not really good at the gardening thing, but it was something else that demanded my attention and that was a nice distraction when I needed it. ------------------
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Nine
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posted November 29, 2014 03:11 PM
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Originally posted by Geeky:
Yes. You did the right thing in spite of having good synastry and a nice composite. You can't make him participate and nothing good can come from trying to pursue someone who isn't interested in a relationship. If you're still feeling attached to him, you don't have to see other people, but you do need to involve yourself in your own life. If you find you have too much time on your hands and your mind wandering, take up a new hobby. ...
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CuriouserAndCuriouser
Newflake Posts: 8
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posted December 01, 2014 07:56 AM
Thanks guys. Just goes to show, no matter what the stars say, common sense prevails!IP: Logged |
CuriouserAndCuriouser
Newflake Posts: 8
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posted December 02, 2014 07:13 AM
So now I'm trying to steer clear and he won't leave me alone! Is there anything in the charts that would suggest this is going to be an ongoing pattern? I'd like to know a bit more about the dynamics between us (other than the ones I can see in real life)IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
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posted December 02, 2014 07:19 AM
Why do you say he won't leave you alone? A synastry mostly shows the potential compatibility between two people. There are several levels of compatibility: planetary aspects, house overlays, matching symbolism etc. You can take a look here for some of them:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/000019-3.html You can search Lotis White's threads too, she has many interesting threads here about synastric compatibility and matching symbolism. ------------------
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CuriouserAndCuriouser
Newflake Posts: 8
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posted December 02, 2014 07:32 AM
Hanging around me when I'm doing stuff (hovering in the background not really doing anything), wanting to make dinner for me, staring at me with lusty eyes...!It's hard to avoid someone you live with but I'm being polite but trying not to engage. I'm afraid I really don't understand the language of any of the charts: aspects, overlays, symbolism etc. I could google it but I don't know what I'm looking at in the first place! Lots to learn... IP: Logged |
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