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Topic: Is It Worth It?
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downtomars
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posted June 14, 2017 11:30 PM
  
I have become so jaded when it comes to online dating - I have not had a significant relationship come about from any date that I've had with a man I met online. I tried again recently and began talking with a man I think is cool. He seems to be very into me, but I don't want to get too excited because of my past experiences. I want to meet him, but does this synastry and composite look compelling? I cut out the AC/MC for him because is birth time is an approximate, that would mean his Moon and the composite houses are inaccurate as well. Thanks to anyone who can help!    
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Randall
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posted June 15, 2017 06:13 AM
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downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 1379
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posted June 15, 2017 10:57 AM
I'm a little nervous about how Venus squares my 7th house stellium as well as my AC/DC. Does anyone see how this could play out? IP: Logged |
hypatia238
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posted June 15, 2017 11:08 AM
I met my husband online but if I was single again, I would not go the online route again. I would wait till I meet someone in person and just put myself out there.IP: Logged |
downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 1379
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posted June 15, 2017 12:12 PM
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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I met my husband online but if I was single again, I would not go the online route again. I would wait till I meet someone in person and just put myself out there.
It has become pretty terrible - people just use it to find someone to sleep with and move on to the next internet date. I honestly didn't want to go back online. I haven't had a date in about a year and a half, and that was with a guy I met off of the internet who told me he has a notebook of women he sleeps with "in case of STDs"! That date ended quickly! So, I decided to try again a couple of weeks ago and I started talking to this guy. He seems nice enough, but I am not sure how I feel about him. For me this is a good thing because I usually fall in love right away and regret it. Looking at our synastry and composite though - I don't know. We are supposed to meet on Saturday and my transits are trash! Absolutely nothing going on with Venus or Mars or even the moon! He's got a lot of Venus going on that day though. We'll see... Is there anything that stands out in the synastry and/or composite? IP: Logged |
areesquivel
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posted June 15, 2017 04:18 PM
I'm sorry I can't help but wha's weird to me is that you're describing my story too, no significant relationship yet and I have met guys on internet too, I'm recently going through the same and I want to meet a guy who seems pretty interesting but don't know if its worth pursuing, I'm just impressed I had to say it.IP: Logged |
todd
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posted June 15, 2017 07:53 PM
simply put no it is not worth it.
mars on the descendant square to pluto shows he is not open to emotional give and take. he selfish and only into himself and his desires.
secondly the sun/moon midpoint is conjunct to Uranus so there is not chance any kind of stable relationship will develop.
venus square neptubne cn give increased attraction butit is usually increased sexual attraction. this aspects often shows the relationship is involved with alcohol or other substances. it is a "party" vib more than a itimate emotional connection vib.the venus/sun midpoint is conjunct the node which always gives a emotional/physical attraction.it gives a sense of "magic; between you snf often you feel you are in a "special reality " when together.\ he may be very loving and accommodating toward you but is primary interest is simply sex. todd IP: Logged |
downtomars
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posted June 17, 2017 03:03 AM
Thank you for your interpretation Todd!So, the date is later on today and I am nervous! Does anyone care to assist in the interpretation of the synastry aspects? Thanks! IP: Logged |
downtomars
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posted June 18, 2017 02:11 AM
Hmm...Just got back from our date and he seems a little too good to be true. That's a little scary... ~Two sentence BUMP!~ IP: Logged |
downtomars
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posted June 18, 2017 08:26 PM
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Starry~*
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posted June 18, 2017 09:48 PM
Hi! I've been involved with many scorpios but your scorpio guy (I'm assuming he's outside) resembles a lot like the scorpio I dated (chart-wise). My guy was a 79'er but early november. He is also a scorpio with leo mars, which makes him enjoy pleasure, sex, and gatherings a lot more. I don't know about your guy but my scorp loved people who adored him and likes attention given to him. He WILL Keep people around who will feed his ego, even if they are opposite members who show slight interest in him....be wary. However, it does NOT mean that he will necessarily be romantically involved with them (let's hope he's not THAT type..)With your sun merc on his mars, I think you guys will align pretty well when it comes to ego and getting things the way you guys like to. The only thing I would be a bit wary about is his venus/uranus conjunction (although in scorpio) squaring your sun/merc. I think your sun/merc (and ultimately your venus in early leo) might make you more a chatty and mentally stimulated Leo...but we all know Leo's demand loyalty. I wonder if his venus/uranus can appreciate that and hopefully not see it as demanding and limiting his "freedom". My scorp also had a sag merc. Sag merc people are travelers, either by foot, in the mind, or both. Road trips, camping trips, hiking -- I hope you enjoy those things. My scorp definitely loved nature and finding little "hole in the walls" or go "treasure hunting" for spots. Especially if it's a cool spot that nobody frequents and nobody knows about. However, my scorp had a problem being a bit more structured with his goals and his projects. He might sometimes be overly "optimistic" and take on a little too much on his plate and therefore might risk burning himself out. Not sure if that's a sag in merc trait. I would really like if your chart touched his moon more as he IS a scorpio and that is an emotional water sign, even if we don't know his birth time, it seems like there's a good chance he might be a pisces moon...not sure, but dial his time back and forth to see where and how far the moon would go. Also would like to see his saturn touch your planets too...as that would be him feeling like he can give your life some structure and offer guidance/stay with you for a purpose. I'm not saying this is not indicative that he won't say, it would be nice to have his saturn on some of your personal planets. IP: Logged |
downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 1379
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posted June 19, 2017 05:57 PM
Thank you so much for your analysis Starry~*! quote:
Originally posted by Starry~*:
...With your sun merc on his mars, I think you guys will align pretty well when it comes to ego and getting things the way you guys like to. The only thing I would be a bit wary about is his venus/uranus conjunction (although in scorpio) squaring your sun/merc. I think your sun/merc (and ultimately your venus in early leo) might make you more a chatty and mentally stimulated Leo...but we all know Leo's demand loyalty. I wonder if his venus/uranus can appreciate that and hopefully not see it as demanding and limiting his "freedom".
THIS. This is something I was worrying/wondering about. He reminds me a lot of a close guy friend who is a Sag with Scorpio rising. The Sag is 48 and has never been married - he is in and out of long term relationships (and has had some relationships on the side), but hasn't sealed the deal with anyone. The guy I'm dating seems like a catch (so far) but he is turning 40 and has never been married. I think he enjoys his freedom. quote:
My scorp also had a sag merc. Sag merc people are travelers, either by foot, in the mind, or both. Road trips, camping trips, hiking -- I hope you enjoy those things.
That's what actually attracted us to one another - we both talked about how much we like to travel, hike and go to concerts and comedy shows! We like doing the same things, for sure! quote:
I would really like if your chart touched his moon more as he IS a scorpio and that is an emotional water sign, even if we don't know his birth time, it seems like there's a good chance he might be a pisces moon...
He's very likely a Pisces Moon. The most significant relationship I've had in my life thus far was with a Scorpio with Moon in Pisces...That was a doozy!!! It was 10 years ago and, as recent as last year, he stalks me/writes me on social media even though I want him to get lost. He writes something to me at least once a year. It's insane. BUT - with that guy his Venus is conjunct my Pluto and we have Mars opposite Mars (his is in Sagittarius) - heavy stuff. There is a two day (and 3 year) difference in their birthdays also. They are both pretty rough, physically. I think this is due to their Mars in fire. We kissed at the end of our date and I still have a bruised lip... So, I actually don't know our status. I don't have a problem not knowing either. We have been talking since the date, like normal. We liked each other, felt comfortable, had laughs and an intense kiss but we only made tentative plans for this coming weekend. Who knows???
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downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 1379
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posted June 21, 2017 01:16 PM
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mir
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posted June 21, 2017 01:55 PM
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He's very likely a Pisces Moon. The most significant relationship I've had in my life thus far was with a Scorpio with Moon in Pisces...That was a doozy!!! It was 10 years ago and, as recent as last year, he stalks me/writes me on social media even though I want him to get lost. He writes something to me at least once a year. It's insane. BUT - with that guy his Venus is conjunct my Pluto and we have Mars opposite Mars (his is in Sagittarius) - heavy stuff. There is a two day (and 3 year) difference in their birthdays also. They are both pretty rough, physically. I think this is due to their Mars in fire. We kissed at the end of our date and I still have a bruised lip...
LOol... Ok, so that's typically Scorp-Sun with Pisces-Moon I guess  After years he still thinks about me every day while having a girlfriend for so many years now.. years ago I was very emotionally upfront by telling him "NO contact as long as you're given!!".. but lately I simply can't resist the connection anymore, not that I am "crazy about him".. not at all! But I guess I start to appreciate this mental loyalty of years by now lol, ofcourse in contrast and as a result of all the meaningless dating experiences I went through over the years.. we've mars-mars conjunct exact, my moon conj his Sun (and that's a huge square config as I'm having a Mars-Moon square natally while him so a Sun-Moon square) OOw.. I'm born on the 31st of july btw!  IP: Logged |
downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 1379
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posted June 21, 2017 11:38 PM
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Originally posted by mir:
LOol...Ok, so that's typically Scorp-Sun with Pisces-Moon I guess After years he still thinks about me every day while having a girlfriend for so many years now.. years ago I was very emotionally upfront by telling him "NO contact as long as you're given!!".. but lately I simply can't resist the connection anymore, not that I am "crazy about him".. not at all! But I guess I start to appreciate this mental loyalty of years by now lol, ofcourse in contrast and as a result of all the meaningless dating experiences I went through over the years.. we've mars-mars conjunct exact, my moon conj his Sun (and that's a huge square config as I'm having a Mars-Moon square natally while him so a Sun-Moon square) OOw.. I'm born on the 31st of july btw!
Mir - That is SOOOO strange and interesting! Even more so that we are born a day apart! I wouldn't even consider my ex-Scorpio though - he was verbally and mentally abusive, not a nice man to me at all. In fact, even his harassment can be considered abuse. I guess his Venus conjunct my Pluto, and my Moon now that I review the synastry, is a powerful thing. This new romance is over and done with. You know the saying "The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference..."? That's kinda what this was like - I didn't have a strong feeling either way so... Plus, I didn't get enough attention. I know, very Leo thing to say, but that's how it is! What I mean: After the first date, I didn't know what to think or how I felt and he didn't do anything to sway me in either direction. Next time, next time...
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mir
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posted June 22, 2017 02:37 AM
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This new romance is over and done with. You know the saying "The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference..."? That's kinda what this was like - I didn't have a strong feeling either way so... Plus, I didn't get enough attention. I know, very Leo thing to say, but that's how it is! What I mean: After the first date, I didn't know what to think or how I felt and he didn't do anything to sway me in either direction.
Ooww it's already over! But I totally get that... indifference and not doing anything to etc. That would mean done in an instant for me too, so telling at the initial stage. And they aren't great in giving that direction too those scorp/pisces types! That was also the biggest turn off with this scorp of mine. Not even a day apart, my Sun at 7'25 Leo and even my Venus at 29'53 Cancer ;D Next time.. ! IP: Logged |
downtomars
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posted June 26, 2017 01:02 AM
Now I am starting to doubt myself...I don't know how I feel. :-( IP: Logged |
Starry~*
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posted June 27, 2017 03:05 PM
Generally speaking...scorpios are a hit or miss. I've known very good scorpio men (who are all taken or married by now) and I also know single ones. I'm dealing with one now. They all have one thing in common: Everyone of them needs their time alone. Not sure if your Leo self can keep yourself occupied. It's the best way to deal with scorpios. Also, you have to trust them enough to let them go rescind into their little world for a bit while you go occupy yourself with other things. Some are slimeballs, some are trustworthy. Let's hope you picked one that values trust. From my years of dealing with a scorpio you just gotta learn how to work around them. Key is to keep your life going and occupy yourself with your interests and passions. They all seem to appreciate women who knows how to have a life outside the relationship, especially when things get too heavy for them. Remember that you are a woman of value and he will respect that about you. Also, don't second guess yourself. It's ok to not know everything -- which is why time will help things unfold. Have some patience and see where it goes. If he gives you the silent treatment, dust your shoulders off and continue your life. These boys need to know and understand that the universe doesn't revolve around them. IP: Logged |
downtomars
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posted June 27, 2017 06:13 PM
Thank you and you are right Starry~*, I need to move on. I was getting attached without even knowing if I was romantically attracted or not. The date had some odd elements that I was willing to ignore, but shouldn't have. It could be a whole story - I have to decide whether or not I'm going to squeal on another Scorpio in my "Know Two Are Alike" thread. Looking back, nah, we just weren't a match. It happens. I need to get my Teflon suit out again because I am throwing myself back into the dating scene in FULL FORCE! More dates to come! In fact I have another one coming up on Saturday that I started a new thread on. If you wouldn't mind assisting me with that one, please? IP: Logged |
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