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Topic: Why do I still think of this person when we only dated briefly?
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manderin
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posted September 26, 2018 01:23 AM
  
We only went on a few dates so I don't understand why I still think about him. I even dream about him and I never dream about people.Composite
Synastry. He is the red planets
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StoneMoon
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posted September 26, 2018 08:11 AM
I immediately thought of Neptune. The Libra Neptune square Cancer Sun (orbs?). And in Composite, Neptune is aspecting the Stellium.Dreaming of someone is often Neptune. and then pluto to the stellium... there are your continued thoughts! IP: Logged |
manderin
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posted September 26, 2018 08:39 AM
But everyone's neptune has the same aspect to my cancer stellium, right? I don't think there's a person alive in my generation has neptune elsewhere. But I never understood neptune anyway.IP: Logged |
synonymphony
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posted September 26, 2018 10:27 AM
his mars conjuncts your ascendant, so you experience his presence aggressively (regardless of whether or not the nature of your interactions is aggressive). (I hope that makes sense?)also, his mercury and venus conjunct your sun, and more widely, your cancer stellium. so, more specifically, he activates your identity (sun) & your love nature (venus). it feels good to think (mercury) about him, and then jupiter takes all of those thoughts and feelings, adds some more joy, and then expands all of that. plus, it looks like your mercury is retrograde? that can add a cyclical nature to your thoughts in general, and since it feels good to think about him, you're extra prone to let him keep running through your mind, which makes it difficult for feelings to fade, since they keep getting reactivated. IP: Logged |
manderin
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posted September 26, 2018 10:39 AM
That's interesting. I always read that mars conj Asc means that the mars person is crazy physically attracted to the asc person, but I felt like I was the one more attracted to him when we were dating. In fact the reason I broke up with him was because I often felt like he was more interested in being SEEN WITH me rather than interested in me.IP: Logged |
synonymphony
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posted September 26, 2018 11:08 AM
personally, I've always experienced angles *primarily* as energy receivers. that's not to say the planet person feels nothing, just, I think it's closer to 70-30, impact-wise. my ex had his mars on my ascendant, and he did exhibit some of the wanting-to-be-seen-with-me behavior that you mentioned. for me, I could always tell when he was around, like, I could feel it physically. which acted fortifying when things were good, and supremely irritating when things weren't. IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted September 26, 2018 11:40 AM
May also be the Scorpio moon conjunction.Moon rules feelings, in fixed Scorpio those feelings will be hard to get over. IP: Logged |
manderin
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posted September 26, 2018 11:23 PM
Nine: He seems to have gotten over me just fine though. And I only went on 3 dates with the guy so I wouldn't even say I was ever heartbroken- but maybe you're right that I'm not "over" him because I do think of him more than makes sense.
Synony: Yeah I think you're right about this because this is the second time I've known someone with mars on my asc and both times I keenly felt I was the one that was more attracted. So all those videos and such online that claim it's the other way around I think are wrong.
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sassaqua
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posted September 27, 2018 01:27 AM
Depends on how old you are. Is he player?This composite is super nice. Synastry is a bit tense? His moon is left out in the cold in the synastry, and also, both planets don't really connect into the composite either. If his Moon is not connected anywhere he's got nothing emotional to connect with into the relationship.
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manderin
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posted September 27, 2018 11:23 AM
Player? Maybe. Wouldn't surprise me since he seemed to be more interested in showing me off in public. Sometimes he'd ask me to text him certain things about how great a time we had or whatever, which I thought was weird unless perhaps he was trying to show those texts to someone else. But I dunno. I called it off after three dates and that didn't seem to bother him in the slightest even though he introduced me as the girl he was seeing to several people in his life after only 2 dates.Maybe the nice composite means we'd be good together, but it doesn't matter if he's not that interested. He was married once and even though I don't know her very well I know her well enough to know that she's religious and wouldn't have given up on the marriage if she didn't feel she had to so... That may be a sign he did somethings to blow the marriage up. It's probably better to have a bad composite with someone who cares about the relationship than a good composite with someone who doesn't. IP: Logged |
synonymphony
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posted September 27, 2018 12:25 PM
in my experience, relationships kind of age into the composite, if that makes sense. like, the dynamics aren't always totally present up front. you can see glimpses of "what might be," but in order for the composite to accurately describe a relationship, the relationship needs time to solidify into a relationship (this applies with composite of friendships/coworkers/bosses etc. as well). (with the exception of timing, of course. I think composite placements, especially angles & nodes, can definitely point to timing.)one last thing-- it looks like your moon falls into his 6th house. I've found that the biggest (non-dangerous) red flag for romantic relationships are one person's luminaries falling into the other person's 6th house. one person usually ends up getting taken for granted in some capacity. IP: Logged |
manderin
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posted September 30, 2018 06:03 AM
I dunno. At this point I'm starting to think that astrology doesn't matter in today's world when it comes to relationship.It's not that I don't think astrological aspects have an affect. I know they do because I've seen it, BUT ... I know couples who had ideal synastry and composites and even vedic matching! Despite all of those systems giving the relationship a thumbs up, the relationship still fell apart. I know couples who had less than savory synastry and composites and even though they weren't very compatible they still stayed together and remain relatively happy. The only real common thread was that in the relationships that worked out BOTH people in it valued being committed in the relationship. The relationships that didn't make it had at least one person who didn't value the commitment. That is all. The assumption we often make is thinking that if we have great astrological matching with someone, that person will automatically value the relationship, but that is not the case at all. We often see people push away those who they are very compatible with and chase after someone they are not at all compatible with. So they are willing to put the energy into the person they are not compatible with and not willing to do that with the one they are compatible with. Period. If the other person is equally willing to put energy into it then that is ultimately all that's needed to make that relationship succeed. Likewise someone can chase after a person they are VERY compatible with, but if the other person would rather put energy into another relationship that is less healthy for them or whatever- then that's the end of your "compatible" relationship no matter what the astrology says. Conclusion: Astrology can help check for levels of compatibility between two people, but that's ALL it does. It does not really help determine the liklihood of success in a relationship. Many of us assume that compatibility does indeed help a relationship become successful- but that hasn't been my experience and I've seen too much among other couples to believe it. In the end compatibility only makes the relationship easier, IF both people are willing to put energy into the relationship while they're in it. If they don't, the astrology doesn't help anything. IP: Logged |
manderin
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posted September 30, 2018 06:06 AM
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Melinn
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posted September 30, 2018 07:31 AM
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Originally posted by manderin:
I dunno. At this point I'm starting to think that astrology doesn't matter in today's world when it comes to relationship.It's not that I don't think astrological aspects have an affect. I know they do because I've seen it, BUT ... I know couples who had ideal synastry and composites and even vedic matching! Despite all of those systems giving the relationship a thumbs up, the relationship still fell apart. I know couples who had less than savory synastry and composites and even though they weren't very compatible they still stayed together and remain relatively happy. The only real common thread was that in the relationships that worked out BOTH people in it valued being committed in the relationship. The relationships that didn't make it had at least one person who didn't value the commitment. That is all. The assumption we often make is thinking that if we have great astrological matching with someone, that person will automatically value the relationship, but that is not the case at all. We often see people push away those who they are very compatible with and chase after someone they are not at all compatible with. So they are willing to put the energy into the person they are not compatible with and not willing to do that with the one they are compatible with. Period. If the other person is equally willing to put energy into it then that is ultimately all that's needed to make that relationship succeed. Likewise someone can chase after a person they are VERY compatible with, but if the other person would rather put energy into another relationship that is less healthy for them or whatever- then that's the end of your "compatible" relationship no matter what the astrology says. Conclusion: Astrology can help check for levels of compatibility between two people, but that's ALL it does. It does not really help determine the liklihood of success in a relationship. Many of us assume that compatibility does indeed help a relationship become successful- but that hasn't been my experience and I've seen too much among other couples to believe it. In the end compatibility only makes the relationship easier, IF both people are willing to put energy into the relationship while they're in it. If they don't, the astrology doesn't help anything.
I fully agree with you!
Astrology for me, is only a tool. A tool to understand a persons character make up. Psychology etc. What potentials the person has. Relationship astrology is, for me to look what energies is there, and what potential they have, also "themes" maybe, not always. The outcome, one can not know beforehand imo. Its all about energies. They do not command over us nor control or steer us. We have free will and quite often, the other person has his own will, he will maybe feel the attraction of that mars-venus conjunction etc, but he does not have to act on it. He does not have to feel its fated and wanna be in a relationship. I mean, its not mid reading. You can't look into a persons soul or thoughts with the help of astrology or synastry. I guess it depends on how you define astrology, and how you see it. As a tool? or a religion? (new age) I often look at synastry etc to understand the energies "oh his moon is on my blablabla, thats why I felt this and that".. period. This info can not help me more then that, I believe.. With that said, I often will try just that anyway! Like, I wanna now post a synastry chart with my friend I have feelings for, to ask if someone can see something I missed etc. To understand this and that etc. So yeah I feel like a hypocrite writing the above :/ ... IP: Logged |
manderin
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posted September 30, 2018 01:59 PM
"So yeah I feel like a hypocrite writing the above :/ ..."No, I don't see any hypocrisy. What you say is valid. I think horoscope matching made more sense in older generations when people were pressured to be together. Like families would arrange the match and the girl and guy had to be married by a certain point in their lives so it made sense to make sure they were highly compatible since they were going to be in a marriage with someone soon ANYWAY so might as well pick someone compatible. It made sense back then because if you put two compatible people together in a house and don't really give them much option to leave, they often end up having a very good partnership even if at first they don't see any strong liking to one another. As they begin to live together the relationship tends to blossom. But in today's world people choose whether they want to be married at 20, 35 or 55 they choose who they want no matter how little that person has in common with them or their family, they choose whether they even want to be even be married at all; they choose whether to even spend a lousy 15 minutes having a coffee with someone. so compatibility doesn't matter anymore. It's all about whether you and the other person are equally willing to give it a shot. But as you said astrology can be interesting as a side tool it's just that I see many people on here saying like "Oh this is a great relationship! This is the one" or "this is a bad one. Don't bother." and looking at my friends who are married and my own life that's just not how it works. IP: Logged |
Lalafortunaea
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posted September 30, 2018 02:56 PM
Neptune Conjunct Uranus indicates psychic connection, especially shared dreams and even awareness of the other's thoughts whilst awakeIP: Logged |
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