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Skye99
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posted January 17, 2019 12:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Skye99     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello all,

Feel free to ask any questions ! He is the outer in the synastry.

Composite:

Synastry:

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Hikaru29
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posted January 17, 2019 09:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My advice is no.

From astrological POV:
Composite Uranus square Moon, opposite Venus, conjunct Mars shows an unstable emotional connection.

It can still last if both can handle the erratic energies BUT... composite Sun in 12H can be a difficult position.

From cafe astrology:
"Many relationships with this position are unequal in power in some manner, where one person does more sacrificing to be with the other, where there is a significant age difference, where there is a secret affair, for example. This can take its toll over the long term. Dealing with imbalances is an inescapable part of your relationship, and it’s best to use strategies to do so without inflicting or absorbing guilt."


Also in reality:
He got you pregnant and then fled. Not only that, he ran off with another woman. 🤨 C'mon...

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Skye99
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posted January 17, 2019 10:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Skye99     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
My advice is no.

From astrological POV:
Composite Uranus square Moon, opposite Venus, conjunct Mars shows an unstable emotional connection.

It can still last if both can handle the erratic energies BUT... composite Sun in 12H can be a difficult position.

From cafe astrology:
"Many relationships with this position are unequal in power in some manner, where one person does more sacrificing to be with the other, where there is a significant age difference, where there is a secret affair, for example. This can take its toll over the long term. Dealing with imbalances is an inescapable part of your relationship, and it’s best to use strategies to do so without inflicting or absorbing guilt."


Also in reality:
He got you pregnant and then fled. Not only that, he ran off with another woman. 🤨 C'mon...



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Hikaru29
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posted January 17, 2019 12:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Skye99:
Thanks for your response. The reality is a harsh one! He ran off a week ago. We were never officially together, unfortunately. I just found it strange that he said he wanted to be a father and work this out and then he left.

I have very little respect for men like this.
So what do you plan to do?

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athenaia
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posted January 17, 2019 12:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for athenaia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Are you the double Cancer and he the Leo/Sagittarius? Or is it the other way around?

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Skye99
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posted January 17, 2019 12:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Skye99     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by athenaia:
Are you the double Cancer and he the Leo/Sagittarius? Or is it the other way around?

Correct. I am the double Cancer. He’s technically a Virgo (2 degrees I think)

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Skye99
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posted January 17, 2019 12:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Skye99     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I have very little respect for men like this.
So what do you plan to do?


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athenaia
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posted January 17, 2019 04:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for athenaia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you, is his birth time correct? That way I can use houses/angles in interpretation later on if that's the case

Let's see.. well his Sun is on your ascendant, so there's an immediate adoration and admiration you experience with him. His masculinity is something you feel is perfection. It makes sense that you'd like to carry his child, especially as his Moon falls into your 4th house, so you can probably see amazing paternal qualities in him that he himself may not be aware of just yet.

Your Mars is also trine his Venus, so in a lot of ways it seems like you embody the male principle in this relationship - maybe you're the one that chases him, you're the one that pampers him? That or he kind of melts in your presence and you take on a dominant role in some way that he appreciates.

Plus his Venus is near your Sun/Moon conjunction, so when he gives you affection, it really hits the sweet spot for you.

His Chiron on your ASC is something that worries me a bit. He is causing you a bit of grief already as it is - a lack of commitment before the baby, a lack of commitment while you're pregnant. It's an out of sign conjunction at that.

Not to mention his Sun/Mercury/Chiron falls into your 12th house, so your perception of him may never really be accurate. He'll always be mysterious and his intentions will elude you in some ways.

His Sun and Saturn form a t-square with your Jupiter. His maleness, his sense of responsibility, bogs down your happy-go-luckiness in life, he's a bit of a wet blanket to your ambitions and luck.

Your Venus is on his SN, so there's definitely a heavy, karmicness here. His NN is in your 4th house which seems apt, he's destined to be the father of your (presumably, first) child.

His Pluto on your IC, he's shaken up your world. He's changing the scope of what you consider home. He's affected your nest in a profound, life changing way.

The composite is okay. If his birthtime is correct, the stellium in the 12th house is worrying, but could also reflect his drug addiction. It could reflect that he'll hide you from his friends and family during the pregnancy. Maybe you both feel a sense of shame being associated with each other during all of this.

But the Sun is conjunct the Jupiter.. so I think that you'll both co-parent successfully in the future. If you have a boy, he'll be a proud father (Sun being in its home in Leo and representing the male in the dynamic, plus Jupiter is traditionally associated with male fertility).

Pluto on the IC of the composite says it all, but again not sure if he's birthtime is accurate.

Mars is conjunct Uranus (which is conjunct Neptune) so I think on some level he's always going to be in-and-out of yours and the childs life.

NN/Saturn in the composite, a very heavy burden you both share being associated with each other for the rest of your lives.

Mars opp. Venus, you guys may find it difficult to get along on an interpersonal level in the long haul. You, Cancer + Venus, being the mother, he Mars in Cap, being the father.

Also, his own Mars forms a t-square with that Mars/Venus opposition. He will probably be a control freak in some passive aggressive way regarding the child.

I'm sorry for what you're going through. Personally I think you'll be a great mom, it kinda screams so in your chart. I see you happily and enthusiastically attending sports games, easily making friends with other parents, creating a wonderful social life for the child in spite of the lack of nuclear family at first. You'll be attentive to all of the details that's required of 2+ people, will cultivate the child's psychological/emotional life in a meaningful way, seems like you'll make sure the child is well rounded in their interests and not just good at one particular thing.

Really just not a fan of the synastry or the composite, this isn't The One for you. He doesn't meaningfully affect your Sun/Moon, not your Venus, nor your nodes. Seems like he just came into your life like a gorgeous, charming movie star and you were totally star struck (his aspects on your ASC/IC). I can also see why he would be into you, but would not want to commit, as you also don't affect his chart in a very meaningful way besides some hard aspects.

Plus he's so young.. he just wasn't ready for this phase of his life (parenthood) but you were, so I can see some resentment always being here for him (the harsh Mars aspects in the synastry + composite)

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Skye99
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posted January 17, 2019 05:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Skye99     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote


Thank you so much for your response

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Skye99
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posted January 19, 2019 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Skye99     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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