posted October 15, 2002 02:42 PM              

Well at first he seemed so more into a relationship...now he seems standoffish. He spoke of a gal who was peeved that he never called and said that the phone worked both ways. That gave me the okay to call him in my opinion. So I have and I get this vibe that he's not all gung ho, like he's changed his mind about friendhsip or a more intimate relationship. We knew each other 6 years ago (he claims I was his favorite bartender, we were both in college at the time) and became reaquainted through my niece (he was her English teacher). Small world. I had a huge crush on him but he always came in with his girlfriend. We both are into sports, literature, books, opera, theater--in that order. I know it sounds kooky, sports and opera? Go figure. I know his date of birth 10-19-1970 in Michigan but not the time and don't feel comfortable as yet to ask him.

I did mention to him that every time I find a guy who like sports as much as me that they eventually want something more i.e. an intimate relationship and when I finally succumb they no longer want to get together/hang out and watch or even discuss sports or do anything else together (sex included). It's like they got what they wanted and presto there out of there.

posted October 15, 2002 03:31 PM              

Choose, don't expect him to make the first move either....

I don't think it is that he is not interested, I think he just doesn't know what to say, yet... When he gets to know you "for you" he will open up a little at a time.

The "favorite batender" thing, that
is flirting,
So that leads me to believe he is interested! My Libra(huband 7 years) still flirts with me

Don't push the Astrology unless you know for sure that he is open minded, my Libra called it crystal gazing ---.
He will listen to some of it but he firmly believes that he should not KNOW.

What was his reaction to your statement about the other guys? "after they get what they want"

posted October 17, 2002 09:45 AM              

I am Aquarius and my hubby is Libra...

posted October 19, 2002 01:56 PM              

About a month ago he told about a woman that he was interested in but never called but sent a card to her to tell her it wasn't her it was him. Too many times he's said to me that he is not ready and doesn't have time for a full blown relationship.

Is this man scared or what? We started this "relationship" as friends but the way he spoke to me it was like he was breaking up with me-his tone of voice, no questions to me about what was going on in my life the last couple days, etc.

posted January 05, 2004 02:35 PM              

(love the Libra men!)

posted January 05, 2004 09:05 PM              

I mean that's the unevolved libra. The higher libra cares about social injustice, children, pets, the right kind of relationship and is very communicative.

I have known Libra brothers, where one is the unevolved type, married to a woman for her money who is beautiful, and social and waits on him hand and foot while he ogles other women in front of her. And the other is sweet and caring and fights for the underdog at work. He is involved with a co-worker and they have been together 10 years. He never looks at anyone else.

So Libras are not all the same, but they do have a Hearth thing I agree, the one woman with the magic fingers, for cooking and massage will get the man. So if the other woman was there with the right touch, say a Cancer, then you are out. It's not that big of a deal unless you put yourself out. Now you know not to put yourself out for anyone else emotionally just because they show some emotion because it could be fake.

Emotions in men are fine but if a man starts to whine about his life early on in the relationship then when does it ever stop? Whining and saying poor me is not an emotion. Beware of that. Beware of super protective men, and men who have very little money of their own.

Aries suns are very sweet and I agree walked on a lot. It's my theory that we will all end up with Aries Suns in the end and have to pay penance. I know I will end up with an Aries or Leo husband one day, and then I will have to apologize.

You sound like a lovely person I hope that you find someone evolved soon.

posted January 05, 2004 11:59 PM              

This guy may be jet-setting right now... Libra's go through that phase now and again, usually when it's no longer time to weigh out what decision to make. When it's time for action, it's jet-set time.

Not sure you will be able to keep up, unless he has a lot of water or earth to make him sentimental, and in that case it would seem strange he could be so "cool" towards you.

As a Libra girl, one of the most annoying things to me (and I'm not saying it's him, but could be something to consider), is when I've moved on and someone is like calling and calling and wanting to know why and what did they do wrong. I don't know why, it's just, maybe it's like a "cruel to be kind" thing. I don't like to get into after-the-fact mushy conversations which will get no one anywhere emotionally.

It may seem a bit cowardly, but it's likely due to having already invested so much time and emotion in coming to the decision.

As an air sign we are able to conceptualize a situation, because so much mental weighing goes into everything. So he may not even be thinking of your feelings, not because he doesn't care about you (he probably really wants the very best for you), but because he has an intellectual vision of the dynamics at play. He may have concluded that no matter what, it won't work out.

Like I said, if all this is true, then he's probably in jet-set phase right now. Did he ever give the impression that he's looking to settle down with one person right now?

with love & support,

.gloria

posted January 07, 2004 11:07 AM              

But yeah, along the lines of what Quinnie was saying, you know about how each sign is an evolution from the sign before. Aries is the original primal urge. They need more stability, so comes Taurus. Aries and Taurus are still too miopic and selfish, so you get Gemini who begins to express and reach out.

Once you've gathered these 3 together, you need to bring in more emotion and mothering, Cancer. Etc...

In mythology, and in early astrology, there was no Libra. It when from Virgo to Scorpio. No wonder rape was rampade and went unpunished. You went from madonna to wh**e . No wonder marriage was so highly marketed.

Then came Libra, the go-between for the Virgin and the lusty Scorpion. Libra is the FIRST sign in the evolution which deals with partnerships! And as someone else said, it is also the ONLY sign represented by an object as opposed to a human or animal.

This would account for Libra's objectivity, very much needed in order to fairly weigh things out. The scales.

When I learned about this many many years ago, I would always be drawn to Scorpio's to understand "where they were at". No matter how much a Libra will want to emulate a Scorpio, even if they have a lot of that in their chart, they will ALWAYS fall short. No one occupies the house of Scorpio except Scorpio!! The key to understanding them is "calm waters run deep".

.gloria

posted January 07, 2004 08:55 PM              

And believe it or not, there IS a huge amount of creativity in the hard sciences. It takes great imagination to come up with some hypothesis, and a great deal of imagination to invent the impossible. I gravitate towards scientists who have drawn upon the knowledge of other interpersonal arts. It helps them trust their intuition better.

I think that would be the history of all the "great ones".

Don't know if you believe in sacred geometry, and such...

.gloria