posted December 16, 2002 05:52 PM              

Anyway you look at it, it certainly makes for a great lover, if not a great longterm partner in life. Unfortunately the motivation might not always be above board.

posted December 17, 2002 04:06 PM              

Other nice links : http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/Aspecti%20Links.html
http://www.astrology-numerology.com/aspects-venus.html

Hope it helps !

posted December 17, 2002 04:31 PM              

The square to Venus from Pluto will have a deep and powerful effect on your personal relationships. You will find that any benefits you gain from a relationship will be accompanied by some
kind of suffering, and that what you want is often not what you need, thus ensuring periodic crises and painful breaks in your emotional life.

You will have a deep need to be the one in control in your relationships, to be the one who calls the shots,and if you attract someone of like mind your relationship could become a constant power battle until one of you decides to call it a day, preferably yourself. If, on the other hand, you attract someone of a more passive disposition who is prepared to put up with your tendency to dominate and get your own way, you could soon become bored and start to look for someone with a little more "fight". Either way, you will probably find yourself attracted to people who would be considered taboo,or "not the right sort" according to the values of your culture and upbringing.

Many of your problems arise from the fact that, not really knowing what it is that you want from a relationship, you put out a subtle combination of possessiveness and rejection. You make it clear that you expect certain standards of behaviour from the other person, and that even the suspicion of unfaithfulness will not go unpunished,yet at the same time giving out the unmistakable message that you do not really need them and could get on very well without them. This could provoke the very behaviour that you are so openly against, or result in extremely possessive behaviour from the other person.

You will need to be honest with yourself and understand what it is that you are looking for in a relationship.
A nice, stable, secure partnership in which each takes the other for granted is certainly not for you.

posted December 17, 2002 05:12 PM              

And, yes, since I learned to compromise (once in a year or so ), things are a lot better. No, smoother is the better word.

I must say this interpretation is really accurate.

posted December 19, 2002 12:05 PM              

http://lovestarz.com/track.html

I was attempting to explain how we can use astrology to help us figure out potential lovers, or mack more effectively, yet my take is, well, wack! Yet if you can score the Donna Cunningham articles I mention, you will learn a lot more. Check the Mountain Astrologer website too, maybe they were cool enough to post these articles in their freebies, yet I doubt it. There is info out there, yet generally, Venus-Pluto squares or oppositions, especially if they are in mutual reception (yours square hers and hers square yours), it is way more potent, like a triple whammy. Just look at some of the couples in the page I did, and you'll get the idea. Yet if you are the type that enjoys that touch of craziness in your relationships, then anytime you see a Venus-Outer Planet contact, grab the girl and have some crazy-ass roller-coaster-intensity fun...yet never expect for it to be a nice, sweet, smooth love affair, since you will likely get the total opposite. I have seen it time and again, and so has Donna C., her articles bear out this result.

posted December 20, 2002 08:13 AM              

twas earlier this year that i first read about synastry. and so was in earnest. and stumbled upon your site. was searching then for descriptions about aspects between venus and pluto and when i found yours, well, all i can say is that tis by far the most fascinating and lyrical i've found... (err...i haven't found many ... kidding!)

"From the dark roots of the soil a plant eventually blossoms. The male hunts in the dark to provide security for the woman he loves. The more he does, the more he transforms the base qualities within himself, until ultimately he becomes the Angel of Light for her to follow. In the process, she gives him warmth, enriching herself through his mysterious quest for understanding. When he sees her light at the end of the tunnel, he begins to touch the fruits of goodness that had always seemed beyond his reach as both begin to share a tremendous depth of feeling."

only it's the other way around with me because tis my pluto, mars and uranus all in conjunction with each other in virgo trining his venus. and yes, i have that aloofness that you talk about between venus and uranus.
and yet, there is that obsessiveness that donna talks about in a venus-pluto trine. i call this the 'pull'.

his pluto squares my venus, on the other hand. tough. very. i call this the 'push'.

was thinking yesterday why can't i ever have a "nice, sweet, smooth love affair"? will i ever? could only sigh... then shake my head. and smile.

and yes, our suns are inconjunct. mine sag. his taurus, where my descendant falls and where my north node conjuncts his venus.

not lighthearted, this.

posted December 20, 2002 08:14 AM              

my closest friend ( 20 years) is your female counterpart, by the way.

thanks a lot, carlo.

posted December 20, 2002 01:14 PM              

Who is my female counterpart that you have been friends with? someone here? And taj, have you ever gone with a Gemini guy? if so, would you care to make a poem about it? have you seen Linda Goodman's poem on Sag girl/Gemini guy? let me know if you would like to write one, I would put it here:

http://lovestarz.com/connect.html

this page is not yet available for the world to see, just the knowflakes. Please let me know if you would do a poem, there is room! Lovestarz.com needs you

posted December 21, 2002 03:20 AM              

i'll give the poem a try...the virgo way...as i haven't known a gemini. perhaps it'll take a few days. thanks.