posted May 10, 2003 01:29 PM              

Do you believe that a soul can "get used to" being a particular gender, and so take some time to adjust to being another?

I bring this up b/c I'm 23 and just now feel like I'm getting marginally used to being a female - not just speaking of societal expectations for behavior, attitude, etc., but also purely practical matters of dimension and "feel".
I'm not saying that I "feel like I should be a guy" anymore than someone who's taken to driving a new type of car would say that they "feel like they should be in Car Y" when they've switched to car X, but there is still a matter of getting used to the new type of handling.

posted May 10, 2003 03:29 PM              

PS, sent your reading to you, hope its helpful.

posted May 10, 2003 06:26 PM              

I think you're right. I'm just not quite accustomed yet to this, but can't help wonder how much time is left. Since a child, I've let myself be absorbed by the sights and smells - the experiences - surrounding me. I feel so young in myriad ways, but something says that I won't see what I'm seeing now again in quite the same way - it must be drunk now, or not tasted.
It seems like it's all going, and there's still so much to see; there's still so much to do.
I know that what must get done will get done, but, wow - this life's fast fleeting.

Thank you for the transit reading; it is quite helpful. I hadn't realized Saturn & Jupiter were currently that busy in my chart.
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posted May 11, 2003 06:46 PM              

Clairvoyants have told me I have come from many male lifetimes, as well as a series of nuns. The lifetimes I remember are all male, in fact. And the nuns... well... although female they are hardly feminine, living in a house of a male god, the equivalant of a monastery.

So yep, I definitely agree with you that souls take awhile to get used to a gender if they're strongly identified with the other.

posted May 12, 2003 11:28 AM              

I've been told on more than one occassion that I lack that "girly" feel.

posted May 12, 2003 12:04 PM              

How is it considered a tomboy? I wear make-up (usually), skirts, etc., etc.

I just don't do that eye-lash batting and cooing thing. Also, the color pink does not exist in my wardrobe! I won't even buy something if it has that color..

However, I think that pink phobia is just a personal problem with myself. As it was sort of forced upon me when I was a child... though, I fought against it!

posted May 12, 2003 03:17 PM            

LOL, that's too funny!

Prox,

I can see where you are coming from, but I think it is alot like what Lanny said. As we get older we get more in touch with our bodies and things flow so much easier. It is much harder to figure out oneself while still in school, even in college. There is something about an environment where we are surrounded by our peers in a little microcosm of the universe. Then, things change. We are out in the big world and we become ourselves and we get used to how our bodies feel.

For me, I have always loved being female, but I can be quite masculine in my likes and dislikes. (Could be the Aries moon / Sag Sun combo). I love sports, but I also always and kind of what 1Scorp calls a "Fru fru" LOL. I LOVE doing my hair and taking bubble baths, wearing skirts and heels (when appropriate) but at the same time I love wearing jeans and shorts. But, on the whole I am very comfortable being a woman and being somewhat "girly". Even when I have to work with cattle or horses, I still have my makeup on and my hair is usually manicured. LOL

YEP! Lanny, I believe you're the one that said us Saggies would go for the quickie as long as it didn't mess up our hair....okay, you win!!

Even today, I had to meet with some dairymen out in Eastern MD at a large dairy facility. I still had on makeup and my belt matches by shoes, the jewelry is coordinated and my hair was down. My Scorpio coworker used to always tease me about that. She would throw on a pair of jeans, put her hair in a pony tail and get going.

posted May 12, 2003 04:41 PM              

Often times I find that those type of girls are the ones usually hanging out with all the guys and we usually consider to be our close friend. As opposed to the "girly-girls," who's dramatics tend to keep them on a "different level" then dudes and makes us less motivated to "be ourselves" around them.

Plus, I'd say 8 out of the last 10 women I've been with have been tomboys, nothing wrong with it at all. They all dress up sexy when it's time too, but are chill as f**k the rest of the time.

posted May 17, 2003 02:05 AM              

why, i discovered brow-plucking just about two years ago!... (uh, it just didn't impinge on my consciousness that women needed to do that.)

likewise discovered the benefits of wearing lipstick on and off for a year now...yep, ordinarily can't be bothered... make-up's a pain...would just as soon offer my face to the sun, wind and rain.

i believe transiting pluto in sag is a lot responsible for the change. not to mention saturn's return.

growing up with a 'masculine' sun and moon, i naturally scorned attributes of femininity as i couldn't relate to 'soft' elements. didn't even want the eyes of the males of this world on me as i associated being chased with being female.

i know better now, of course. i think i'm finally getting the hang of being woman that to be one again wouldn't be such a bad idea.