posted July 30, 2003 06:21 PM              

Yep, even took his woman... she turned out to be my "lil Scorp"

It was his own fault... she dated him for a month, all the time he kept bitching about her talking to me... and we all know how Scorps are when you TELL them to do something, they do the opposite, lol...
I let her chase me for a year till "the air cleared" then made my move...

She ended up having her only long-term relationship since high school with me...

posted August 02, 2003 07:15 AM              

To whoever mentioned a hot phsychopathic aries ***** being a turn on, I agree and I'M a fag for god sake!

posted August 02, 2003 10:43 AM              

I agree Aries is sexy but not as much as a hot psychopathic Aqua or Pisces. Emphasis on the psychopathic. I like both those signs but I wouldn't take either home with me. Must be some dynamic I enjoyed there but I can't remember what. Oh all the talking.

Too much talk and the bull is ready to charge.
Aquas can really talk. Pisces talk and emote.

Natasha

posted August 07, 2003 10:31 AM            

I would say communication. Maybe that is because I am a talkative Sag (well, maybe not at open emotionally, but I am learning). Actually, I have been seeing a Leo for quite awhile and I have found that the communication between us is the glue that holds us together.

I was with a stable Virgo, but we NEVER talked about our emotions or what hurt us. He took things too personally, needless to say, we didn't fair well, stable or not.

posted August 07, 2003 10:38 AM              

Pid.. it was an off-color remark...

posted August 07, 2003 11:08 AM            

Actually, I have a wonderful gay guy friend that was my enigma when we first met. I just couldn't guess if he was gay or not. So, I let it go about 3 weeks and would notice that his belt ALWAYS matched his shoes, his hair was ALWAYS impeccable and he took a second job at the Pottery Barn. Finally, he called someone a "fag" and I said " that is a derogatory word and you should use it". His eyes lit up and he says "Honey, I am flaming...didn't you know that girlfriend?"

I laughed and said "You're going to be the best girlfriend I ever had. LOL"

posted August 07, 2003 01:32 PM              

Just yapping doesn't help.
Stability comes from talking about what you don't want to talk about, scary issues like sex and money, or whatever you have issues with.
There was a good article in the paper that said relationships were like companies, it's the silence that wrecks everything. Watch to see what your Cap avoids talking about the most, and think about how to talk about it.

I agree talking about emotions is good, but talking around them isn't. Caps are really good at body language and expect others to pick up their cues. You may have to do some body reading and and ask questions, everyone has their own language.

posted August 07, 2003 02:27 PM              

The answer to that depends on both of you individually. Besides your own intuition, studying your birth chart would be a good way to understand what will consititute your way of a fulfilling relationship.

Best

posted August 07, 2003 08:27 PM              

Pidaua, you said communication and I agree! Damn I miss someone to argue with... But I had a very good friend (a Sag gal) with whom I talked every night for many hours but who never told me of her engagement to some guy I never even heard of. So much for communication!!

Natasha (can't spell your nick off head) you hit the nail when you said Caps give off non-verbal signs, and am totally illiterate in that language, and she's so
ultra-sensitive that of late I don't even dare say anything lest she shuts up even MORE! The silence is not a problem, but it's not an easy silence sometimes. I know something is up, but if I ask am told "nothing is wrong" or "figure it out" LOL...And that just drives up the wall which results in me making some cruel remarks about her nature, and these remarks are in turn used against me.... I lose every other way I turn.

She's tough on the exterior but she is putty when I touch her, amd this is almost traumatic for me, cuz I am usually thrown off guard.

Aphrodite (like your screen name ) I don't have her birth hour, and asking this will trigger off her underdeveloped curiosity, meaning unless I can explain what it is for she won't give it up. And I hate having to explain nothin' for nobody.

posted August 08, 2003 10:10 AM              

And I'm an Aries---try and top this square!

Just joking

posted August 08, 2003 10:29 AM              

I am actually dating a man who has Captivated me

His not talking much is good with me now. This did bother me initially, but not as much as my friends.

At one dinner party, one friend thought he didn't speak English and that was why he didn't talk.

He's actually fluent in 5 languages, English included. LOL.

So, he has the skills to talk . . . just doesn't exercise it too much. He likes reading.

posted August 08, 2003 01:11 PM              

I know it's hard because once you touch someone all your emotional triggers are on, and you can't use your instincts anymore. Maybe it's a good idea to stop touching and start talking at least until she breaks down and tells you what's on her mind. Nonsexual touching is great at opening someone's heart.

I know that I would rather my partner was quiet and just touched me more, lots of women prefer a more silent partner it doesn't mean you have to discuss the relationship's future every day. Let the train leave the station and go slowly you don't have to move it along. I have compromised with my Libra and visualize our relationship as a train chugging along, but I don't need to be aware of every chug and whistle every ten minutes. If I am quiet he will get bugged but a hug speaks volumes.

I once listened to an Aqua talk 8 straight hours about his job, he was a weather man and talked mainly about hail. There is talking and there is communication, they are different and too much communication can destabilize a relationship.
It's not necessary to tell someone all about yourself and everything you are thinking.
That will come later, be patient.

Stan, are you a Gemini?

posted September 03, 2003 03:18 PM              

May I suggest getting to really know one of your male leo friends. Thats how I expereienced the 5-9. Before I really knew him I thought he was a clown but youll learn to see that THERES ALOT MORE TO HIM, a real loving person, wanting to protect us Aries from the harm that we neglect to see.

posted September 03, 2003 10:56 PM              

It doesn't mean you can't love them or go out with them, but when you say that your second friend had a mood disorder, and an anger disorder, and is mildly bipolar... well that's a full deck of special conditions there, and these conditions are going to affect behaviour in a big way, at least some of the time.

Why not Google some of these terms, and learn about it? It really might make you feel better about what happened between you two, once you realize what her reality is like in terms of her disorders.

Because mental illness and how both people deal with it will definitely affect the outcome of any 5-9 vibe.

posted September 03, 2003 10:59 PM              

If you didnt know yet Aries is the baby of the zodiac, so yes we are childish, and being a fire sign doesn't help because it results in almost tantrum like behavior when were upset. But soem of the other behavior I just cant IDENTIFY with at all! It probabaly has to do with her mood disorders. If I was you I would tell her that if she values your friendship (which I know she does) then she needs to not take out her fits on you!! If she cant see that shes not worth your friendship! One of my girlfriends Is a Leo and Im an aries and I really value our friendship shes always looking out for me and ITS NEVER BORING!!