posted August 22, 2003 10:44 AM              

Iam a Sag 11/29/71 born 10:20 pm in the Bronx NY

He is a Cancer 7/03/71 born 5:00 am on Long Island NY ( not sure exactly where on the island.)

This Cancer showed a sudden interest in me a year and a half a ago and things have been moving slowly along the friendship track, which is fine with me because I don't date men I haven't known as a friend first. I am very careful and picky (it must be my Cap venus).
Then suddenly in mid July he became distant, intolerant and mean to me,while still demanding attension and showing posessiveness and jealousy. He recently found out I had a date and joked about wanting to know when and where so he could show up. What????
Is this guy in love with me or planning to kill me? I don't what to end up on the 6:00 news as a corpse.

Is he going thru a crisis ( saturn in cancer)?
or is he surprised that his feelings for me have grown stronger and decided to fight them by being mean?

Iam very confused I thought Cancer were supposed to be nice and loving

Should I stop talking to this guy or wait for him to pull it together?
P.S. We work together but in diffrent depts. Everything between us has been platonic so far though I am hoping for more.

Thanx in advance.

posted August 22, 2003 11:01 AM              

i recommend reading the cancer man-saggitarius woman chapter in linda goodman's Love Signs.

welcome to the website

posted August 22, 2003 12:00 PM              

I will read that.

posted August 22, 2003 12:27 PM              

i know two very good astrologers who do readings for payment. the prices are reasonable and you get a lot for your money. so it really depends on how vested you are about this situation and how far you choose to go.

posted August 22, 2003 04:42 PM              

I AM SAG W/TAU MOON AND CAP VENUS IN 5TH HOUSE.
HE IS A CAN W/ SCOP MOON AND VENUS IN GEMINI IN TH 12TH HOUSE.

posted August 22, 2003 05:21 PM            

But,if you feel he`s mean, the meanness shouldn`t be tolerated. You must love the person he`s being mean to first THEN decide if you want the relationship to work.

Not astrological advice, but but It hurts me to see someone taking meanness from anyone.

Love and lite to you!

posted August 22, 2003 06:59 PM              

Another link is http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/
Being a thrifty Taurus myself I can relate to not wanting to spend big bucks yet, especially if he's mean. Astro.com can give you something to think about. If you are considering a long term friendship with this Cancer than maybe consider a synastry report. Your moons are opposite, that may keep you from understanding each other.

It has to do with you the most, your aspects, check your forecast to see what's going on for you this month.

posted August 23, 2003 11:12 AM              

thank you for your request. i am not doing relationship analyses these days.

natasha has shared a good site to generate charts to look at, www.astro.com. some points to remember are that astrology is both a science and an intuitive healing art. every soul is unique.

good luck and best wishes to you and your friend.

posted August 24, 2003 02:18 AM              

I just want to send you I truly sympathize with you.

I also thought Cancers are supposed to be loving and nurturers. I have been best friends with a Cancer since 6th grade. Even though she lives in another state, we talk almost everyday. She knows everything about me and I know everything about her. We have be through so much together. I guess the male Cancers are different. I don't know. I had one who was a dream and everything I ever wanted in life and in a man. He was devoted, consistent, caring, extremely affetionate, holding my hand everytime we were together, then we had an argument and I thought we made up and then he dumped me a few days later. I don't mean to offend anyone but I will never date a Cancer man again. I had a date with a Cancer man earlier this year and it seemed like we had a good time. I think he wanted to kiss me but I am not sure but it was our second date and I did not feel it was appropriate. I emailed him but he never responded. He was ice cold, like my current ex. Usually I know when a date is going bad but this time I did not have a clue.

I do hope you fair better but I know Sagittarius' bounce back quickly. You guys are too energetic and optimistic to let anyone slow you down.

Good luck,

posted August 25, 2003 09:35 AM              

I needed a sounding board so that i could figure out what to do next.

I even bought a book on creative visualization to help me get a handle on things maybe it will work.

I will look into the astro .com and bobmarks site sthenri. Thanx again.

posted August 31, 2003 02:08 PM              

that's funny. I am also a 71 Sag with a platonic relationship to a 71 Cancer right now. The situation I have sounds similar, but my Cancer is not mean like yours fortunately.

posted September 02, 2003 04:43 PM              

the 71 one thing is funny.

if you have any advice for my 71 situition

please feel free to share.

posted September 10, 2003 02:47 PM              

my Cancer was born on the 6th of July. He has the Moon in Saggitarius, but Ascendant Scorpio. So, there are some things in common. I was born on the 5th of December 71. My Moon is in Cancer. SO, in my case, our Moon complement each other.

Your Cancer, with Venus in Gemini will show affection through communication and will expect people to talk.
Venus in Gemini makes the person be less possesive, but a CANCER/SCORPIO will be very attached to the people he loves and will expect a lot of commitment.

Cancer needs the Saggitarian warmth and optimism to cheer them up. Cancer worry a lot about everything. My tip: be optimistic and talk a lot.

By the way, Venus in Gemini love to flirt, like Saggitarians... So there is a chance that he forgives your "infidelity".

posted October 12, 2003 10:37 AM              

It's also good to keep in mind that this man has a Scorpio Moon and, if the time of birth given is right, a Cancer Rising -
the poor guy's drowning in water, at least as far as his luminaries and Asc. are concerned.
To help you get more of an idea of what you (and he) are dealing with, I brought an excerpt from _Secrets From A Stargazer's Notebook_ that I typed up. The descriptions for the Moon Signs may be a bit tongue-in-cheek, but they're also quite insightful.

posted October 17, 2003 04:18 PM              

Thanks for your help.

Little cat as for professions, I have had a hard time the last three -four years. I have an ok job now but its still a struggle. Where is that famous sag luck I am always reading about?