posted March 11, 2004 01:29 AM              

I've never felt so sure of a "diagnosis" as I do with this, so listen up, I have just the medicine::

Quick glance at just what you wrote and I got a preliminary impression. I looked into it a little further, and it was confirmed 100%.

My first impression was two key words of her experience in this life::

Worry
and
Nervous System

She has got one heck of an obligation in this life. She's got to fight like Hell to win the last of her evolution, her last lifetime. She knows this instinctively, and that's why people view her behavior as "intolerable" to a point.

In a way, it's a good thing she's rebellious. This is tricky because society's first reaction is to subdue it. But it is this very urge in her which will save her. Do you see what I'm saying?

Her frustration is palpable. If I knew her, I would be able to relate to her. She's part of God which exists, and it's a facet which many other girls share with her. Unfortunately, she feels she is all alone in this. If she can relate to the metaphysical she can begin to understand this and it will help her heal herself.

Does she relate to metaphysics? How about psychology? I would think she does because her mind works in the type of tangents it takes to understand both.

What catches her attention ten times out of ten? Help her make a connection from that to something else. Help her see the connections. Help her connect the dots. Explain to her it will be a lifetime of connecting the dots.

Try to tell her there is no wrong way to connect the dots as long as her actions will be approved by someone she trusts and respects. This is MANDATORY. Is it you? Someone she also feels comfortable with.

Then she can stop and ask herself frequently, "what would so-and-so think of this?"

Try to find a way to explain that in life she may connect the dots in ways that seem right at the time, but then will eventually create an image of a monster.

Do you see?

Because her instincts are not wrong in any way. She is perfectly right. It is the world around her not being able to keep up with her. She will gravitate towards people she feels she can be good to and help, people who are receptive to her. So you can imagine what kind of people that will be...

Getting this?

I'll just say this for now. Does she like for you to read to her? There are two books which you can sit with her in a session or sorts, and discuss.

One is called "The Highly Sensitive Person - How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You" by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. This will help everyone understand that sensitive people are constantly being given negative messages, especially in western society. In reality, it is the MOST SENSITIVE ones who are in the right. They are intelligent and aware and empathetic.

The other book is called "Self-Esteem - A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem" by Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning. Make sure it's this exact book because there are so many others which deal with that subject. Start with this one. You may also find companion books by these same authors.

This will help everyone understand and BREAK THROUGH the lie of what self-esteem really is, contrary to what is commonly believed. It's great because it has really simple "exercises" you can do to literally train the neurons in the brain to react and respond differently.

Some doo-doo books out there are so "feel good" and does not contain anything of real value or substance. Their effect doesn't stay with you.

But these two are things that are for sure very real and useful and REAL bridges to build and BUILD UPON for the rest of your life.

I'm willing to help as much as I can. I already "get" her even though I haven't met her in the flesh.

With love & support

.gloria