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Topic: Would you Read another person's Emails?
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Bliss
Newflake Posts: 0
From: Vancouver, Canada
Registered: May 2010
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posted November 16, 2004 02:36 PM
  
Even though I know it is WRONG to read another's emails, but would you, for example, your boyfriend or girlfriend, if you could and they would never know.Just your thoought or if any experiences of it.
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26taurus
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posted November 16, 2004 02:42 PM
I'd read them even if he "could know". And I do, and he does. And he doesnt care. He has nothing to hide.Don't get me wrong, I cant remember the last time I HAVE read one of his emails. But he lets me and I wouldnt care if he read mine. It's really not a big deal. We arent secretive with each other. *edit* And I DO respect "a man" and anyone elses privacy.  If he didnt want me to read them I wouldnt. But I'd be suspicious. (8th house moon and pluto) IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted November 16, 2004 03:20 PM
For whatever reason, I was taught to respect a man's privacy. Do I? Absolutely.IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 16, 2004 03:54 PM
No I would not read his e-mails his mail
check his pockets,look on his cell phone
or read his text messages or check his voice
mail would do none of the above. not into that, and do not want him to do that to me... IP: Logged |
Gemini Nymph
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posted November 16, 2004 04:38 PM
No I wouldn't. I'm a privacy freak. I had a traumatic experience concerning someone invading my privacy as a teen, and so I'm very inflexible about this. I don't want people digging through my personal things, and I don't want to dig around other people's personal things. I don't read other people's emails, or mail, or go through their medicine cabinets or their fridge, or anything unless I'm clearly and openly invited to do so. Even if it's about something insignificant - it's a matter of principle. It's one of the reason why friends often ask or refer me to house-sit for them and others - they know I'm not a snoop. Come to think of it, I can't think of a time that anyone snooped around my personal stuff where it was innocent and free of some less than moral ulterior motives - I don't think I could trust someone who'd take that liberty to invide other's privacy without asking, regardless to whether they got caught or not. I used to associate with such people, when I was younger and rather naive, but I ended up paying the consequences of having friends like that, so I'm much more selective of my friends now. IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted November 16, 2004 05:10 PM
No, I would be tempted if he read mine, but I would be afraid of what'd find.They say if you eavesdrop eventually you will hear something unpleasant about yourself, so I don't want to know. If I have suspicions they are usually true anyway. Natasha
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pidaua
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From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 16, 2004 05:17 PM
NO...and I hate it though when information falls into my hands. I try to distance myself as fast as I can. I have one of those memories that will take a snap shot of what I look at or what is before me and it is then committed..so I try to keep away from that. I am also a privacy freak. It does drive my Taurus crazy, but he is private as well (even though he says he doesn't care what I see of his -as long as I am just as open). I'm not..Like GeminiNymph I had a traumtic experience (actually several) with a witch of a Virgo Stepmonster that read my diaries (they contained all the pain I was not willing to share during my parents contentious divorce) and she used it against me in the most evil way. My Leo grandmother was also a snoop and went so far as to change entries into my diary because she didn't like what I had to say. From then (age 12) I learned to be very suspicous of people and NOT tell them or let them know what pains me because some of them WILL use it against you. It took a lot for me to get over what my stepmonster did to me- so no, I never want to do that to another.
But...with Jupiter in Scorpio and Pluto rising, there are times when things fall into my hands- things that end up being a warning and have helped save my brown behind or help me avoid getting hurt. In those cases I can't help but think being Jupiters child pays off. 
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moonbaby
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posted November 16, 2004 05:32 PM
yes...and i have.i just find it entertaining...and i was gonna write, i would neveruse the information against them....but in all honesty, i dunno whether thats the truth...cos I havent yet come across anyhting that I would strongly object to... but for pure nosiness, gossip-ness, i would...and have 
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Sun Cancer 13°15'47 08 direct
Moon Capricorn 05°51'34 02 direct
Mercury Gemini 23°44'10 07 direct
Venus Gemini 12°00'15 07 direct
Mars Libra 15°02'29 11 direct
Jupiter Scorpio 00°31'45 11 direct
Saturn Libra 15°44'36 11 direct
Uranus Sagittarius 01°04'00 12/1 retrograde
Uranus is technically near the end of house 12 and is interpreted in house 1.
Neptune Sagittarius 25°10'52 01 retrograde
Pluto Libra 24°06'58 11 stationary (D)
True Node Cancer 13°20'49 08 direct
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sana
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posted November 17, 2004 10:33 AM
i can never do thatIP: Logged |
Aquarian Girl
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posted November 17, 2004 11:08 AM
I've had some awful experiences with people snooping and reading my diaries... but... i had a situation earlier this year where i went into my friend's email because I KNEW a former mutual friend would have trashed me in there... and WHOAAAHH... what i found in there... well... it needed to come out, but i can tell you, i won't be compelled to ever snoop again.i've always been of the mind that if one snoops... for whatever reason, the truth needed to come out. my mother and grandmother read my diaries in my teens and early 20's (virgo and aquarius respectively)... former roommate (cancer) snooped in my diary when i was 21 and then kicked me out of our apartment! ack! then, my in-laws (cancer and pisces) read my online diary, all my emails and im's with parental control software and then, whoah... did that cause a stir to say the least. not to justify myself... but i knew very well i was going to find vile things said about me when i snooped... and the friend whose email i snooped in hasn't bothered chaging her password since. she says she doesn't care, never did care. i actually forgot that i knew her password because i never needed it or snooped before! but when i realized i could go look and I KNEW 100% that there would be lots of trash talking about me, I couldn't resist. She said she knew i had the password... she was just sorry i had to read the horrible things my former friend said about me :/ my friend is a scorpio and the former friend is a sag with a cancer moon. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Newflake Posts: 8
From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 17, 2004 11:18 AM
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my in-laws (cancer and pisces) read my online diary, all my emails and im's with parental control software and then, whoah... did that cause a stir to say the least.
Your In-Laws????I would absolutely FREAK!!!!!!! I'd be over, unforgivable. That compounded with the other million things done maliciously? They would be dead to me.
*said like a Scorpio.* One time, when my mom-in-law was watching my daughter, one of my bandmates called for me. He is quite abrupt (but a real softie once you know him)
When I got home, she glared at me, said "A man called for you." ___pause___ and I was like *raised eyebrow.. "Yes? Who was it?"
She said he didn't say, just asked for me. I knew immediately who it was. She acted as if having a man call me was 'bad'. Most of my friends are male, and when I told my husband her reaction, he just shook his head. IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 17, 2004 12:24 PM
EEK!!I cannot possibly imagine having somebody read my e-mails. I have looked at other ppl's inboxes, but never read what was in the mails themselves. That would just be WRONG, in my opinion. Suspiscion is a terrible thing, I feel trust is one of the most important things to have in any relationship, be it with friend, family, or lover.... if you don't have trust, you don't have anything.... I looked at a picture of a girl my ex had dated in one of our ''broken up'' times, and on the back was written a message to him.. which I couldn't bring myself to read, as much as I was curious as to what it said, cuz i knew it would bother me when it really shouldn't. Interesting subject, though.... Ghani IP: Logged |
miss_apples
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posted November 17, 2004 12:24 PM
No I havent and I wouldnt. I also have an issue with privacy and I know that if I dont want people to read my emails, I cant read theirs either.IP: Logged |
Isis
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From: Brisbane, Australia
Registered: May 2009
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posted November 17, 2004 12:43 PM
I wouldn't snoop - if I wouldn't want people to snoop on me, I have to not snoop on them.The one time I snooped into someone's emails, I discovered things that were a big deal, but could not question those things because then it would reveal that I'd snooped. It puts you in an akward position IMO, where you might find out something you don't like, that you want to address with the individual, but you can't without revealing that you broke their trust by snooping. I too had bad experiences with grandparents, my Dad and my stepmother snooping on me. Like covertly recording telephone calls, reading my diary then grilling me like cops, going through drawers, following me around town to check up. People have a right to privacy, and I don't think one can expect to have their privacy respected if they don't respect other's privacy. IP: Logged |
lovely*
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posted November 17, 2004 12:43 PM
i find the only time i have been compelled to snoop is when my gut was telling me something and my brain needed verification.i have checked email once from a past boyfriend *sag* and i found something upsetting, he was communicating with someone he met online. i have also checked voicemail from another boyfriend *aqua* and found another thing upsetting. there was a voicemail from some girl  so there was a reason i violated thier privacy, they wouldn't tell me the truth, so i felt it my right to find out for myself. once i had proof in my hands i could walk away. now if i *feel* i am being lied to i KNOW i am. IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
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posted November 17, 2004 12:48 PM
I wouldn't. I grew up with a mother that didn't feel I was entitled to any privacy what-so-ever. She snooped through my room, found all my notes and would drill me about them later. I never even bothered keeping a diary... she would read it and use it later for my humiliation. She always opened my mail before I had a chance to read it. As a result, I have issues with "snooping". I don't do it, and I get really P!SSED when someone does it to me. Hubby and I have had a few blow outs because of it.The thing is, if you as me, I'll talk to you about d@nm near anything you want to know about me. I'm not ashamed of who I am or where I've come from. They're just the cards I've been dealt. There is no need to go behind my back to find out. That's just devious, and I don't like it. I'm also not a medicine cabinet snooper. I don't mind, however, when people help them selves to things at my house. My motto is, "Hook yourself up.". If you're hungry, thirsty, have a head ache, need some coffee... Mi casa es su casa. ... it's funny though. Some people (my Cancer Dad is one) are visibly uncomfortable with helping themsef, in their case, I will serve them. Other people don't need to be told a second time. IP: Logged |
Eleanore
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From: Okinawa, Japan
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 17, 2004 01:40 PM
My hubby and I know each other's e-mail address and passwords. In fact, we know all of each other's passwords. He's an Aquarius and I have Aquarius Rising ... with us, it's more of a precaution seeing as how we forget things quite frequently. Well, him more so than me, but still. We've asked each other multiple times to read each other's e-mail, check out each other's accounts, etc. No biggie.
However, I would never ever dream of "snooping" on anyone. If he ever asked me not to check something I wouldn't do it. He's the same way. He doesn't read my journals and I don't read his because we've asked each other not to.
I don't believe in snooping around. I'd rather ask you up front. If you're lying and denying ... well, the truth will come out eventually anyway, it always does, and you'll end up with egg on your face.
I'm pretty private, truth be told, but I generally don't write things down that I want to keep secret just because I've noticed that as soon as I write something down I'm more prone to talking about it. Besides, I developed that habit early on. My parents weren't snoops but my sister was. Oh, it really got annoying with her coming across things I'd written that I never wanted anyone else to know.  ------------------
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Ghandi IP: Logged |
Aquarian Girl
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posted November 18, 2004 12:35 AM
Yah Pixelpixie... My in-laws, and then I got all the blame! They asked me how dare I even THINK the things I wrote in my diary! I was like... um... cause you guys really are @ssholes??? (I didn't say that... heheh.. but I wanted to!)I've been told by friends since that it's actually a federal offence to monitor someone's email without permission. Not sure how true that is. But I was told it's akin to opening someone' mail or tapping their phone without permission. Even my husband blamed me. He said I should have known cause they're crazy and why did I put him in that position? I'm like... um... no... How could I know, I've never, ever met a bunch of crazy, religious control freak psychos lke your parents EVER in my entire life... Only now after I left him, he's brough up that whole episode and apologized to me and admitted they had absolutely no right to do that to me. It happened when we left the military and moved to California. We stayed with them for two months. Probably amongst the worst two months of my life, hands down. They like to think they are sweet, giving Christian people, but really they are the kind of people who give with one hand and slap you around with the other. They feel entitled because they are "giving" and "helping" you, supposedly. My mother-in-law said to my husband... "and do you know what she said about YOU in her IMs??" ...and then went on to tell him I shouldn't be allowed to have the friends I have because they're "worldly" and a bad influence. Based on the IM conversations she spied on. The psychotics know no limits!!! IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Newflake Posts: 8
From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 18, 2004 01:10 AM
*gasp*
I know what you mean about giving with one hand and slapping with the other.
Totally. Like they can be as manipulative as they want, as long as it is justified or done in the name of being a Christian.
My Aunt is a loony, and she will blatently gossip horrid unchristianlike things.. when confronted on it, she will say "I am just telling the truth." 
Anyway, I know what you mean. I hope one day, if my In-laws become my ex-in-laws, (*and they'd honestly be a BIG reason for my saying that*)
I hope finally then, I can be apologized to, or something. That sounds like Heaven. To have one day of no guilt-mongering. Peace.
Sorry, I could fill an entire journal with entres about my mom-in-law, you'd be horrified too. *and probably understand.
Actually I think I HAVE filled journals full.
Anyway, blah blah blah from me... but what a story!!!! I completely sympathise *and empathise.IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer
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posted November 18, 2004 01:12 AM
I'd read your journal pixel pixie, I'm sure its full of delightful erotic fantasies IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 18, 2004 01:16 AM
*sniff sniff*
My 'spider-sense' is tingling
awwwwwww.. how cute. Are you following me?Yep, it is full to the brim of my evil scorpionic sex fantasies and also how I do all those other mean spirited and evil things we are famous for.
Yep, that's me.. evil evil evil.
*rubs hands together, plotting my next victim* IP: Logged |
Aquarian Girl
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posted November 18, 2004 01:37 AM
Oooohhh... looks like you have a fan. quote:
Yep, it is full to the brim of my evil scorpionic sex fantasies and also how I do all those other mean spirited and evil things we are famous for.
To annoying Saggitarians suffering from severe Foot-in-Mouth (and possibly mad cow... eerr archer!) disease, right right??? Hahahaha. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 18, 2004 01:41 AM
Yes, what can I say, I love a good banter.
I'm a sucker for fun.
My tongue is perpetually in my cheek.
Er...... not 'perpetually'.... IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer
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posted November 18, 2004 02:10 AM
Admit it PixelPixie, your leo rising looooves the attention. Can I lick your tongue while it is in cheek?IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 18, 2004 02:23 AM
I admit it readily.. posts addressed to me, whether they are nice or nasty, are still for me to read.
Now take yourself over to free for all if you wanna play.*my sweet* *Ick,I feel dirty* IP: Logged | |
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