posted November 22, 2004 11:15 AM              

It's not good to sway from your own path, and it's impossible to take on other's problems without forgetting your own. That's kind of the point, but when you wake up from someone else's reality, you find your own in serious need of repair.

The best way to blend boundaries is to tell your SO what you want, and see if he's listening. The question is what do you want, and what does he want, not what do WE want? The you and he have to come first before the we.

Some people have a way of making you sway towards them, but they can usually handle their problems better if they do it themselves.

Boundaries have to do with focus, when those blend, what is the focus on? Interesting questions, Gloria, I am pretty sure this is a Venus thing.
Venus wants everyone to be happy, or at least be on the same playing field. That is why Libras and Taureans are other oriented.

Productive relationships have a focus, a goal.

An example,
The ex Gemini emailed me last week to say this
"I still don't know what to do with my life....."
left hanging, that was invite to involve myself in his decisions. But that would sway me from my own path, so I ignored the statement. There is no answer because I don't care, he needs to ask someone who has the same path as him. We are all seeking, but we have to hook up with those who are going the same direction. The Gemini has no direction, so I could be lost for hours.

No point, since he is unlikely to listen anyway, and he never asked me once what I wanted. Once he does I will care what he wants. That's not a game, that's being productive, he needs to learn on his own without someone to lean on.

But you and I ask people this question every day, and people ask us , So when do we hook up, and when is it productive?