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Topic: Are Aries loners?
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sweetlibra
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posted December 03, 2004 01:48 AM
 
I am very much interested in aries (trying to specialize in it ..  ) My guy is aries and i have observed him close. The interesting thing is tht he doesnt have any close friends.
I mean he has "followers" but no friends (atleast what i call friends)
Another aries i know doesnt want to get in close relationships/friendships.
So i wonder if aries are loners..! Please share your knowledge / experiences in this  IP: Logged |
MOONAT
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posted December 03, 2004 02:30 AM
hey, i'm an aries and i kinda get what your talking about.
i only just very recently got two new friends that i would call 'close' friends. i'm very open and friendly when i first meet someone but i have learnt from experience that ppl don't generally give away their true selves straight away...so now i'm extremely picky who i let 'in'. i have no problem not having close friends, i love having them but i can survive completely fine without them.
i had a friend who i thought was a good friend but she was just a 'user' so then i learnt to be able to depend on me. and its great it made me as an arian..think about things before i let someone in completely and now i am much better at reading people.i've kind of wanted to be a loner but i always seem to have a 'group' that i hang around with...it just kind of happens. this is a large group that i and my two close friends 'belong' to. hmmm i have no idea if that brought any insight...sorry if no! toodles IP: Logged |
sana
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posted December 03, 2004 04:21 AM
i have been hurt deeply by two ariens(one guy n one girl)...i love them i respect them n both completely misunderstood me..anyways both had a tendency to feel insecure n lonely at night n both of them hardly slept.n i sleep a lot...but i have stayed up so many nights talking to them n sacrificed my precious sleep for them coz my heart would simply go out for them.i enjoyed those talks too n this made me protective bout them... well here i m heart broken now as both of them dont wanna talk to me anymore n both of them refuse to even tell me why... they are almost all the time in a group...centre of attention..making everone laugh...highly optimistic...full of energy...cheerful but ask them who they are really really close to n there isnt anyone.
though a long list of ppl they dont talk to they can provide.
dont take my views seriously...they r afterall mine - views of a heart broken friend...
please all ariens who read this post...no offence...i love ariens...i adore you...really do...
have a nice day...
sana.
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ichigo_fizz
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posted December 03, 2004 06:48 AM
I've often read that Aries are loners at heart. I have a really close friend who's an Aries [100%, she has Aries in Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus and her Ascendant] and I'm only one of three people she considers really close at all. She wears the optimistic, cheerful, smiley mask at school all day and then goes home and cries. It seems to be really difficult for some Ariens to develope personal relationships, and it really makes me sad for them, especially my friend, because she's like a sister to me. =( My sister's the same way. I can see why with her though, she's Aries with Aquarius Rising and Pisces Moon. So while she seeks attention and to be 'wierd', she always gets her feelings hurt when the feedback isn't what she wants. But, I think she only has a few close friends [I wouldn't really know since I don't talk to her much].------------------
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miss_muffet
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posted December 03, 2004 08:41 AM
I am an Aries. And Yes, I am a loner. I will never turn a friend in need out into the street. I have some friends that I know I can turn to in times of need. But the independent streak and pride kicks in and it will never happen - me running to someone because I'm having a crisis. IP: Logged |
crazyaries
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posted December 03, 2004 08:46 AM
Are aries loners? For me yes definately...why? In my case it is all about independence from people. Independence from their games and toxicity. I think being an aries sometimes means not trusting others. I either trust you completely or I don't trust you at all. If I don't trust you yet I will detach from you.. seemingly aloof. Thats the way I see it I've seen other Aries behave this way as well as well as some Scorpios.IP: Logged |
hereisgone
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posted December 03, 2004 09:14 AM
My mother is an  and she's definitely a loner.IP: Logged |
sd09
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posted December 03, 2004 11:48 AM
Saggi are loners tooIP: Logged |
marcia
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posted December 03, 2004 12:06 PM
I have an issue with men.
I need to get over it  Not easy to when you were abused by one. IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted December 03, 2004 02:01 PM
Aries use up so much energy, even energy thats on reserve that they just need to recharge. You can only do that alone. IP: Logged |
MOONAT
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posted December 03, 2004 09:49 PM
i agree with crazy aries... i just don't trust them completely, i always find myself giving friends little challenges to see if they'll dissappoint me...they usually do but i've gotten over it.
there is also that whole competitive thing, i usually am pretty competitive when it comes to school and even recently a friend of mine did really well in two assignmnets and i was really happy for her...but now i can't tell her that i did really well too ( a little better than her) because she'll get upset and ill get upset that she's not happy for me....
blah its just easier being 'friends' with heaps of people rather than having people who really know me... i have that in my cousin we've been friends since she was born and i guess with her its alright cos i can openly fight with her and she can take it (she's a saggie) and i know no matter what -even if she annoys me or i act arrogantly- she'll be around and that makes me stick around.IP: Logged |
aries-chick
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posted December 04, 2004 08:54 AM
What Ichigo said about her (r u a girl? hope so lol) friend rings really true for me. I have 2 close friends and my bf who I'd consider a close friend these days. I love people, as long as there's that distance...I don't like getting too close to too many people. And I do wear the cheerfull optimistic mask, whether I actually feel that way or not (I used to do it at school all the time, and I always do it at Uni). I also have lots of aquaintances and (platonic) friends who I run into all the time and go out with sometimes, but they don't really know me (I like them but I don't feel close to them at all). I think it's hard for me to open up, unless i realllly trust the person, so I wouldn't get close and personal usually. I thought it was more my Cappy influence, but it could be an Aries thing. "It seems to be really difficult for some Ariens to develope personal relationships, and it really makes me sad for them" Maybe it's because in order to develop a personal relationship you have to want a personal relationship and play your part in that (call, ask the person to go out with you etc). I think most Aries people hate to feel needy, or like they "want" and "are trying" to be friends with someone, anyone...so they'd rather act all tough, like they don't need or want any friends. PS someone mentioned the sleeping...yeah I can't sleep..too much mental activity, it keeps me awake. It's only been happening for the past couple of yrs though. I slept like a log before then. IP: Logged |
aries-chick
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posted December 04, 2004 08:59 AM
 lol is it just me or is this turning into like AA anonymous...lolI am an Aries and I've been a loner for 235 yrs *group hug 
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KarenSD
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posted December 04, 2004 11:55 PM
My sister, in her mid 40's, is an Aries and she is a typical Aries. While many men have "wanted" to be with her (as in relationship/marriage) and she has two wonderful teen-age children from two different men with whom she was seriously involved (but never married) for many years, she can't commit. She loves her independence. I think it's more of an independent thing vs. being "a loner" though, at least in her case. IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted December 06, 2004 07:33 AM
Their appearance of "shyness" could be due to their Moon, if it is soft-spoken, may tend to make them a little more introspective.Also consider, Aries is opposite Libra, which is the first Sign dealing with "relationships". Aries prefers to do things alone, sometimes because the times are not accepting of "bluntness" (although their's is just one person's viewpoint) - also preferring to make their own f@ck-up's. Both men & women Aries are very pioneering. IP: Logged |
Plutonian
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posted December 06, 2004 12:17 PM
does having an aries rising count?
i do notice that i like to be left alone in my own world.IP: Logged |
hereisgone
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posted December 06, 2004 02:18 PM
I read on astrology.com to think of your Rising sign as the face you present to the world. So I don't see why an Aries rising wouldn't count. Luckily, the only Aries in my is in 12th house. IP: Logged |
CrabbyRam
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posted December 06, 2004 10:58 PM
I have an Aries moon, and I've also always been a loner. I like people, but I'm so afraid of being suffocated and disappearing into someone. Aries passion probably has something to do with it. When I do care, I care a LOT. The older I get the more I find out people aren't as honest as I am, so it can be a bit hard to handle to get close to someone. With men it's the same way...I'm just not into being stuck. Maybe that's because I'm only 20, but I can't ever imagine being dependant and happy. It makes me feel so insane sometimes, because yeah, it can be lonely...but on the other hand it seems worth it, even though the rest of hte world thinks I'm a bit off.IP: Logged |
wildflwrs
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posted December 08, 2004 10:49 PM
Well, it would seem that an Aries can be very independent and function independently. However, being a fire sign...I think they tend to thrive on social activity. Actually, I have not had involvement or even contact with very many Aries. One red-headed Aries woman that I was good friends with for years always had people flocking around her and was always in demand socially. I must say that she was very supportive of me through a troubled time...but our friendship didn't sustain a geographical relocation.IP: Logged |
Fishtail
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posted April 07, 2005 03:38 PM
Ok, im an aries too, though my nick has a Fish in it, & ive Cap rising. Im thinking perhaps it's the masculinity and individuality in the sign? Most of the time I just don't like hanging out in girl groups which they talk about other people and make up, nail polish and things like that. I have very few friends, but the friends whom I make the effort to keep in touch with since my high school days are the ones whom im loyal to. If there were sufficient places around for my own space, i would have probably liked to walk around in campus on my own and land in a nice quiet studying spot But sometimes it's just lonely to do things alone, especially mealtimes in school.. hmm.. yup, a bit wierded out to stare at people (or ur food) while u're eating and everyone stares back at you? IP: Logged |
calliope
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posted April 07, 2005 04:29 PM
I like to do things completely on my own terms, at my own pace. And when an idea pops into my head, I have to go find out about it there and then. I can't hang around. This is somewhat difficult if you're in a group.I have got used to the "loneliness", since I've always been this way. Being very independent is a great confidence-builder, since one never has to worry about what the rest of one's group may be thinking. Having said that - I DO have friends; one or two close friends (Ariens and Scorpios, as it happens) and several acquaintances. But I sometimes wonder whether that pattern of friendship isn't the case for a great many of us, if we're being honest. Regarding "girlie" activities, I met a Scorpio friend in town a couple of times for coffee and shopping at one stage, and we BOTH got bored by it. We ended up in the library. Must be the Mars influence, Aries and Scorpio both tend to prefer more challenging activities.
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aries-chick
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posted April 07, 2005 10:41 PM
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Most of the time I just don't like hanging out in girl groups which they talk about other people and make up, nail polish and things like that
I don't like those types either. Not that there's anything wrong in mentioning makeup, clothes, nailpolish.. but when ALL you ever discuss is that + boys, it gets to me. I had one of those girls call me "unopinionated" (never mind that it's not a word) once, because I didn't have an opinion on her nailpolish. IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted April 08, 2005 08:56 AM
Just wanted to add, maybe completely off-topic but... I LOVE ARIES!!!!!  IP: Logged |
thirteen
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posted April 08, 2005 10:42 AM
My hubby is Aries and yes he is a loner. I want us to have more friends. He sees right thru folks too so its hard to find genuine people that aren't caught up in crap. Anyway i wanted to add...think about aries and what they represent the baby of the zodiac. They are focused on getting their own needs met as would any baby be. It can be frustrating but in truth they are only being true to their own sign. I don't think they are doing anything intentionally. If they care for you there is not a thing in the world they won't do for you and their dreams are creative, magical and they can make them happen some how.IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted April 08, 2005 10:57 AM
It really depends on the definition of loner.Aries is not an easy sign to manage. We are a lot to handle. Aries is never placid. Ask any person who is in a very close relationship with one. Even Linda says the stars usually do not put two Aries children into one family. This sign is extremely strong-willed, independent, and selfish. To make matters worse, the three exist in abundant quantities! Mars is pure warrior energy. This is where other parts of a person's chart can make a difference. IP: Logged |
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