posted December 06, 2004 01:32 AM              

But I'm so jealous right now I can hardly breathe!

And I have no reason!

OK, my boyfriend has been working a lot lately and I'm not getting any attention. well, I am, but I'm not. I can't take my focus off him!!! He's amused and I haven't let my weirdness show beyond childish poutiness and "acting cute" (when really I'm burning inside!)... so... it's not a huge problem.

I don't what he does to inspire so much jealousy and possesiveness in me! This isn't the first instance. I get really jealous about him.

this is part of the Mercury retrograde issue too. I know in my mind he is not "neglecting" me... it's just work. But I can't help feeling irrational and feling like no matter what he says or does to reassure me, I feel like a jealous retard craving his attention.

The funny thing, another Aquarian girlfriend of mine is going through severe jealousy issues with her boyfriend too, and she is never usually jealous either... but... she has reasons to be jealous (ex-gf issues)... I don't have a reason!!!

Any other Aquarians feeling the same? I hate this feeling. Thank God I'm not a Taurus or Scorpio, I would go insane!

posted December 06, 2004 04:09 AM            

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Thank God I'm not a Taurus or Scorpio, I would go insane!

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i must be an exception to the rule (my boyfriend is lucky ), a taurus who is very rarely jealous and who also doesn't get too worked up about small issues.

posted December 06, 2004 07:58 AM              

ps/ my aqua friend is madly in love with someone...its really turned her head to the point where she is inscure and overnalytical when he doesnt call her for like 30 mins or summin'

posted December 06, 2004 08:04 AM              

Eventually you start to get an instinct about things, when it's time to be jealous, is when there is a real threat. Unfortunately for a Taurus the jealousy usually comes too late. Scorpios sense this too, but usually get angrier. Both signs shut off to the person they are jealous to because they see it as a sign of infidelity.

The jealousy comes from the trust being violated.

In your case the jealousy may come from trust that you perceive as violated, you may have decided one thing and he wants another and you are surprised. Maybe you felt he owed you some more time this week?

I find that jealousy is a strange emotion in Aquas, it's real, but people dont take it as seriously. I don't know why people take Taurus jealousy seriously we usually forgive and forget too quickly.

But I have noticed that lack of attention is the prime reason an Aqua gets jealous, especially if you think about him all the time.

I have to say you shouldn't have to pout, you deserve attention, jealous or not.

posted December 06, 2004 08:07 AM              

I am an Aries and I know jealousy. When I am jealous, I can be a real ***** . It is usually directed at the "other" woman.

Feeling neglected is more like hating the other activities that the partner has - like sports or social events or work. Because you feel that he is spending more time without you.

posted December 06, 2004 08:35 AM              

YES!!! I'm not used to being the one doing all the fawning.

Feeling neglected is more like hating the other activities that the partner has - like sports or social events or work. Because you feel that he is spending more time without you.

That's exactly it too MM... but he can't help being away because of his job. He's a swat officer and if he's gotta go and be gone for 16, 18, 30 hours... whatever it takes... it is what it is.

He also has a lot of women calling him all the time, paying him inappropriate compliments.. basically hitting on him without shame but he's just "oooh nooo... she's not interested in me! we're friends!"... I'm thinking like hell she isn't! I'm not going to call up my ex-boyfriend and tell him he has a perfect c_ck unless I want some of it again! And you know, that kind of thing has never bothered me before either, in fact my ex-husband was quite the player before he married and in the first 6 months of marriage we'd find notes from girls on his car, emails, IMs... no phone calls thank god because we changed numbers... but it didn't bug me like this. We used to go to nightclubs in san Fran and take off our rings and be like "ok! go have fun!"... basically we would hang out with other people all night, talk, flirt, dance... just no kissing, touching, obviously no leaving with anybody... I'm not normally this way in any sense. It's so weird.

G likes it though... because up until a week ago, it was him who... for want of a better way of putting it... seemed more "into" me, than vice versa... now the tables have turned!

Somehow he's activated my dormant Pluto rising jealous tendencies... and now I'm a mess! I can't get him out of my head or focus on anything but him.

I try to hide it, but he senses it and he finds it cute and amusing. He's very reassuring and sweet... but it's like the minute he's gone again I'm just like AAARRGGGHHH!!!

He asked me to move into his house a few weeks back and I said no... too soon. Maybe I made a mistake. I'd definitely see him more on weeks like his where his work gets crazy!

He's a Pisces with Scorpio rising... 1st house Uranus and a Virgo moon. he's VERY emotional... but meticulous about his expression of it. He's so controlled and waits for just the right moment... with the right words. I know he's thought about what he's saying a million times before he says it.

I think Mercury retrograde is wreaking havoc with our ability to communicate also. It's almost like someone put up a veil between us and I'm freaking out cause I can't sense him like I usually can. I was posting just the other day how I can easily "will" him to call me... and it doesn't work anymore!!!

posted December 06, 2004 08:39 AM              

I think deep down, Pisces are flirts, and will push the limits. But the one thing that you should remember on how to deal with Pisces is to let him know that he is "hurting" you. They do not like to hurt anyone.

If he's got a Scorpio Rising, he should understand jealousy.

posted December 06, 2004 08:58 AM              

If it was just that he's spending all his time doing other things... then I'd probably just let him know I want more of his time cause I miss him, need him, etc... But... there isn't any adjustment he can make, it's the nature of his job... it's unpredictable and very often drawn out... so... I have to just deal with it or find someone else.

Heheh... I have made him jealous, when he told me those comments that he's audacious ex-girlfriends made to him, I name dropped a famous person that hit on me at a bar the other week when I went with my friends... ooooh... I didn't mention that? Well yeah. He hit on me all night. Followed me around like a puppy. Yup, yup.

He got so furious, talking about finding this person a kicking their ass for hitting on "his woman" that I thought maybe it's not such a good idea to tell him things like that anymore. All his veins were sticking out and he was grinding his teeth, lol! Never saw him like that before, he's usually really sweet, hee!

posted December 06, 2004 09:10 AM              

Sounds volatile!
If he asked you to move in, he probably wants you to move in. Pisces men do need someone there, even if you are not needy. He won't say if he's mad either, just hide it away.

Maybe you sense distance instinctively?

Good Luck if you decide to move in together, all I can say from all my Scorpio and Taurus,
is make sure your emotions don't control you.

posted December 06, 2004 09:29 AM              

Maybe he's purposely pushing my buttons so I can move in with him? Cause now that I think of it, he was saying the other day "oh... I know it sucks it's much easier when you're married or living with someone cause at least you get to see them when you're coming and going, instead of having to co-ordinate everything".... Hhhhmmm.

posted December 07, 2004 06:24 PM              

The jealousy comes from the trust being violated."

posted December 07, 2004 10:05 PM              

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I absolutley HATE showing someone I'm jeaous so I do the exact opposite, I become really cold emotionally toward tht person... it makes me feel weak and out of control

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EXACTLY! I've just been trying to do my own thing and keep busy myself... spend a bit more time at the gym... I did tell him that I miss him too much. Not in a cute way either, like really... i miss you damn*t. He's promised to make it up to me this weekend. He's supposed to get 3 or 4 days off... all for meeeeeeeee! Yay

posted December 08, 2004 11:30 AM              

With his chart, I can see time together is important to clear things up. I am glad he took time off work for you, he made a good decision.

Sounds like things are good here:>

Natasha

posted December 08, 2004 03:09 PM              

Which Planets, Signs, Houses, Aspects do you have which can clue you in as to how this is affecting you?

I'm wondering if you are SO afraid of the feeling of "jealousy" creeping up on you, that you've never fully allowed yourself to feel it ever, or at least, within an honest loving relationship.

*goes clear her "jealousy" Chakra*

posted December 09, 2004 07:11 AM              

My chart is here if anyone wants to take a stab at figuring out my issues with jealousy - http://mojico.org/my_chart.jpg

posted December 09, 2004 11:56 AM              

(I hear you about the "she's just jealous" thing - perplexing as heck to me too).