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Topic: in love with a young man
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laglady
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posted December 08, 2004 03:31 PM
 
it sounds crazy,i keep trying to remind myself of the facts..
i'm 25. have kids. married.
he's 17 (!!!!). in frickin' high school. we've never met in person, have swapped photos. if i saw him on the street, not knowing him.. i probably wouldn't take a second look.. but to talk to this fella!! he posesses wisdom beyone his years, and i mean by a longshot... and he's funny, and encouraging.. the best friend i think i've ever had. almost daily we talk via internet... met online.. are JUST FRIENDS.. and yet... i'm going friggin' crazy, i think about spending my whole life with him.. i think about how nice it'd be to go grocery shopping with him.. ya know dumb **** like that.. and i've looked at our charts, his and mine individually and in synastry.. i think i'm trying to convince myself that i'm wrong. can love be found clear across the us?
and in a younger man? i'm including some of our chart info, please if you have any input, let me know. tell me if i'm nuts. -----me--------him
asc lib--------pis
sun cap-------vir
moon aqu----lib
mer sag-------vir
ven sco-------vir
mars cap-----vir Square his Saturn- my Saturn
Square his Pluto- my Jupiter
Trine his Mercury- my Sun
Square his Moon- my Mars
Trine his Moon- my Moon
Sextile his Saturn- my Moon IP: Logged |
whiterabbit
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posted December 08, 2004 08:03 PM
laglady, there are many nice things about your two charts that would indicate a lot of compatibility- but I wanted to mention something else. Fantasies are perfect because they are just that- fantasies. A fantasty relationship with a young man- with whom you share only a small part of your existence- (no crying babies, dirty sheets, bills, money problems......) is going to be lovely. Plus you are so compatible. But often reality, much like saturn, comes in like a wet blankey and kills those wild flames of passion that were there just a moment ago. Some dreams are meant to be just that- dreams- and nothing else. Anything else and they lose that beautiful quality of theirs. Of course I don't know you, know basically nothing about this situation, your marriage, etc...for all I know this could be Love itself...but I just had these thoughts on my mind lately and your post made me think of them and want to throw them out there. IP: Logged |
laglady
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posted December 09, 2004 08:40 AM
thank you for your insight, it's much appreciated.. while daydreaming we often leave out the dirty dishes..
i'm no stranger to hardship and am quite aware of life's responsibilities... they will always be there. no biggie..
this isn't a passion thing.. if i want passion that badly, i could always head out some saturday night and find it.. not a big deal..
it's the ability to talk... not feeling as if i'm going to be tuned out.. sharing humor..
for a while i was in quite the slump... feeling like life is passing me by, without me having anything to contribute.. no career, no aspirations. if any of you are at home mom's you've probably identified with that.. raising children is a great gift, and a very fulfilling path. but even still.. there's a need that to do something more.. individualy..
i'm eager again. studying... laughing...
this feeling is shared..
since we've met, i know his quality of life is improving(emotionally)... he looks around and doesn't connect with his peers and neighbors.. he can see an aspect of life that isn't understood..
i relate to that. i respect that..
together, we inspire eachother to be our best selves.. maybe we havn't acually seen eachother, but we're both affected.
maybe someday we'll meet.. only spirit know for sure.. i'll try to live in the present, overdue electric bill and all.. but i'll certainly be enjoying this relationship as long as time allows.be well IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted December 09, 2004 12:47 PM
I feel for you, laglady!
If it is meant to be, it will be. If you are meant to meet under different circumstances where he's older and you are out of your commitments, it will happen.
And you seem to have a down-to-earth attitude about the situation, so I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
You can love someone without consuming that love, you know.
Lots of Love to you!IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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Registered: Oct 2009
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posted December 09, 2004 02:14 PM
ahhhh, he's a Virgo and you're Capricorn, that's so perfect! I myself as a virgo find cappys irresistable.BUT be warned, my Dad is a pisces with a lot of virgo in his chart and he is an extremely inward person who is, I fear, uncaple of being able to love and express his emotions, if you ever met in real life, he might be chraming but he's not the type to give you flowers or anything if hes like what I think he is.
I may be wrong. ~Doogie~ IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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posted December 09, 2004 02:15 PM
Actually, take that back if he has libra in moon then it should be fine, sorry!
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Sheaa Olein
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posted December 09, 2004 02:19 PM
Welcome Doogie!  ~ The Mutable Night Force ~ whatta name, very cool! Enjoy you're stay  laglady ~ I sympathise because it's that age issue again! I find it almost impossible to battle the age issue (I'm always battling time  ) however it is all around us. My soul connection happened to be younger in years than me, but somehow eons older for his time. I'm not sure of all the situ surrounding you, and don't know you or the guy to suggest anything sound, but I do wish you love ~ everyone deserves it  IP: Logged |
miss_apples
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posted December 09, 2004 02:50 PM
I know where you are coming from. I have a friend in England who is 14 years older than me who I feel the exact same way about. I am also 24, have kids, not married but I am in a long term relationship with another guy. So I know your situation quite well.I dont think theres anything wrong with looking a younger man as long as he is legal. The the only thing is, as with my own pretty much identical situation is the guys that we are already with. I dont know what your relationship is like with your husband but you definatly need to decide what to do with that first. By your charts I think it would work. With the ascendants libra and pisces, my best friend is a Libra Sun and her husband is a picses and she knows exactly how to handle him. Cap and Vir are both earth so you will definatly think the same way and have a lot in common. Also your moon signs are both air so of course they will compliment eachother, plus I think his Libra moon will work good with your libra asc. IP: Logged |
laglady
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posted December 09, 2004 04:22 PM
yea, miss_apples.. the relationship i'm in now is not working, nor do i expect it ever will.. i know something must be done about it, and i will.. i guess i'm biding my time, with the holidays upon us... my boyfriend is the father of both of my children, we've been together for 4 years.. it's been a very unstable time, for both of us. basically, the past 3 1/2 years we've been in a constant arguement 
"stay together for the kids" is the phrase that i keep telling myself.. "you can't afford to make it on your own" is another.. i think i'm still in it for the roof....
and i know that sounds selfish and cold.. but i have nowhere to go. not yet.. i come from a long line of wicked strong women.. surely, all will work out... i'd like to say i'm glad to see that i'm understood.. but i'm not sure that's the case.. maybe i should say, sorry if you relate
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whiterabbit
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posted December 09, 2004 08:32 PM
Good luck with it all Laglady....good luck with Love! IP: Logged |
miss_apples
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posted December 10, 2004 02:32 AM
Your not selfish, your thinking of your kids! Theres that saying, if there is a will there is a way...so if you are meant to meet up with this guy you will. IP: Logged |
Poissons
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posted December 10, 2004 07:53 PM
Laglady:You are a 25-years-old, with children,in a commited relationship, and head over heels in love with a 17-year-old boy??? Sweety, don't mess with fire, because (eventually) you'll get burned. Whatever issues you have with your boyfriend, try to work it out, running away from the problem won't solve anything. Seriously, what does this 17-year-old boy have to offer? I mean is he educated, does he have a stable career, what about his own home, does he like children? You seriously have to think about all of this before you leap. ***Be Very Cautious of Those You Meet Over The Internet*** IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted December 10, 2004 10:09 PM
Internet born relationships tend to only work on the internet. Trust me on this one. (although I realize there are exceptions... I think they are the exception, and not the norm) In general, I don't think an 8 year age difference between a man and a woman is such a big deal. But, he's not quite a man yet. I wonder if something in YOUR chart makes you prone to falling for young innocent dudes. IP: Logged |
26taurus
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posted December 10, 2004 10:21 PM
What lioneye said.IP: Logged |
sd09
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posted December 11, 2004 06:05 PM
hey hey ,who are we to judge .like i said enything is possoble,Hope die last,wish evrythinng turns to be alright IP: Logged |
laglady
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posted December 13, 2004 08:42 AM
i love the realism in the advice here.. i'll have to check out my chart to see if anything funky is going on.. there probably is..maybe i should spend more time figuring out my current relationship, as opposed to daydreaming about others... maybe this one isn't meant to be, i'll have to deal with that.. as far romanticising situations.. i'm sure my imagination isn't helping this.. thank you for the wake up call. IP: Logged | |
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