posted December 13, 2004 05:36 PM            

Personally, I have a hard time with the Leo Sun /Scorp moon combination. Sometimes they can be very self-centered and ruthless, but having a Cancer woman there (who also has a Moon / sun square) may be what he needs for happiness in his domestic life.

The Gemini / Scorp? Well, why is she still seeing him? Doesn't she realize that he passed her over for another? Why would she continue the relationship and have an affair with him knowing that he is married with a kid? She is not being far to the child or his wife- what could she possibly want? Him? Why would she trust him knowing that 1) he bailed on her and married someone else 2) she is cheating on the person he chose OVER her...

posted December 13, 2004 05:52 PM              

I tend to think Cancers let their men stray a bit, to have more space from home, and they can withdraw if they feel like it. The compulsion to go back to the Cancer would be too strong. Especially after dealing with a Gemini woman/Scorpio moon woman and her emotions.

Having been the competing one with a Cancer too, I can say that the guilt she will go through will drive her crazy. He will end up cheating on the Gemini with the Cancer back and forth. Cancers go through so much, they deserve whatever crumbs of happiness they get, besides the Gemini is not the only one, just the only one you know about. Your Gemini may like this kind of scenario, thinking she knows all the players. She may end up cheating on him.

Who knows? It's drama, and it's exciting but Cancers know this, and offer quiet support, he will always compare the two, and if he loses the Cancer he will not want the Gemini, he will want to be free of feminine control for a while.

He doesn't sound much like a man worth fighting for, tell your Gemini friend there are better. She may have a fixation on bad sex, or what's bad for her, is good. Some Geminis do like that. To be honest they probably do things he would never want to do with the woman he respected because he is a little messed up too. The other woman, gets the man, and when she does, finds out he's suddenly less than a man. (in my experience)

posted December 13, 2004 07:32 PM              

Well I'm a Leo (as you can tell by my name) so I know how I personally would get along with a Cancer vs a Gemini, but of course I can't speak for the Leo you know. I have always found that I naturally hit it off with other fire and air signs..Gemini is air. They fan my fire and bring out my fun, enthusiastic side, which Leo's are known for.

However Leo is also a fixed sign and requires loyalty and security in a relationship and lots of attention.. Gemini may be able to be effectionate at times, but they have enough to spread around to everyone. They are said to love flirting and have short attention spans. You can see this prob wouldn't make the Leo feel very secure..when I say Leo I mean me, hehe. Cancer is much more of a stable, sensitive homebody that the Leo can depend on..so maybe in the end we are meant to settle down with more stable signs.

However there's nothing like air to fan that Leonine fire, so thats prob why they can't get enough of each other. However I personally suggest that your friend finds another fire/air sign that she's just as compatible that way with because he is happily married with a child. I mean I think she may be getting her head in too deep, why help mess up a good marriage. And yea if he leaves his wife for her, who's to say he won't leave for the next fan that burns his fire. So I think your right to tell her, she's going to get hurt..and so will his Cancer wife..this is not a good scenario for anyone.

posted December 13, 2004 10:16 PM              

I'm a very lovable Leo myself, so thanks I'm sure we'll make good friends Okay I know what you mean with the family pressure to marry someone, esp when your a more prominent family, image is everything. I have friends from ALL over! i like it that way, gives me a broader perspective and keeps me from narrowing my mind Wow it was 4 years ago! Your poor friend, she needs to move on badly! I know you know that and theres only so much you can do. I would just remain positive for her that she'll meet someone new and keep emphasizing that he is in a very committed relationship now and theres no hope of ever having him completely to herself the way she wants it.

posted December 13, 2004 11:44 PM              

I just finished up one of these relationships, between a Gemini man, Cancer female, and now another Cancer female! And I can say that he will talk, talk, talk all the time to her about his life and drag her in. That's what's making her cynical. Tell her that she doesn't have to listen to his whining. And he is really whining to her a lot.

Get her mind of it, anyway, tell her to take vitamin B for depression, and anxiety, and the amino acid relaxer (you can get that online or at health food stores). It's a mix of herbal antidepressants that keep you from worrying.
Great stuff. The worry about him is keeping her crazy. She worries if he's happy, sick, she is in protective mode, and she doesn't realize he is not her responsibility anymore. He is not her baby!

Scorpio and Cancer Moons, as well as some Pisces moons will combine the sexual with the protective and baby their men. So that they are ultra terrified of some other woman, cooking and cleaning, and taking care of their property.

Not only is the scorpio moon sexual, but it wants to make the baby, needs help. To be needed is very important to her. Seeing children, would be a BIG help.

It helps me to be around children at times like that. The love of a four year old girl can't compare to a whiny bratty grown man

So many water moon women, get protective, want to live with the man, cook for him, it's amazing. The men do this too, and get so wrapped up in being the OTHER MAN. It sucks for male Cancer moons especially, the ones I know are always getting sucked into taking care of a woman who has all sorts of problems and needs while giving nothing back but sex.

So, some people are predators they prey on weakness, they sense emotional vulnerability is a turn on, and they use it.

if the Leo wasn't married, he wouldn't be able to feel sorry for himself, so she wouldn't be attracted.

Your Gemini thinks she is attracted to married men, but she's not. She's attracted to loser men, who feel sorry for themselves and make her feel like she is to blame. He also blames his Cancer wife too, probably telling her everyday how he blames her for the way he feels. Everyday must be a living hell arranged around his moods.

They must play "Guess how I feel" today and she gets punished by watching him go out, if she doesn't comply. Too much power for one man,

It's the loser act, it's making the Gemini feel guilty.
Tell her he's fine, that he will be up and down, but he will get used to it.

She must get some sort of professional help, now, and those antidepressants.

If I didn't take those last week, honestly I would have run the Gemini over with my car.
The Gemini in my life was a Taurus moon, so it's not just Scorpio moons who are brats.

There must be some sort of aspect to Neptune in the Leo's chart which allows him to get sympathy. Maybe Neptune opp or square Mars, Mercury, or Moon? Does his Neptune fall into her 12th house, or do they have a Neptune/Moon aspect together? She is acting like his mother, I hope she can see that. She has to let him grow up, and let someone else take care of him for a while.
The Leo sounds like a Scorpio Ascendant, or his ascendant ruler may be in Scorpio.

As for you mystery sign, I would say Scorpio, Libra? I am betting on Scorpio somewhere.

Take care of your friend, but take of yourself too, those moods are catching, and you need anti depressants just as much with your boyfriend. He doesn't sound like much of a friend.

Good Luck, remember
Don't Date Losers, we were meant to fight them off. That's evolution. Maybe you have to really hurt them once in a while, but if a man is hurting he can go out there and pick on another man. Women are not as strong physically, that's why we pick strong men who give us stability. If there's no stability, there is no sexual desire.

At least that's what I am reading right now, it's all about how Alpha males fight with other males and the premium females submit to their sexual advances because they sense stability.

In most cases, the female has submitted to the wrong one, but she can always go looking for an Alpha males somewhere else. How can you find one unless you have two fighting over you? The Leo wants two women fighting over him, so he can guard the hearth and home. He wants to be in control, the "babymaker". But he's already got a premium female so now what? games?

anyway, good luck on getting rid of these men, and finding alpha males who let you be in control of your lives, it's just a process:>

Here you can read about the relaxant, so at least you know what it is, and you can buy it near you http://www.webvitamins.com/product.aspx?id=18930

Natasha

posted December 14, 2004 02:54 AM              

Secret Garden, I may have been off in assuming you don't think as highly of yourself as you could..sorry for that bit of advice. Its sounds like your already taking one step toward nocking the habbit of being with abusive guys, your leaving the loser! Yay, good job!!

posted December 14, 2004 03:09 PM              

so be careful what you wish for, and aim high,