posted January 05, 2005 07:32 PM              

Any Aquarians out there? Explain!!!! Do you have emotions at all or is it just electrical impulses that keep you alive.

Help me to understand why you seem so removed from feeling.

With love (dont be scared of it!!)

posted January 05, 2005 07:37 PM              

Dont scare them by being to possessive and jealous or pressure them to show there feelings. They usually take things slow by being your friend first. But make sure you let them know you are interested in them more than a friend so they can know.

Ughh i feel like slapping them.

posted January 05, 2005 08:00 PM              

My question isnt because Im trying to relate to one (well I suppose I am, Im a Libra after all!!!) what I mean is its not a love question, its a genuine question to anyone who has some insight so that I can try to understand why Aquarians SEEM so emotionally detached to others.

Are they cold? What kind of thing moves them? How do they feel when they do feel? Is it a mask? Are their emotions blocked or locked deep down?

I have known a few over the years and they all have this trait. Its like you reach a certain point with them and then they withdraw - these are with girlfriends too not just men.

Do they feel at all?!!! lol

Any insights anyone - especially Aquarians

posted January 05, 2005 08:51 PM              

They do see the big picture, but sometimes they think they are too intelligent to have to sit and listen to someone sermonize.

This is what I am told, in any case if he or she is quiet they are listening and getting emotional.

posted January 06, 2005 03:44 AM              

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I have known a few over the years and they all have this trait. Its like you reach a certain point with them and then they withdraw - these are with girlfriends too not just men.

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this trait has caused me quite a few problems, what happens is when dealing with emotional issues or when i'm stressed out, i automatically cut and detached myself from the situation, but not from the feeling, it's more a security thing, moon indicating what you need to feel secure

say i'm involved in a matter that means a great deal to me emotionally, if i think there's a genuine risk of my getting my feelings hurt, or if i become too emotionally attached to it thus giving it greater power to hurt me if things turn out rotten, i seem to instinctively radiate an attitude of "do what you want i don't care" or "i can live without it/you", i don't think this is something i can change, people see this as a lack of interest or indifference, they may think i don't care, but on the contrary the more aloof and cold i seem the more i actually feel about it/them, twisted..but hey its uranus.. well my uranus anyway

my emotional reasoning is that if i distance myself from the matter/people so as not to identify with them personally, my feelings would be less affected if disaster strikes (for lack of a better term)..hmm i'm thinking only of myself selfish selfish , it's not that i don't care, it's that if you're drowning in quicksand theres no point in me jumping in to save you , that'll be both our bacons

posted January 06, 2005 04:12 AM              

They're going to revoke my membership for revealing this secret:

-Aqua girl meets hottie boy and wants him very much. Too much. Uh oh.

-Aqua girl plays very hard to get.

-Toys with hottie boy because she's secretly afraid she's falling in love with him.

-Aqua girl tells hottie boy to get lost and that she doesn't want him.

-Aqua girl finds other boyfriend that she's less afraid of, and flaunts him under hottie boys nose.

-Hottie boy blows a gaskit, gets drunk, and calls Aqua girls house to say all the meanist things he can think of.

-Aqua girl is very cool and detatched in the face of his fury- which only frustrates hottie boy all the more.

-Aqua girl is only pretending to be cool. She is secretly smiling on the inside.

-Aqua girl hangs up the phone to do happy "he loves me" dance across her living room.

If we can frustrate you to tears, it confirms and that we make you feel just as out of control as you make us feel.

That's why we sometimes smile while you're screaming at us hysterically.

One day, I'm going to tell that hottie boy I'm in love with him.

posted January 06, 2005 05:16 AM              

They are total emotional manipulators. They will deliberately come out with outright lies to try and make you believe that you are feeling what they want you to feel, so that they can manipulate you into doing what they want you to do. They will automatically prefix a statement with "YOU ARE x" or "YOU ARE y". In the face of such statements, the gullible might be tempted to believe them.
However, if you say to them categorically, no, that isn't true, and you KNOW it isn't true, in fact it's complete and utter fabricated rubbish, they will be dumbstruck. It is very necessary to stand up for yourself, as typically they are not forceful, and can be made to back down.

I also think they are reasonably psychotic, but they can conceal this very easily under a socially charming manner, that makes people think they are "nice guys". They are aware of their internal "madness", and can project their fears about themselves onto you - be warned. They are desperately insecure, and definetely control freaks. And I think their emotion switch is set at sub-zero.

Their brains also appear to be bizarrely divorced from certain other parts of their anatomy . They just don't seem to be interconnected. My Aqua calls me a "cavewoman"!

They are quite loyal to their family, but more for loyalty's sake than anything else, not because they necessarily like them.

To get an Aquarian guy to do what you want, tell him to do the opposite. They frequently underachieve, simply due to laziness. Or because of their lack of ego.

I would never EVER get together with another one on principle. They are extremely exhausting. They will argue and argue and argue, try to beat you into submission through words. I was talking to my counsellor recently (a female Aquarian) and she knows two other guys born on the same day as my husband and they ALL have the same emotional detachment/coldness.

Face it, they're simply not human.

LOL

posted January 06, 2005 11:31 AM              

okay, well i'm strongly aquarian (sun merc and mars conjunct in the first), so i identify a lot with what's being said here, however i'm also a taurus moon (squared), so i'm more than a bit of a paradox. also have pisces south node and venus in the 12th, so i tend to have/express more emotion than the typical aquarian, i guess..

like others have said, aquas are extremely cerebral. i think we are rather lonely, in that we do FEEL the intensity of emotion, but we see the patterns surrounding the emotion, and are constantly analyzing that pattern, and projecting that pattern into the future, and meditating on all possible outcomes, etc etc, so we are able to stay detached from the present feeling. can be very frustrating for others, and ourselves. also, we are very afraid of being hurt. we *are* the oddballs, and it can be tricky to articulate a feeling when it's wrapped in so much thinking. sometimes it alienates people even more, when you analyze your/their feelings during an emotional moment, and makes us look even freakier.

that said, i do have a lot of sentiment and emotion in my chart, and have a wonderful piscean boyfriend. i am much more emotionally demonstrative with him than i have ever been able to be with anyone, and it is so freeing. also, he appreciates my ability to put my feelings into thots and theories. and he is helping thaw my oft-aloofness..

posted January 06, 2005 11:47 AM              

On another note....
Aquarius is also a sign capeable of extreme behavior, like a mac-truck sideswiping you while you're parked, or a bolt of lightening out of a blue sky. They have to consciously supress extremes of emotion, it's really for everybody's best interest. It can make them more than a little insane. Luckily, they have the ability to shut it out. Thank GOD they have that ability, honestly.

posted January 06, 2005 12:09 PM              

So here is my way of dealing with them and hopefully that'll help you guys on this thread.

I have a female aquarius friend and I've been stunned last year with the way she just shovels her emotions inside. I thought I was the unemotional one because of my cappy sun! But I also have my ascendant in scorpio and venus in pisces and people would often see me as very emotional. I used to hate that as I want to be the sober cap all the time...But now I consider myself lucky to have my emotions get the better of me most of the time. Because it's sad the ways aquas ignore theirs...

posted January 06, 2005 12:40 PM              

to some that would make me seem to have no emotion, or to be crazy. to me it meant i felt so lucky to be alive, and amused by the weirdness of it all!

we are not cold.. we are just hard to understand!

posted January 06, 2005 01:05 PM              

I was with an aquarian a while back but i think my possessiveness scared him lol. he was out the door before I knew it. A couple of months after came this one. I'm just glad that he's cuddly and he does tell me how he feels about me. But I think it's better to not pressure them and cling on to them. Right now he has ben wanting space and I am going to respect that. We had been fighting lately I was always saying things to him in the phone. The other day we spoke again and he said you seee that's what i like. When we talk like this and get along and you don't bring up any comments. i have been trying so hard lately because I want it to work. Damn my possessive taurus moon.

He is a capricorn sun, aquarius moon, and aquarius rising. His venus is in sagittarius.

I am a cusp gemini/cancer, taurus moon, cancer rising, and my venus is in taurus.

posted January 06, 2005 02:28 PM            

Then, he disappeared. He went overseas for the summer and wrote one email about how he was thinking of me all day, but that was it. I guess he found a girlfriend over there and after emailing HIM about "Hey, what happened to you?" he came to my work to tell me he met someone else. (This was after he came back)

Skip ahead TWO YEARS. I'm obsessed (Scorpio Venus, I guess) But don't show an inkling, and he keeps me hanging on. He wrote me one liners every few weeks MAYBE, and then one night I was in a drunken stupor and wrote him this big thing where I basically told him I felt used by the "one-night-stand" and ranted about it. Must have come out of nowhere in his point of view. But, he seemed really concerned and wanted to fix it. I told him to leave me alone for a while (I was totally embarrassed too) but he pursued and called me up to have coffee.

Yeah! he DOES have feelings! So anyway, over coffee I told him I couldn't see him cuz my boyfriend laid down the law with me. That day was too weird. I've since broken up with the boyfriend (you can't tell a Sag what to do) and wrote to th Aqua a few days ago to see if he wanted to go out for drinks--thinking he wouldn't write back like usual. But he did saying "I would love to." and all these nice things. We texted for a good hour (very rare) and when he said he was going to be out of town for the next two weeks, I thought he was blowing me off nicely (typical Aqua) so I wrote "When you get back, call if you're still interesed" to which he replied "Of course I will be . . ."

posted January 06, 2005 03:06 PM              

I don't mind strong positive emotions, though. I just can't stand the ones that hurt, and would rather not have them. I'll wait until I can be alone for a long time, then release them, if necessary, and have a good cry. Don't want anybody to know if I've been crying, though. Don't want their pity. That's embarressing. Just need to analyze, purge, then get past it as soon as possible.