posted February 07, 2005 04:32 PM              

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an aries man has proclaimed that he loves me -
which was quickly backed up with,
"please don't freak out! i mean only that i have love in my life and i have love for you..."

following this, was a lovely evening of flamefilled moments...
heretofore unmentioned!
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i need to know what your take is on how to delicately handle a relationship with an aries that i care deeply for but am not IN LOVE WITH....without hurting him...
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he knows where i am...he said he wants to make me his...MINE (In his words)
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oh...
what to do ?
what not to do ?
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i'm lucky to be loved....
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me virgo him aries - is there hope - can i defrost my heart enough to keep from freezing his warmth?
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posted February 07, 2005 04:36 PM            

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An Aries said "Mine"?
You had him at "Hello"
Tread gently but not softly.. they aren't as tough as they seem.
Give him a smooch for me.

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posted February 07, 2005 04:52 PM            

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Ah god... I would kill to get The Aries I know say that to me. Ah crap, enough of the self-pity.

Anyhoo, this is very delicate, you don't want to permenantly damage his ego-that would be bad- so I suppose you'll have to let him down very gently. But um, don't be patronising- they hate that. A hug might be good, too. Just keep saying how sorry you are. I think that would work...

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posted February 07, 2005 04:52 PM            

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Could you love him? He sounds pretty convinced of his feelings but you don't seem so sure. I think your Virgo heart needs a little more assurance and convincing.

If you are sure that your feelings will grow and flourish then you should go ahead with it. But if you think that this is as good as it gets and your feelings are to remain stagnant then you shouldn't go any further. Aries, with all their bravado and optimism are quite sensitive at the core. If he is allowed into your arms only for you to realize that this isn't what you want and you reject him, I think that would hurt more then if you just put your foot down right now.

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posted February 07, 2005 05:04 PM              

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i'm worried.
i know how gentle he is, how sensitive, how thoughtful...
he says he only wants the best for me..
i have major committment issues, not to mention the scorpio that i've just completely released from my heart...
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oi vay!
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the thing is this,
we've been friendly lovers for about 6 months - comfortable, snuggly, friendly, loverly...just not all encompassing love!
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i know i have a certain love for him inside, just not that overwhelming "oh my god, i'm in love with you too!" kind of love
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now i wonder what to do... i know to tread gently.

after he told me his feelings,
i told i don't want to hurt him, that i appreciated his affections, i just don't know how to move forward...or if this should just be the end of it..
i know his affections could only get stronger...
i worry that it may become psychotic...
do aries have psychotic tendencies if their love remains unrequited after being expressed???
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oh my oh my!
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posted February 08, 2005 03:28 PM            

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Psychotic tendancies!!! LOL, that's funny... Hmm... don't know... maybe you could find out...?

One question- how can you be friendly lovers for 6 months and still not be sure whether you love him? That's strange... I can't imagine wanting to spend that much time with someone and be their lover and not have a certain love for them. Then again, I can't really, I've never been in a relationship!

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posted February 08, 2005 04:41 PM              

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i suppose that it was a sporadic affair - both my heart and his belonged to another at the time..he was in love with a girl in another country, and me with a man in a distant land near by,...
we found comfort with eachother...were open with eachother...and neither one of us were expecting it to last this long...maybe 1 month...certainly not 6!
last night he looked me in the eye and told me that he knew i was going to break his heart, i giggled and said that i can't break his heart, only he can break his heart...
he knows my intentions are not the same as his...
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i told him he was precious, and he said "and i love you too~"
arghhh
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friends for life...
lovers for a moment...

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posted February 08, 2005 04:45 PM              

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blueflame - its so nice to see you strong and recovered after that time of crisis. I empathise with you, because the Sag in my life, after playing mental volleyball with my heart for a while, has now come back to confess deep and undying love to me too - but on his own terms. Its healing, its gratifying, especially after a scorpionic volcano, to feel the love and enthusiasm of these fire signs, but ultimately, the earth in us needs some soothing complacency. The question is - are we strong enough to bounce back after each rollercoaster ride of flaming fire of these signs? If you could answer that question for me, I would be eternally grateful

Maya

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posted February 08, 2005 04:53 PM            

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"i told him he was precious, and he said "and i love you too~" "

Ahh god, this is really tugging at my heart strings. It should be a film. Hmm, I'm off to write the film...

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posted February 08, 2005 06:50 PM            

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Often not until the grand scope is seen from a distance, do we realize the value of being loved without the romance. This man loves you as you are, as a friend, and that is a special thing. You can't make yourself love anyone, any more than I could accept that in my own life, a Love without LOVE
is shallow indeed... but also deep in retrospect. Be true to him, he doesn't owe you, you don't owe him.... spend time, but don't be moved by the moment to say you love him too... not that I think you would. That way when th smoke is cleared, and you have swam the lake with him, you can look across the journey without shame, and with a clear coinscience, as you have not mislead him.
It is nice to be loved.. even if you don't share quite the same feeling.. it's actually quite interesting, when not fogged by your own love-goggles, to watch as someone loves you....
When yuo know, you know.. without question, and you know you don't. That's okay, no promises could or can ever be made, anyway.

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posted February 09, 2005 03:20 PM              

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"It is nice to be loved.. even if you don't share quite the same feeling.. it's actually quite interesting, when not fogged by your own love-goggles, to watch as someone loves you"
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wow! yeah i guess that is the experience i'm having right now...and i'm def. not accustomed to this!
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as for maya-v - thanks for the props...i wonder if we'll ever recover...or if we'll just keep covering up that deep and mystifying masochistic scorpionic love...
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whatever - i'm just gonna keep on kickin it until i get kicked out...
out of complacency and into love!
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have a great day ya'll ;}
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