posted February 22, 2005 01:17 AM              

I'm an aqua and my ascendant is virgo and in my life i've been attracting a majority of virgos over the other signs. I'm aware that aqua and virgos are not the most compatible signs in the zodiac

I'm currently very much in love with a Virgo and he is SO virgo. So maybe I could get some advice here. I'm from another country and I just came to the states 5 months ago for working purposes. Mr Virgo and I work together in a restaurant. At the beginning I didn't really like him and his ways even drove me crazy at times. Gradually I discovered that he's a very sweet guy, cynical and over-analytical yes but also so helpful to people and with such a big heart, not to mention that i think he's very intelligent. I admired him and felt really attracted gradually.

I thought there was no chance at all that he has any type of interest in me coz at the beginning he -too- was irritated with me. But throughout the weeks we kinda warmed up to each other and after like 2 months, we hanged out together with other coworkers. We made love but there was no fireworks between us. I was very depressed.

Every now and then I spend the night at his place and he invited me out on my birthday, it was really great. He's very sweet to me now (it took a while for him to warm up) but as a true virgo, he doesn't really open up to his feelings, not very good at expressing his feelings and all.

I'm feel sorta lost sometimes coz I've grown to really like him, tons and tons until now I love him but I'm not sure how he feels about me. I'm afraid to ask because I'm afraid that it doesnt matter how gently I ask him about his feelings he might feel pressured.

We've grown closer but that relationship is between friendship and love. The fact that I love him so much and we are not going out together just makes me feel sad sometimes. At times I want to stop making love to him and be just friends but it's hard when i see him almost every day at work and he's so sweet and all.

Any wise advice for me anyone??? Thank you

posted February 22, 2005 03:57 AM              

It was apparent that he was abusive and enjoyed abusing me emotionally. After that if I would distance myself from him and try not to talk to him or associate with him anymore, he would be completely tortured as he had to be the center of the universe.

If you really want to get this guy I would suggest being a strong independent seeming woman. First of all, this will help you in case things do not work out. Its good for there to be a little strength and independence in everyone regardless of their sun sign. And seeing that you're an aqua it should be somewhat natural for you. I have an aqua cousin and she is very assertive and almost aggressive to everyone in the family but melts around men. So if you're like that too, just try to be yourself--your strong, independent self, with this man. Secondly, Ive noticed that Virgo men are attracted by that strong woman thing. Thats one of the reasons that they (are supposed to) get along with Cappy and Taurus women so well; earth women are strong. Don't be tyrannical, but just be firm and flirty at the same time. Also, virgos can be totally kinky. If he's having sex with you doesn't mean that he does love you, and virgos are great at separating the two things. Sex=fun for them, and as to love, thats a whole separate matter. Its entirely possible that its you that he loves, but just keep in mind that to win his heart over, you'll have to move in different ways than if you were planning to win him over physically.

posted February 23, 2005 12:32 AM              

funnily enough most of the things you say seem very familiar to me. My ascendant being virgo, I can relate very much to many of Mr. Virgo man's traits, even though him and me are very very different and view life very differently.

I'm very much aware that Mr Virgo can separate his feelings from sex and that for him, these are not necessarily related. My intuition is telling me that this guy likes me more and more but will never be ready to go out with me. Plus he has a lot of things happening for him (he's starting his career as an artist) and I don't feel that love is in his top priority right now.

Suzy, you are right, as a true aqua i don't have any trouble giving him the freedom he needs and even more but sometimes i'm a bit confused about his feelings and I can't seem to be able to summon the courage to stop our relationship. I mean he is so sweet and he's grown to like me. But as a woman, I'm yearning to be loved by the man I love, a 'liking' doesn't really satisfy me. It's the letting go part that's the most difficult. 1. Because i see him at work almost everyday. 2. Because he's completely adorable.

THe thing that also bothers me is that ladies like him and he loves attention. Now you do the maths. That kinda drive me crazy.

Love to you all,
aqua in love

posted February 23, 2005 08:03 AM              

Be careful not to become an interesting situation to 'just being there for his benefit'.

Make sure, you benefit as well.
Though, hopefully not all Virgo's are raised by selfish 'role models'.

posted May 13, 2005 12:11 AM              

Thanks a lot to all of you for your invaluable input.