posted March 08, 2005 11:52 PM              

I'll just be old-grumpy and lonely for the rest of my life

posted March 09, 2005 12:13 AM            

Im in the same boat too- oh well-

and its my birthday!

March 9- Happy Birthday to me...

Keep looking up and someday(I know) someday,that special someone is going to walk into your life and bless you with gobs of love and affection... see, i have to say this to myself over and over again, thats what keeps me going on and strong!

I also use this down time or time alone to focus much needed attenttion on myself; how can I better myself in many ways.

Take care and good luck on your shoulders

posted March 09, 2005 12:31 AM              

quote:

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need love got picter

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translation: do u have a pic, if you look like Angelina Jolie, I'll be your true love - cross my heart

lol SD

But seriously IneedLove.. you're only 2 yrs older than me. You wont be old and lonely trust me. Maybe it's just ona those days when you think you'll give up on love due to some bad experience. I mean sure there's shallow dikheads out there, of both sexes I might add.But men DO care, women care to - it's only natural. Stir clear of the shallow types and I'm sure you'll find your guy and he'll be sweet and care about you loads

posted March 09, 2005 02:06 AM              

meanwhile, please please enjoy the single life. i cannot stress how good that life is.

when i got out of my horrid marriage it was a sigh of relief. still sometimes when i am lying down in private i feel pangs of nostalgia of the rare good times i had with ex hubby virgo. i know i know, very unlike the shallow gemini, im supposed to be having a ball, while organizing my laundry, reading watching a movie, playing ping pong, and pondering the meaning of Kant's categorical imperative. but no...there are those times when i think God and just God, or all the rejection ive suffered in life and just that. we all go through those times, but we must remember to put ourselves back into perspective....we are not just humans reduced to the need for others, we are little complex cosmopolitans within ourselves. we're amazing ppl!

you do need love very much ineedlove; but first of all, you need to love yourself. the love of others will follow, believe me. confidence is a sexy thing!

meanwhile, this is my prescription, tried and true, for a viable substitute for love:
1. manicure and pedicure
2. get my hair done
3. flirt with the cute guy who bags my groceries.
4. meditate before i sleep.
5. spend an hour alone with the stars and the moon and no one else
6. pull out all the birthday cards anyone ever gave me and feel dayumn good about myself
7. getting laid or having chocolate, whichever turns you on
8. reading the favorite part of the Dubliners again to myself; "Araby"
9. wearing my shortest shirt and walking the confidence walk
10. exercise and lots of water

for the guys you can skip the first two but the affect should be the same.

posted March 09, 2005 02:37 AM              

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meanwhile, please please enjoy the single life. i cannot stress how good that life is.

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posted March 09, 2005 02:56 AM              

*waves her manicured hands* ha!

*watches VTT run into distance*

posted March 09, 2005 03:06 AM              

quote:

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meanwhile, this is my prescription, tried and true, for a viable substitute for love:
1. manicure and pedicure
2. get my hair done
3. flirt with the cute guy who bags my groceries.
4. meditate before i sleep.
5. spend an hour alone with the stars and the moon and no one else
6. pull out all the birthday cards anyone ever gave me and feel dayumn good about myself
7. getting laid or having chocolate, whichever turns you on
8. reading the favorite part of the Dubliners again to myself; "Araby"
9. wearing my shortest shirt and walking the confidence walk
10. exercise and lots of water

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1. I could use a good pedicure/manicure
2. I could get my hair done
3. I could flirt
4. I could meditate
5. I could spend some time alone
6. I only got 1 birthday card not something to feel good about
7. I'm a virgin so I don't get laid... and I can't stand the taste of chocolate
8. What is the Dubliner's book about... who is "Araby"?
9. It's cold where I'am ... can't wear a tank top
10. I need to exercise and drink water

posted March 09, 2005 03:15 AM              

Yo Libra, Aquarius, Taurus and Scorpio dudes get your arses over here! Woo woo!

posted March 09, 2005 03:19 AM              

Dear ineedlove:
6. you have many more birthdays to come hopefully, and even if you don't have the cards, im sure you have the love and wishes and thoughts sent your way...because i remember sending love and wishes and thoughts every morning to everyone whos birthday it happens to be, every year since i was 12. Much love to you, you precious precious person
7. If you are a virgin, all the better. I talked to natasha earlier about sex--and that I have not had traditional sex and am not a big fan of it myself, but for me it is a different level of spirituality...that is, a physical expression of love. So send a flying kiss to the most handsome man you've ever met, and you must try white chocolate covered strawberries, otherwise just strawberries, as they are a girls true best friend
8. dubliners is my fav book to read when i want to escape reality...and i believe everyone should have one such book. Don't have one? Thats even more exciting--because now you can start the search of your favorite book and read all sorts of neat books
9. Don't wear a tank top--wear the bra that makes you feel sexiest, and walk like everyone knows it.

posted March 09, 2005 03:23 AM              

I know what you mean though, nail filing is the most dreaded part of it all, some women do manicures and pedicures so dreadfully that it makes you feel like they are prolonging the 'scrape' moment between your nail and the file. For some odd reason it reminds me of nails on a chalkboard

*SHUDDERS*

Your random stories crack me up VTT lol@ kiosk story

why am i so overly happy i feel like a blithering idiot...

ahh well its better than being eeyore-ish right, although i personally find him to be the sexiest donkey alive.

posted March 09, 2005 07:54 AM              

You’re too young to give up on love. Besides, you’re not meant to look for love - it must find you. So relax, no need to worry. You’re not gonna be old, grumpy and alone.

Now I don’t know if this will be of any help - but I hope it makes you feel better.

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”
- Buddha

You shouldn’t give up - say…I’m taking a break.
There are a lot of losers in this world, but don’t worry, there are some gems

I hope you start feeling better - I’m sure you’ll be fine

posted March 09, 2005 08:29 AM              

little me has chiron trine venus coming up, lil ineedlove - by the way, who doesn't, who says that it needs to be a boyfriend who loves you. again, they are there for other reasons, but then you must be honest enough to change your username into... well... you know so be honest!

i am 26 now, i live in cologne, germany, and i have been looking for the man i love for quite a while... it seems that for a few days, with my tine, i have had them enter my life like at no point during the last years. it's still all very fragile, but i sense, that i will approach it differently this time - a little more patient, which usually i am not in these matters. with less expecatations, and thus potential for disappointment.

and something, dear ineedlove, wants to tell me that it might be the more promising way to find what truly you are looking for. a very deep love, which will involve the physical as well, but something much more than that. and that, my dear ineedlove, is a gift which can only be worth so much as you are willing to give it. remember, it will come to you - and it will be the most rewarding thing to wait for... however long!

greetz from wintery cologne...

posted March 09, 2005 12:56 PM              

TO INEEDLOVE, ETC.

wow - relationships take A LOT of work even the relationship between you and yourself.

besides, it's when you are not looking for it (or even saying it) that poof - what you asked for/wanted will come into your life. you are just getting right now what you don't remember asking for and those things will help you tremendously when you finally do get what you asked for/wanted.

BUT - here is the kicker - whenever those negative feelings/sad "i'm missing something" feelings enter your heart, mind, spirit you could say in your most surest of selves - YOU DON'T DESERVE ME. hey, it's pretty cool and you are telling yourself that you do care about you and will stand by you. dependence and independence is so important when you are single - when there are two of you - there is a big thing called compromise (balance), you cannot compromise (balance) with another if you have not semi-mastered compromising (balancing) with self (sound the same as if you can't love yourself, you can't truly love someone else or no-one else can love you more than you love you, or if you cant love yourself how could you possibly know when someone else is loving you). and if it is difficult for you to do this now with yourself - it's 10 xs more difficult when you are trying to do this with another. discover yourself.

ohhhh, make a list of why you want a partner in life and when (very important - i mean, details like how you would like your life to be when they do come into your life, what you would have accomplished by then, etc), why you think men only want sex and food, why you feel a man will never love you, and what lonely, old and grumpy mean to you. this will help you decipher what you have yourself to believe because you are trying to keep up with the jonses (what you have read, what you see on tv, movies, etc., etc.) or because of experiences you've witnessed in your own personal world (parents, friends, etc.). oh yeah, define love according to you too - that definition goes through it's transition in individuals lives like changing drawers.

a friend once told me - it's cool that you are a virgin - then you can't miss what you never had. i looked at her like she was crazy but you know something? sex is a drug - for good or bad. if you are not careful, what's so beautiful about you could go through scrutiny, criticism, judgment (aka exploited) and possibly destroyed by you and others so this is why it is best to find ALL of your strengths and weaknesses now, on your own, first and foremost - according to YOU. p.s. i love the suggestions and they do work wonders and i mean wonders.

btw - finding a partner isn't a race no matter what anybody says and there are so many fulfilling relationships that can come into your life if you try to refrain from needing a defining name for it - a "friendship" to someone may be just as important to them as you finding "love/lover".

btw - there are people who are offered "love" and get scared too - i'm one of them. i was too stuck on what i asked for and i never asked for a partner. guess what, i was offered partners faster than i was given what i asked for. needless to say, i needed to confront that before i could get what i asked for - you dig?

take care and definitely stay strong. i'm glad you came here to find what you probably don't remember you were looking for - it's here. you know. best of luck. strive to be you and you cannot be denied true.

posted March 10, 2005 11:18 AM              

ineedlove -

It is so sad reading your post. I think we have all been there, or STILL ARE there, or just came from there, or are heading there!!! Life is crazy that way.