posted April 25, 2005 05:45 PM            

so I'm still smitten by my Gemi guy.

HELP. LOL!

I told him I want to be with him, but he doesn't trust me. I don't understand.
I haven't given him a reason NOT to trust me!
I am a free spirit, I like to flirt and that's all it is. Why does he not get this!? I thought a Gemi would get it!
What else could I do to convince him?
He can get so jealous it drives me mad!
Maybe it's the Taurus in his chart?

Also speaking of Taurus influence--what does it mean for me to have my Taurus moon/8th house along with his Venus/Mars Taurus both in the 8th? Does that create strong, intense sexual attraction? Too much maybe?
I want to understand.

PS is it hard for Gemini's to give compliments? It seems that way with my Gem at times. He doesn't like getting all emotional. He usually says, "You KNOW how I feel." He figures if he said it once before, I should just know. Being a Leo, I have no problem letting someone know how I feel, telling them what I like about them ect(maybe other Leos can relate? ). I am comfortable with affection. So I get a bit offended when he acts like it's bothersome. I like knowing the person I'm with wants to be all about me in everyway (and vice versa). Does that seem like too much to ask? My Mars in Scorpio might be demanding, lol! I know he cares, but it's nice to be reminded. Is there something I am doing wrong? Maybe I shouldn't let it get to me...*sigh* he is a sweet Gem afterall (w/Moon and Merc in Gem too), it's just how he works. Anybody have advice?
thank you thank you much! XXOO

posted April 25, 2005 08:37 PM              

he is probably 99 percent having intense feelings for you and not wanting to express them. i dont think its a gem thing but in fact an air sign male thing. currently an Aqua i am crushing on , who previously told me he likes me A LOT and im 'his girl' (his own words!) is acting like he doesnt know me even coz of a little spat we had. and a friend of mine is going thru a really tough time with this libra dude who can't make up his mind on whether he loves her or not!

these air men can be real charmers, great conversationalists, very emotional but not very good communicators with their emotions. and the reason i am pinpointing air men is coz even tho it may seem that earth men may be more reserved about their emotions, their body language at least is unified and sends one message, which is easier to read. air men on the other hand closely guard their actions and words when it comes to mushy mushy stuff and its horribly difficult to figure any freaking thing out!

my sympathies are with u!

u are a lioness, u have the regal air going on and im sure he would feel at a great loss if he couldn't be with you; don't come on too too strong but it is ur independence that attracts him, even if he is jealous, for Geminis jealousy = real attraction, if I like a guy i wont be jealous but if i REALLY have the hots for him i can get jealous pretty darn easily.

good luck, and

posted April 27, 2005 04:13 AM              

about the complements well, if he's anything like me i only say it if i actually think so and mean it.

so u can bet when ever he complements you he means it.

posted April 28, 2005 06:15 PM              

Geminis don't really want any complications, I think the Gemini men anyway, like an easier life. Even the really attractive ones, who seem secure, are with less than attractive, women who are more secure in their domestic skills,

My mars opposes Gemini, so I have some arguments with them. But in those arguments they tell me their fears. Being left is a big fear, for another man, having a woman show off, not being his woman, that kind of thing. If you talk about another man, who is nice to you, he will want you, only dont' do it too often, it has to be real too, as if you are really considering leaving or he will know.

Your life has to be your own, but there is always the possibility you may be tempted by another man simply because he charms you, then your Gemini can charm you back. Gemini men don't feel they can compete with money, or looks, just availability or charm.

I have been able to keep a Gemini very interested simply by dating another man, of course it didn't work out for me, but if you were willing to drop the other man, and go back to him, a Gemini would always be happy to do that. If he chooses another woman, it's best to be his friend to show you are not jealous and then wait until he's tired of her, and then he'll always come back to you.

Love yourself, and then you won't need even more love from your Gemini, he won't grow more affectionate over time, Gemini men tend to be the most affectionate at the start and then stabilize. Stable affection is the best you can hope for, but it's not exactly as warm as a Leos. You have to be looking for a certain kind of relationship, where things are not the same forever. Geminis get very bored fast and are afraid to commit and get sucked into guilt and drama over being unhappy.

Personally I love having a Leo male friend around to get air kisses,

posted April 30, 2005 01:10 PM            

sana, thank you for your suggestions!!! They were wonderful!! You are such a doll--thank you for putting up with my constant inquiries about Gems! hehe...hmm, I wonder why more Leos haven't talked about their experiences w/Gems?

hi thirdbenjamin, to answer your question..I think it's turned into complete interest. at first I didn't know what to think, but he called me every night and we'd talk for hours and hours--then, he started to get jealous when I talked about other guys, but said I could do what I want, that I'm free. Now recently he told me he just wants to be with me. So apparently, now I am not free, lol! I don't know what to do. Sometimes I don't feel appreciated by him, but I like him a whole bunch.

Natasha, once again thank you for your help.
I think I might be too emotional for my Gemini. He just isn't as affectionate or open to love as me. He wasn't raised that way. So maybe it wouldn't last--because you can't change someone, but I really like him. Maybe we could learn and grow from it and hopefully still be friends. I don't know know. I still have to figure out what's going on. Thanks again.

posted April 30, 2005 10:36 PM              

This is not meant as offense to any Gems (cause I love em), but to deal with a Gem man, you'd best read books on parenting genius children, cause that's what these precious beings are. So so very smart, can be extremely intuitive, INSECURE, yet key word is, I can't stress this enough - MOODY. Repeat this to yourself. Write it in your daily planner. TATTOO it on yourself if you must. Their mood can make you happy, sad, big and small. Baby talk one minute, cunning/disrescpectful ******* the next.

Gems, like everyone else, can get jealous. Where they differ, is the response towards you. It may bring them closer, it may not, depending on whether they can figure out it's a game you're playing. That's where everyone would best be careful playing with jealousy for jealousy's sake, i.e. deliberately just testing partner and arousing jealousy.

LOVELY LIONESS - don't bother putting on too much of a show for him, he wants to see the real you, guaranteed. Don't think Gems are strictly only attracted to free, flirtatious types, in fact, some abhor that type of thing. What Gems want is someone REAL. To them, it's smart and sexy, no ******** about who they are - someone to put Gem's feet on the ground. And eventually, he WILL begin to think of you as the most unique woman he's ever known *wink*.

Good luck, girl, keep us updated on how it goes.

posted June 05, 2005 01:44 PM            

Just wanted to say THANK YOU! You were right on about everything you said. Sorry, I haven't had a chance to respond until now, but I really appreicate all you said. And the fact that you are a fellow Leo is even more help (of course)!!! Must be the Leo empathy.

posted June 06, 2005 01:26 PM              

I'm a newbie here and a Gemini Woman. I have to say that I am NOT an easy person and have found Gemini men to be VERY challenging as well.

One of the most important things is to be his friend first. Everything else can come afterwards. Keep something in reserve for yourself. We all love mystery and the feeling that there are hidden depths.

Stay strong and this will work. Deep down we want to be with someone who accepts us for who we are , but we can be afraid of intense emotion though we feel as deeply as the next person.