posted May 29, 2005 10:36 AM              

I found this in referenced to another sign but I thought it really does fit the capricorn. What do you think?

Here some tips if you actually decide to try the impossible(aka understand a Capricorn):

1. You must be intelligent, know politics and tolerant. If you’re any of the negative aspects don’t expect to catch this butterfly, if you’re not intelligent you will not catch up to him at all.

2. Be patient, without this you’re pretty much S-C-R-E-W-E-D, I use to think I was the most impatient person in the world, hell I still am, but somehow with him, It's like he transformed me into a much more patient person, maybe it's just with him, or maybe I’ve changed in general.

3. Play mind games, I don’t know if they purposely try to play mind games or what, but if you’re not familiar with cappy you’ll automatically assume he is playing hard to get, which pretty much is, he just does it without realizing it or so they want us to think...mm hmm..

4. Don't call him a lot, don't talk to him a lot, just keep contact to a minimal, well in the beginning; anyway, they need this thing called space, and if you don’t give that to them, well, you'll get a sharp tongue jammed in your ear. It seems to me the only ways to get to his heart is to treat him like sh!t. In all honestly, it's sad but true, and maybe this is just the Cappy I know but you have to treat them like sh!t or they’ll treat you like sh!t.

5. Understand he's not like other people, he's different, and that’s what you adore about the ass, he's so different from other people you can't help but want to follow him into the forest of his out of this world perspective...

6. Don't cry a lot, Okay, you can be emotional, sentimental, but not over the top, they usually tend to get very uncomfortable, don't know what to say, and get completely silent, not the good kind of silence, the silence that pulls your skin off your body...::shivers:::

7. Don't revolve your world around him, it will never work if you resolve your life around him, plus he won't respect you, he likes a girl who does her own thing, and doesn’t depend on him for everything.

8. He wants to be friends first, that’s how the relationship of love usually develops, rarely will a cappy just date someone they’ve known for little time, and if they do, it doesn’t last.

9. If you’re unique, out there, sweet, kind, intelligent, loving, funny, nonconformist, you’re SET, these are usually what cappy's are looking for, plus beauty usually sets their eyes on you in a sweet way.

10. They can say the most beautiful things to you that leave you completely awe struck OUT OF FREAKIN NOWHERE, something out of poetry.

11. If he seems like he's ignoring you, he's not, he's busy, doing his own thing, wrapped up in work school life, or his little box...ignore him, that’s the only way unfortunately, and when you do finally get him off your damn mind he shows up out of nowhere like nothing happened, ready to talk your ear off...sigh..

12. He has a weird sense of humor, he'll say silly things and sometimes its funny and sometimes its not, but laugh anyway, he'll love you for it...but don’t do it in a fake sense...

13. ANALYZE, expect to analyze everything he says and does, even after reading this you'll be like but but but....yeah don’t bother, you’ll NEVER FIGURE THE DAMN GUY OUT, and that’s WHATS so alluring, right>>??? Right...

14. Don’t try to make him jealous, doeeeeeees not WORK, I REPEAT DONT TRY THIS, DONT DONT DONT, YOU'LL LOOK FLASHY AND FOOLISH, don’t bother, it wont work, he'll just say "that’s nice" calm calm calm..

15. You want to ask him something? Holy sh!t don’t expect a BULLSH!T answer! expect the truth, even if it hurts, his words stand on a fine line between cruel and sweet...you just breathe easier when it's sweet...trust me when its sweet, it's heaven..

16. Stand BY HIM, he might seem like he's pushing you away one minute then holding you close the next, he is probably testing you, examining you, probing in with a flashlight, trying to figure your motives, your thoughts, don’t take too much of his aloof BS though, stand your ground once and awhile, he doesn’t want a girl he can walk all over but he doesn’t want a girl who cries by a drop of a hat. He needs a girl who can handle him, aka a very strong individual.

17. He's shy, but has a few close friends, who mean a lot to him, he hates confrontations, and conflict, if you must confront a cappy; expect to deal with a very stubborn uncomfortable situation.

posted May 29, 2005 11:57 PM            

1. Yes

2. YES! Must have patience.

3. Mind games? I don't think so. At least that's not what we set out to do. There is a kernel of truth to that, though. We withdraw quite a bit and quite often. If you're able to wait it out, we will trust you more.

4. We do not jump down people's throats about giving us space, but we will need space. You do have to demonstrate your ability to stand on your own two feet. We do want an equal partner in a relationship, so you can't be too weak (but don't be overly strong either).

5. Yes, we're odd.

6. It's true we won't know what to say if you're getting really emotional, but I think we will be there for you to lean on. My instinct is to hold a crying partner.

7. Absolutely! This one is VERY important. It's tough enough being a Cap. We don't want to be totally responsible for someone else's happiness or emotional security in addition to our own. It's just too big a load for us to bear.

8. I'll take a chance on someone I've not known for a long time, but you are typically better off if there is an aspect of yourself that can be friends with him instead of lovers only.

9. True true.

10. Mmmm...the Cappy secret weapon. We are romantic souls.

11. There's a lot of truth to this. You can interupt if you feel like it, but a lot of times we'll be happy to see you at the other side when we're done.

12. LOL

13. Yeah, that's a tough one. It may be impossible.

14. That's funny. Trying to make a Cap jealous can bakefire a couple ways. If you're trying to attract a Cap, you may take yourself out of the picture by associating too closely with a guy the Cap can't respect.

I think she more referred to once the Cap and you have a commitment he's comfortable in. If you've stayed with a Cap long enough to reach this stage where he totally trusts you, then you've done a superb job. You deserve a reward.

Oh, you could also be referring to trying to make him jealous with a guy he doesn't feel threatened by in the least. We do have an instinct as to how we rank in relation to other guys, so if you were using a weak man to try to make your Cap jealous you're not likely to get much of a response.

15. YES YES YES!!! I can't emphasize that one enough! Water signs listen up! If something that you've done makes you proud, don't ask for your Cap's opinion. He will give you an honest opinion even when he knows it's not what you want to hear. It's our own sense of integrity. I think maybe the best thing you can do is ask him to look at something (without a, "What do you think?" at the end). He may only make a small remark, but at least you won't have to hear what his brutal truth is. If he likes it, though, he will let you know.

16. Yes absolutely! Goes along with previous ones. Be patient, be there, wait, and we will come back to being more there again.

17. Mmmm...yeah. Sorry.

18. Yes, that's true. Your loyalty means a TON to us, because we realize that we are hard to deal with. If you're there throughout it all he will love you more.

posted June 04, 2005 11:46 AM            

TP That is a fantastic analysis of Capricorns, at least from my experience you are spot-on!!!! Plus, you have sincerely explained a lot of things to me there that have generally made me better off for knowing, so genuinely thankyou!!!

Capricorns are always somewhat undefinable but I'm guessing you've had way more Cappy exposure than most people therefore making you an expert!

Oh and thanks AG for backing up and confirming some stuff!

Can I just ask..... is it normal for a Cappy guy to be rather erractic with his behaviour... ie. One day you speak to him, he's funny, charming and generally nice, the next day he's cold, snappy and illusive?

posted June 08, 2005 07:17 PM            

I'm not certain exactly what you mean. It sounds like you're saying that the Capricorn observed some things, and then months later tried to use the information against somebody (you). Is that correct?

If that is the case, then, yes, I have done that. The last time was when I was in the Navy. There was a guy that was ALWAYS asking for cigarettes from people. I stopped giving them to him, and he started being a jerk to me. I didn't do anything about it for a long time. Then one night in Japan he ended up sitting at the same table as me at a bar on base. Somehow our entrance exam (ASVAB) came up, and he said he got a 33 on it. I'd gotten a 90. I gave him a hard time about it for the rest of the night. For a few days he wanted to fight me, but nothing ever happened, and then he was cool with me again.

There have been many times that I've waited for the right moment to get back at enemies. People always reveal their weaknesses. I know it's bad.

posted June 09, 2005 01:29 PM            

Tranquil_Poet, Ok I guess this is just like one of my secrets but I will say this to you, I am a very very jealous person, seriously, but whenever this guy I like comes to me and talks about this other girl, I just say the exact words "thats nice" because I heard that jealousy is not good for relationships and all but the truth is that I get really jealous but I just act like I am unaffected (which is weird of me, I know), and I say "thats nice" because I can't think of anything else to say, plus I sort of think that saying your jealous makes you look like clingy for use of a better word (and I know its not a good thing for me to think that way) . Now don't tell this to anyone, but maybe he might be feeling the same way too?

posted June 09, 2005 01:50 PM            

i think u are a bit right about the reality and cardinal relation but i have a feeling u are being sympathetic to sign , ain't u ?(LOL) so it doesn't really apply here , because i might be wrong but now after three months this same feeling is shared by everyone that thier balancing attitude most often works for creating the negative perceptions about them only . i am talking of caps in general here , i have a cap sis , i felt this problem with her too ( her husband shares b'day with me )

posted June 09, 2005 07:36 PM            

I'm also a jealous, and quietly possessive person.

Oh, and everyone address Tranquil Poet about this, but as far as I know she just reposted this from another forum.

Cancerrg,

I was only partially using the Cardinal quality as an excuse for Capricorns. I think that between two Cardinal signs like Cancer and Capricorn it's possible that you'll get two different versions of the, "truth."

It sounds like you're saying that this Capricorn imagined the circumstances ofthis argument he used against you. Is that true?

I would like you to tell me more about the power balance thing.

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i have a feeling they sometime downright use the other person

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This is interesting, because in some astrology books they assign slogans to each of the signs. The one for Capricorn is, "I use." I do believe there's a lot of truth to it. I don't think it's often a malicious thing. It's said that Capricorns are the ones who see a project through completion, which would require us using the skills of other people.

from http://love.astrology.com/fpcapricorn.html

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If a Capricorn thinks you can't do anything for them, it may be difficult to break into their inner circle. If, however, you've managed to work your way up the corporate ladder or have something to offer, the Goat will embrace you for life. Expect yours to be a structured friendship. (I don't agree with this -> )If you make plans, your Capricorn buddy will schedule an itinerary for you, and you had better be on time and ready to go along with the plan.(<-end) At times, the Goat may seem to you more like a parent figure than a friend. They might think they have all the answers and will try to impress you with the extent of their knowledge on any subject they think will help you. If you have impeccable manners, are successful in your own right and manage to win the affections of Capricorn, you will find that you have earned an extremely devoted friend who will be kind to you no matter what happens in your life. Don't be alarmed if they test your loyalty over and over again. A Capricorn who has once had their trust betrayed, by anyone, takes a long time to heal.

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