posted July 05, 2005 08:08 PM              

My inner self has been telling me for days now, this Aries cannot be good, he cannot be good and now some things have started to point in that direction

I do feel as though I love him, and I do think that he loves me also, but hes doing something very fishy.... and Ive known him since we were both kids, so my sixth sense has to be saying something right, about the girls he spends time with, when he never did before, and the indirect guilt and things hes been putting me through...the possessiveness, the material concerns. It all hit me today when we had a huge argument.

Ive decided to give him a week. If he can clarify fine, if not, then Id have to end it

Its painful always, im still a believer in love

But I dont think hes it...AG and others asked me why not the aqua why the aries,

and although he loves me and the aqua cant accept love, i need love for love,

yet i can see clearly that I get along better with the aqua then the aries.

What to do? SHould I go ahead and end it or not? If you think I Should please send strength my way Im in such dire need of it. My scorp moon is apparently out on vacation or something coz all i am right now is a raw bundle of mercurian nerves. lol

Well I will be strong. I will have to, because I am me, I face my world everyday and Ive developed enough responses to get through my days. But I wish I had enough strength to more than get through my days you know, to be able to accept and embrace, and most of all, to be patient

posted July 05, 2005 08:47 PM            

Tomorrow's New Moon too, got your Wishes/Letter to the Universe planned?

posted July 05, 2005 09:31 PM              

yes i hope the new moon brings a whole new sense of peace, Im holding onto that last bit of resolve and common sense inside me, before I let all the insanity , emotional and intellectual, loose!

Pix, thank u yes it is questions isnt it? but sometimes questions are so hard to deal with, be they someone elses or ur own, because they challenge the mind and the heart. I remember ur thread a while ago about u wondering if u still had the spark with ur man, and then u rediscovered it when u 2 got to spend some time together... im glad ur questions only led to an affirmation of ur relationship, its difficult to have to walk out of one becoz u wake up to the answers of the questions u never knew existed

posted July 06, 2005 12:07 AM              

i send my gratitude and love ur way

posted July 06, 2005 12:09 AM              

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, Taurus moon

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A woman's head is always influenced by heart; but a man's heart by his head.

posted July 06, 2005 12:19 AM              

i felt so bad for not being able to wish u a happy bday! i know u got my bday thread started but my username screwed me over those days and i had to resurrect myself as SGAgain. Its so late now! But still happy belated bday

posted July 06, 2005 02:46 PM            

I’m sending you all the strength I can gather at the moment; I’m not feeling too great recently… Also an Aries has been troubling me… I’ve heard these are turbulent times… It has been a rocky way over the las few months… But don’t worry, it’s about to get better…

Just relax and don’t think of him. It does wonders for me… Your-self will find the answer… Because you know all the answers within you… You just don’t know yet that you do… Wait until the truth will be unveiled…

posted July 07, 2005 08:18 PM              

im fine today thanks, i havent had the courage to break up with him, and i dont know if i should really, i have no concrete reasno but my suspicions and fears, my gut tells me this is not right and he is not right, hes lying to me

half the things he says sound like outright lies, unbelievable really

i hate lying with a passion , if i love someone i couldnt lie to them, but if i resent someone or anything else lying is no problem, i know that isnt right, and i try to control it, but being a Gemini it really is difficult to control the facade , and lying is my facade from probs i dont like to deal with,

once we got into this relationship i told him i wouldnt lie with him but my sixth sense is screaming that he lies right and left, and this is bothering me beyond belief. i feel i may have to start lying with him becoz he can sense thati am feeling distant and not raelly happy, especially when he is around.

maybe it is just that he doesnt challenge me on a mental level, but it really is a big problem for me....this situation at least...

running bull, moon duchess, cancerrg, thanks so much for ur replies

yah steelrose i will be patient, i will let things unfold. maybe i need to stop thinking about doing, and start thinking about being, and letting,

the passive words, not the active ones

but i also dont want thing to move so fast that i end up breaking his heart when hes so in love that he cant take any sort of negative turn, because he is like that (extremist in love, a very typical passionate aries male).

Thanks and keep sending that love this way

Love
SG

posted July 08, 2005 02:45 PM              

Make a clean break now, and let the lying boyfriend move on and find someone else who is a better match. You really are doing him a favor by ending the relationship now. Do not let him invest his time, energy, or $ into a relationship that will not be one of his expectations.

Again, my daughter and you share similarities. You might recall - months ago - my daughter started dating a guy who lied. Well, she went out with him for months - thought their relationship was based on love. With time, the love didn't matter. Truth did. She finally ended it. Seems like you have already made the decision, but you are concerned about hurting his feelings. So, here is some strength being sent your way - to end a relationship that is not good for you.

posted July 08, 2005 02:54 PM            

SG,

In matters of the heart,
Follow your gut.

You ARE strong.

posted July 08, 2005 03:22 PM              

Just wanted to say hello.

SG - You can use this link to see a pic of my daughter. Her best friend and previous room mate is pictured with her. Julie (my daughter) is on the right side. Guess the (2) of them are having some fun in some bar in SF. I don't need to know the details about THAT. Any way, you'll probably have fun in CA.

key

posted July 08, 2005 03:23 PM              

The dilemma is, if I were to hook up with the Aries, he would not only, at least for a while, be financially dependent on me, but also he would want to incultrate me into his culture (Which is different from mine). I love learning about different cultures (ninth house Gemini stellium) and can speak several languages, but see I dont like the idea of learning a language 'for someone'...it would have to be on a personal, intellectual basis....just as I dont expect him to incultrate into my culture....

besides this he is younger than the Aqua, Aries are usually less mature/somber than Aqua anyways and in a way I really miss the Aqua having the answers and the right things to say to my questions. the Aries cant really answer my questions or provide me support. Deep inside, I am still a Gemini and mutable, despite fixed/Scorp being 'heaviest' in my chart. I need my support system to be alive and well.... and the Aries needs my support constantly because he is so emotionally fragile.

posted July 08, 2005 03:24 PM              

on the other hand I can see a more accomodating, compromising future between myself and the Aqua...even if it were forever.

the only problem is, the Aqua is so unstable. I dont want to have to leave the Aries to find that I am alone and abandoned by the Aqua, because the next prettiest thing caught his attention instead...its really a horrible feeling i know coz its happened to me before...

The Aqua is settled in financial terms, has a secure job, is very intelligent, and doesnt expect me to learn his culture (although hes from the same culture as the Aries--which is a diff culture than mine).

Should I stay with the secure deal , the kind of rocky love,

or should I go for the stimulating friendly relationship with the Aqua, where there is more understanding

???

Mama mia i dont really get ur drift in ur post. Maybe its coz ive had like 4 hrs of sleep in the past 48 hrs lol. but the words just seemed to merge into each other and all i coudl understand was "lies...hes telling lies...aries...aqua..."

would u mind clarifying?

Love
SG

ps. btw why do u disagree with AG's theory cancerrg?

posted July 08, 2005 03:33 PM              

hows ur daughter doing? lovely pics there, and looks like shes having a good time huh

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Guess the (2) of them are having some fun in some bar in SF. I don't need to know the details about THAT. Any way, you'll probably have fun in CA.

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yes key i can see why u wouldnt wanna know u'll be glad to know that i dont drink

im glad that ur daughter got out of that relationship. i just hope that my heart and mind can guide me to do the right thing

hows ur dilemma with the son/daughter inheritance issue?