posted August 08, 2005 06:57 PM            

Composite Pluto in the seventh house can have two quite opposite effects. On the one hand it can signify that the two of you work very hard to create a viable relationship. You recognize that this relationship is having a great impact on both of you, and you experience it as a way of gaining a new, regenerated life. This can be expected if your relationship is otherwise quite good.

If there is a great deal of stress, however, a quite different effect will emerge. In this case each of you will continually try to dominate the other: in other words, a power struggle. If one of you wins this struggle, the other will feel extremely stifled, which will probably lead to further trouble.

Most couples experience a mixture of good and bad effects from a seventh-house Pluto. If you wish to keep this relationship going, continue working together for growth and development. And try to lower the pressure.

The conjunction of Saturn and Pluto in your composite chart indicates that the two of you may have to face difficult times together and that you will have to struggle quite hard to keep going. But these difficulties are not so likely to occur within the relationship; more probably the two of you will experience difficulties with the outside world.

You may undergo periods of economic scarcity, for example, or times when everything seems to be working against you. Together you will have a kind of rugged persistence that people will envy. You will survive where others fail.

Although this aspect is not the easiest, it may actually strengthen a relationship because of the ruggedness it confers. At the same time, if the two of you have gone through a lot of trouble together, you may feel more strongly about staying together.

and also:

With the opposition of Venus and Pluto in the composite chart you will have to be very careful. Somehow this relationship dredges up all kinds of deeply buried emotions that you may not really want to cope with. At its best, this power can cause you both to become new and more authentic people than you have been. But at its worst you will just play around with each other's feelings and what comes of playing around will make both of you feel quite bad about yourselves.

The feelings between you can be powerful forces for good or bad, so use each other wisely.

and:

Mars Opposition Pluto

With the opposition of Mars and Pluto in the composite chart it will be difficult for the two of you to avoid conflict and power struggles in any kind of relationship. In extreme cases there could be physical violence.

The reasons for the extreme effects of this aspect are as follows. Mars has a great deal to do with the ego-drive, whereby one becomes a fully self-expressive individual. Pluto represents the energy of intense and fundamental transformations. When Mars and Pluto are opposed, this energy is combined inharmoniously with the ego-drives. Or to put it in less philosophical terms, a cosmic power is subjected to purely personal and selfish drives.

In order to deal with this energy constructively, it is necessary to reverse the roles of Pluto and Mars, so that the ego-drives are transformed by the cosmic power of Pluto. Unless you both do this, the experience will be very unpleasant. You must let this relationship change and transform you without resistance.

Well, good luck to you and I hope this helped a little. At the bottom I've included links to good synastry information if you're interested in doing some research yourself. If you haven't already, go to astro.com, enter your birth information and do an "astro click partner" composite reading, it's a surprisingly accurate and informative read considering it's just cut and paste snippets on the aspects and placements.

posted August 11, 2005 08:59 AM            

also we have neptune conj. asc, his conjs mine and mine his...so i guess we have both these effects on each other, when we first spoke, it just felt...i dont know...DIFFERENT...special...like we were catching up, and it was simple, and honest, but i couldnt put my finger on it...def liked him but didnt think he liked me, so i didnt bother, surprise surprise, he always liked me, and ive always taken away his attention towards me...so yeah...but the negative part of this aspect is one or both people idealize the other, in a way, that sometimes can be unhealthy...for the longest time i did that, not sure he does, who knows, putting the other on a "pedestal" of expectations...not good, but also there is a spiritual bond, we've always been able to read each other, and "feel" each other when not around, i know when he is thinking about me...its weird....

venus opposite pluto? dont have that aspect thank god! we have venus conj pluto, it is really magicial...but from the sound of it id be careful with such an aspect....sounds scary..

posted August 14, 2005 11:03 AM              

Your Sun conjunct his Venus: automatically puts you two in a love relationship or at least romatically aware of eachother. It is a good social aspect and genuinely enjoying one anothers company.

Your Venus conjunct his Mars: Was there an immediate sexual attraction? This placement indicates as much, as well as another Mars interaction-

Your Mars conjunct his Mars: This indicates that you guys highly stimulate one another (possibly too much) and this relaitonships is based on REACTION to one another than RELATING to one another.

Your Ascendant conjunct his Neptune:
There was a LONG paragraph on this aspect (Whiterabbit was on to something!!) but summed up, this means "Psychic Rapport" menaning, immediately you both had the ability to see eachother for who you are-no masks!Also, you are able to identify with one another. However, this aspect warns that one must beware of glamorizing the other person, if this happens, defenses that were once down, can be put back up again; blocking the relationship.

And that comment you made:"I don't know whether its just a friendship love though"
is ironic considering this aspect:

Your venus conjunct his Uranus:
put simply this is "Friendly Lovers" which means that there will be a lot of a openess and freedom in this relationship (which is probbaly why you are confused as to what is going on) b/c it seems like such a friendlu relationship! This is a very non-possessive relationship.