posted August 22, 2005 01:42 PM              

This is not to say that Sag mooners are bad people or are completey unemotional - usually they just have to grow up a lot before they can be a good relationship partner. Even then they may not be able to give another person the kind of emoitonally deep connection you may find with an earth or water moon. They're cerebral, often very talented yet highly impulsive and physical. They relate to others more on either a cerebral or physical level (which explains why you form a freindship with this guy at a gym), than emotional. As a lunar placement, it's a weird blending of fire's energy and desire with mutablity's ability to learn, absorb, react and change. Sag mooners tend to be very fascinating people, but stablity, consistancy and reliabilty aren't their strong points.

This is a highly erratic lunar placement, because normally we associate the moon with emotion, but with Sag moon, emotions get pushed aside. This can cause a lot of inner confusion and outward contradictions when those emotions get stirred up. The Sag mooner does feel real emotion, perhaps not as deeply as an earth or water moon, but it's there and it's always very sincere. (This is often why people are so forgiving, for better or worse of Sag mooners - not only are they charming, you often can tell they're sincere, and they almost always are.) It's just emotions feel kind of like a foreign invasion to a Sag mooner, and they often haven't a clue how to handle them properly or appropriately. And since their emotions are often impulsive yet especially deep, they can often choose just to ignore them rather than deal with them.

Women fair better with this placement because of their native feminine intution clues them into things that a male Sag moon would be completely dense to. And when you add an air Sun...an Aqua Sun at that...well, LOL. You may feel that he's in denial, and perhaps he is. To him it's more of a detachment. Something between you two probably got his Sag moon scared that he'd have to face his own emotions and he did exactly what you'd expect an Aqua Sun to do - politely remove himself from the situation. It's not personal, I suspect, but simply a matter of his own emotional immaturity that causes him to not know how to handle this situation in a more tactful, graceful way.

Naturally this is awkward for you, but you have to recognize that you've probably done nothing deserving of that awkward feeling. I'd say it's OK to see this as largely *his* personal issue, not yours, and in turn you can entitle yourself to detach yourself from him, just as he apparently has to you. This can be hard working around him, but just keep the focus on nonemotional things - work, gym clients, idle chatter about unimportant things, etc. - while you're around him. If you feel a bit emotionally hungover after a day around him, grab a girlfriend for a hour and just vent. Do whatever you need to purge those feelings. Don't carry any emotion about this guy around. It may take practice, but I think you'll be OK.

As for my Aqua-Sag friend, he's older, in his 50's, divorced and has quite a lot of experience from his own mistakes. I don't know if I would have like him nearly as much as a younger man, given the things he's admitted to me about his past. LOL. I'm highly sympathetic to him, because he's an artist, and I get other artists - and most of us really aren't good relationship material. Our priorities and needs are often not compatible with things like conventional relationships. I see my friendship with this guy as primarily cerebral, although he's shown some emotion toward me. Because my emotional side tends to be covered up by my airiness, I come across as avery cerebral, and only on occasion my emotional side seeps through. He finds this curious about me, like I'm some puzzle to figure out. LOL. Even so, he still very detached, and demonstrates affection in more cerebral ways. I doubt he'll ever be comfortable around more emotional people (like his ex-wife). Our friendship has lasted I believe because we mutually stimulate each other on a cerebral level - I suspect if that ended, so would this friendship. But I'm OK with that, because I'm not that terribly emotional of a person, despite having a Pisces moon.