posted August 26, 2005 03:46 AM              

we lost contact as i was slow in responses . i feel , he thought i was not interested .
now , is it possible to restart the realtion , i know its tough now that he is US (even if he was here , i might not have visited him , he is thousand of miles away)
any aries insight that would help !
(faster replies would help as i have alraedy lost so much time )
everyone's invited !

posted August 26, 2005 09:15 AM              

So you have his email..but you've lost contact and you want to get in touch again..did I get that right?

I think you should. I've lost and regained contact with people a lot of times..I like getting in touch with friends I haven't spoken to in a while.. and I wouldn't see it as weird if someone contacted me, even if I hadn't spoken to them for years.. Once a friend, always a friend in my book

posted August 26, 2005 09:27 AM              

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

"You must live in the infinite blackness that exists when I close my eyes. I see you when I fall asleep, I see you when I dream."

posted August 26, 2005 11:32 PM              

In love and light,

posted August 27, 2005 08:32 AM              

actually , this has put me to think what would have been my reaction if i receive a mail after so many days , infact months .

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Once a friend, always a friend in my book

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thats good . it inspires .
i was wary just b'cos we had been just together for thirty six hours and i feel the last impression that he has of me is that i am uninterested.

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I can't be friends with aries men who have mercury in aries. That is when the debating and fighting begins.

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i dont know if he had mercury in aries , there was no time to debate . but yes, i feel at times he was a bit self appreciating(which is uncommon for aries , as far as i know) but that doesn't make me pass a judgement . overall he was nice.

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He's probably focused on starting some project(s)that it has slipped his mind so much time has passed. So what are you waiting for.....?

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yeah , most probably . thanks for the excellent idea.

good to see u , fb .(after such a long absence )
as for your question , i think its very noraml for anyone(i am talking of men) to discuss such things especially cases when u meet a new girl kinda topic .
i have seen this done by almost all people even the silent kind .
its exciting to know a new girl .
but ofcourse it depends w ho we are telling .
as for the original question , i think aries would tell about such things b'cos they are normally easy going , so intially he is taking it in a easy way .

for us cancers , if i am interested seriously then girl has to respected that for me means her identity wouldn't be for public consumption .
i have seen this to so for us , water people , to a large extent with earth people but not so air or fire people except aquas and to an extent gems.

but if things are not serious , i would respect the identity but i haven't anyother sign except libras doing it .

is anyother part of your question still unanswered .

ah, a question in general , how are aries as friends ( not in this particular case)
sometime back , i read that they have friends but no best friends . how true is it ?

posted August 28, 2005 01:33 PM              

There's a lot of people I like. There's a few I love..but there's nearly none I really trust (however weird that might sound)

I know 2 people who I'd trust with my life..and another 2 who come close..but I'm not 100%.. and that's pretty much it.

So the people I really trust, I feel I can share everything with. The rest of my friends I don't share much with at all. I DO like them as people, I DO enjoy their company, I love going out with them..but I don't trust them enough to make *that* bond..and really connect and let them in. This isn't to say they're not great ppl or that they're not reliable or that they can't keep a secret etc.. they're just not trustable to me personaly, from my point of view..because I don't feel they'd care enough. I'm sure there are people in their lives who they do care about and who they'd do anything for.. but I'm not, nor do I expect to be one of them.

On the other hand I have been a *best friend* to people and still am..in the sense that .. they'd perceive me as their best friend. They have shared personal things and I'm more than happy to listen. I love listening, I love helping.. But in most cases I wont share personal things back.

lol I don't know how to put this, so it makes sense without sounding mean.. Basically just because I care for a person and want to help them/listen to their probs...doesn't mean that I trust they *care* for me as much -(because usually I'm pretty sure they don't, which like I said is fine because I don't expect or want it bk) -..but basically this is the reason I couldn't trust them with my own personal stuff. It's not that I don't want to trust.. I'd like to, but I literally feel I can't.

- I hope this makes more sense to you, than it does to me reading it back lol I have a lot of Aries/Capricorn contradictions in my chart though, so I don't know if I'm the best person to go on..

FB,

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If they really don't have friends would they respect a person who would try to cling to them.

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posted August 29, 2005 02:26 AM              

He comes up and
- asks my number
- asks for me to go skating with me.
I was busy so did n't hang out with him..But he asks many girls to go dancing that doesn't really count.Although he didn't took the number of other girl even when i said you should if you want her to come with you dancing.

After that he would be cool about that he isn't seeing me the other place where I was hoping we would.I am fine with that but I just can't draw line what he thinks. I would consider somethings are just like more than friends, some as normal and some are rude.Is it he is just flirting around ? I guess so.Who cares ? I did care but was just trying to analyze.I think that's one of the reason somebody must have said Aries don't have friends.

He has got Aries Sun and Pisces Mercury so I guess that's the reason.

I know him little and well friend things work for me now.How do you really gain their trust ? Back to you Lauren.

posted August 29, 2005 03:35 AM              

i think the way lauren differentiated between a platonic and a close realtion , is the same with everyone .the base is the same but we have a bit different way .

this gets validated by the way , differnet signs maintian secrecy . though we , the water people are known to be more of the secrective kind but i think air and fire people are way more secrective than us (except sags and may be leos) thier take on the secre y is ofcourse more different then ours ( more on that later )
to prove my point , see the no. of water people who have opened up thier life histories (including me) and compare that
with air people (including lauren) here .there is a difference , isn't it . the point is she has been able to maintian a respectable secrecy without fuss , not us . its because , we people give secrecy in our lives too much importance but with them , its justa pragmatic approach . i have seen this with bro- in law . he doesn't normally talk about his family in the way we do ( my sis is cancer too)

now, the neagtive aspect of the same attitude . how do u win friends if u do not open up or treat everyone the same .(treatment part is debatble , leave it for now )
best friends are your innner most circle , then u go on creating orbits for different people .
this gets validated in case of aries and gems especially . with gems , it is difficult to know the exact person b'cos they simply go on comprising , how hard u try to poke them . how do u know the real emotions of a person in that case and if u dont know the real emotions , how do u designate them as best friends or whatever.

secrecy thing gets inerlinked with the sharing thing .

clinginess things gets explained by FB's post but ofcourse extremism of any kind is bad .
then again , how we define clinginess and how you define is different .

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When friend for me it would be like sharing all info getting personal and stuff like that.Little secrets.Big secrets.Kind of attachment.

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that sums up everything about realtions , the way we perceive it .

i think i am missing out on some of the things , i'll be back to interrupt , ok .

posted August 29, 2005 05:16 AM              

I had best friend before Gemini and I don't know I never thought that she was all that detach but ofcourse we never spoke about all the feelings or enotions with her Even talking about guys.I still don't know properly why she dumped so many guys.Infact she stole the one whom I loved and dumped him. Poor chap.Came back to me too late.

Remember we were just teens at that time and I was as much aloof as Gemini can be OR maybe more.I don't know it never really bothered me when gemini friend of mine blabbered. I am a good listener.Now I don't know if I can take that.

It would go like Oh ! he touched me here and there and blah blah....I was going to dump him few days back but I like to talk to him. My parents tell me that I am on the phone with him all the time.Anyways that other guy is also hitting on me.

but if I would had the same kind of convo about a guy say a cancer friend and it would be like oh ! I could see that love in his eyes and there was something so wonderful when I saw him.... blah blah I miss him so much now.There is something between us.

This are just 2 examples of my 2 best friends.

Water signs are sensitive about everything and they really take into consideration everything their friend does.

I asked my Gemini friend and asked few questions about her boyfriend and she doesn't know.It made her realize she doesn't know the guy.

posted August 29, 2005 08:26 AM              

I have lots of Scorpios,Taurus, Cancers as female friends.I also get along well with Libra and Leo female friends.

posted August 30, 2005 02:25 AM              

ITS THE BBC NEWS TIME .

posted August 30, 2005 04:43 AM            

Sorry, forgot to include signature

My Sun is in Gemini in the 11th hs
AC in Leo
Moon in Pisces at the end of the 7th hs (which as far as I understand means it will be interpreted in both the 7th and the 8th).
As for Taurus and Scorpio, I have my MC and Mars in Taurus (10 hs), and Uranus in Scorpio in the 4th.

posted August 30, 2005 04:45 AM              

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Infact she stole the one whom I loved and dumped him. Poor chap.Came back to me too late

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what was the guy's sign?

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I am a good listener.Now I don't know if I can take that.

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lost your listtening abilities?

i can't say about the romantic aspect of aries though i know a few aries but i would say , the kind of stability that we want can be found among fire people but ofcourse u need to work for it hard and everyday . they all tend to deviate especially men . this not say that we dont deviate , we too do , but with them u have to keep a spark igniting while with water and earth people u dont necessarilly have to work that hard for the spark .
now among all these , caps need the constant miond games which i dont think any other sign except scorps need ( that too only in the intial phase )

the diff with air signs is so large that it becomes really difficult to mend .i know so many couple with not the soulmate kind of scnario , scorp- libra , virgo-libra, cancer-aqua .

but ofcourse there can be exceptions , the best example would be moon loon , a gem, with no particular water or earth in his chart is pretty happy with a cancer woman with not much of air or fire . the only thing realting were , thier merc and asc. .
he says she is the most evolved woman that he has ever met !!! remember thats a gem's word.

posted August 30, 2005 06:27 AM              

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and u accepted him?
what was the guy's sign?

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Hell No ! Why would I ? It was puppy love and when I came to know he didn't like me. I wasn't that hurt. I was happy for my friend and for me friendship mattred a lot and I keep on doing this now.I think guy was Libra or Virgo. Mostly libra.

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lost your listtening abilities?

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Would you believe today another Aries talked my ear off. He talked same thing again and again...again and again...again and again... I guess he is involved with Pisces or Aqua.Not sure. Need to get confirmed but OMG he is so jealous and so much detail oriented analyzing everything about the partner.Suspiscious but all were valid points.He has given me detective work.
I can be jealous but I let things go on it's own flow unless I really feel threatened by somebody's behavior.I never knew Aries can be so jealous.

Success / Failure.

Hope for the best prepare for the worst.

I need so much stability and I hate when things don't give me stable lasting thing.
I am the one right now doing stabilizing my home kind of thing.Anyways I am also doing something which completely shatters me and there are lots of changes but just holding on it as it would help to give my family stability and comfort.

do u think you are way more emotional then your cancer and scorp friends . how about jealousy ?

Cancer has told me you are very emotional and sensitive.Scorpio has told me why do you care so much about what people tell you.So I guess that sums up.Emotional Part.
Although we are good friends when I see crab and scorpio I think emotions are well hidden. We have same kind of thoughts,mroals and values but still I would be one who would be feeling and analyzing all.I need lot of quiet time after that.

I just gave a call back to a girl because I thought she was offended by me.I wasn't in bad mood but she said something very foolish I couldn't help but laugh on it.Actually she said she was fine and she said I don't need to think about it.

As for my jealousy I have air signs and fire asc which helps to actually combat it I learnt reality in relationships from cancers and how they handle their jealousy.
In years gone I have learnt it's more of personal decision not to get jealous. I hide my jealousy somewhere now but it does exist.

I feel crabs can express their feelings and have good realtions much better than me. It's little difficult for me to do that.I get jealous by crabs because they can give motherly love.I feel the same but difficult to express.

did i ask too much ?

posted August 31, 2005 02:20 AM              

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Anyways I am also doing something which completely shatters me and there are lots of changes

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shatters me ? what do u mean ?

when i asked about the cancer /scorp jealousy , what i meant was , you have both the signs very prominently placed , now the things that u learned from from ,say cancers , where those thoughts ever emanting within you or was it the first time that you felt or saw the logic . are you getting me ?

ifnot, take this exp., my chart is evenly placed but water and earth more prominently placed in respect to realtions etc. , so i feel , i had no idea or even could imagine that there was any other way to see life and relations especially .

so , in your case how did u cope with jealousy especially and then again failure (i feel its more important than success) with this i must add , what i am asking has a lot to do with growing up . but we shall treat as a constant .

btw, what were your favourite subjects in school ?

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Although we are good friends when I see crab and scorpio I think emotions are well hidden

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as i said earlier its more about how we treat secrecy . o yeah emotions are hidden or is it justa shield ?
again my feeling is scorps are way more emotional and even less secrecy maintianers than cancers . but u have to extra qualified to break that wall of suspicion , once done , you will get to hear more than what you can expect from cancers .
again scorps are more adopt at revenges or use of force but cancers can be more cruel . don't confuse cruelty with thier revenging nature , not to say cancers are revengeful too .

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which helps to actually combat it I learnt reality in relationships from cancers and how they handle their jealousy.

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can u elobrate? how?
not the jealousy part , i understand that .

is it really difficult for you to express your feelings even after having cancer moon ?
ok, one more thing , the first that we interacted( where u got offended ), is it the scorp thing , as for being a cancer male , i think i would have taken that in a more of a joke kind of thing . i am not sure a cancer girl reaction to it . or is it simply a girly thing ? hope u dont get offended for my bringing it again
Shall ask for forgiveness in advance ?
i must add ( to avoid any more confusions )i respect your sensebvilities , i am just being inquisitive .

and the last one , how has been your realtion with leos ? i mean what about the differences of opinions , i think we have a lot of it ? how did u cope with that ?

i wont ask , if i asked too much . i already know you are a hard working lazy person .

so.................

posted August 31, 2005 07:29 AM              

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shatters me ? what do u mean ?

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when i asked about the cancer /scorp jealousy , what i meant was , you have both the signs very prominently placed , now the things that u learned from from ,say cancers , where those thoughts ever emanting within you or was it the first time that you felt or saw the logic . are you getting me ?

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I was little immature than some of my friends as a teen on how to handle jealousy and relationhips.I can see many points which I completely agree with cancer and comes from within but there has been one perticular instance where I saw it as logic for the first time. It was a long discussion.

What discussion we had was something like this :

Cancer: Now a days every one can have many options in their life thanks to internet and modern technology.
Me :I agree.

Cancer:2 people get married stay together have kids but sometimes they get tempted and see other options.
Me : I agree even I would be tempted then why they need to get married.To only show in society or get settled and have kids.

Cancer: They can be together and marriage is bonding. Temptation and adventures come and go but if you are still honest to each other then this can work out.
ME: Won't you be more jealous by knowing that with whom your girl or guy is sleeping.
I said that after 2 people get married atleast they should be loyal to each other as they have committed each other.

Cancer: I would be but at the same time I would be happy that at the end of day my
partner would come back to me.I am happy that we are still together and haev a family.
ME : I didn't agree at that time but later thought that, that is kind of truth.Whether or not if somebody can't be loyal to you then
whether you get jealous or not they would be same. If you are going to show jealousy and
make someone feel that he is in your prison then that person is going to run away sooner or would enjoy all that wrong attention you give by jealousy.

Nobody can be perfectly loyal to their
partner.Sometimes I feel I can't be loyal
completely then why should I have double standards when it comes to my partner.

I would give him space to breath but not run around girls and turn blind.I am very possessive and get jealous but try to work on it.

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what were your favourite subjects in school ?

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I was good at languages,history ,maths,
but I would get better marks in Economics
without much effort on my part.

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is it really difficult for you to express your feelings even after having cancer moon ?

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Just feel cancers do better or are in good books of many because of caring and nurturing nature.So I want to be nice but due to scorpio traits I just can't be as good
as them.I can see SOMETIMES when people use me or cheat me but I guess cancers can't when they are emotional about something.I think it's ego thing at the same time I get so emotional sometimes that I am being door mat and saying sorry all the time.

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and the last one , how has been your realtion with leos ? i mean what about the differences of opinions , i think we have a lot of it ? how did u cope with that ?

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I am sorry to say I don't know many Leo males.With Leo females I love their taste
comfortable and luxurious lifestyle.We hang out good places, good food and they are not so pushy or over powering atleast Women-Women.
Infact I have never really met Leo..Even if there were I really don't know.As for my uncle I know he is boasting but you know age difference and I think it is more of generation gap.

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ok, one more thing , the first that we interacted( where u got offended ), is it the scorp thing , as for being a cancer male , i think i would have taken that in a more of a joke kind of thing . i am not sure a cancer girl reaction to it . or is it simply a girly thing ? hope u dont get offended for my bringing it again

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Let's see!I don't know whether it was
scorpio,cancer,libra ,gemini or girly thing. You decide.See firstly I wasn't offended about whatever was written in Hindi except the use of language and translation of my username.It was more of degradation of screen name and my state of mind. That is how I felt at that time... like a bird and I loved my independence as I am always looking for some kind of attachment.It's very trivial but well I would like people to use good language and just don't go saying things.It sounded to me more like 2 "Bhais"are talking. It didn't sounded very decent.No offense but we all are behind our computers and didn't know each other.

posted September 01, 2005 01:47 PM              

so to say , u were immature wouldn't be the right way to say it . but if u insist , than everyone needs to admit ,we all were immature , me the most.
infact ,air /fire signs have been quite helpful in teaching me a pragmatic way of life , the concept of detach emotions .
so , u know the first time u talked of being heavily emotional (that panchi episode) i had the feeling here was the another one but u'll learn , its good to learn . i myself think i have improved . by this i dont mean , its wrong to show your emotions , infact its very good .

i had the same subjects as favourite. i asked to see which sign was working stronly here . my guess , its the cancer in u . i was always good in maths , i love history and i had the highest marks in eco but i hate chemistry.

yeah, the cancer's non judgemantal nature works against them at times . remember , there always a good and a bad aspect of everything . non judgemental nature also helps us to win friends and ofcourse it creates problems .
my scorp and libra friends passed a negative judgement about a cap friend of mine , i didn't agree with them and it has cost me dearly and now the only way out remains is violence which could have been avoided .
we'll talk about the judgement part , stay tuned to the thread . let me think over this a bit .

i know afew leo just a acquatinces , no real friends . infact this is the only group that i dont really have friends or have never got a chance to be friend .

posted September 03, 2005 07:25 AM              

whatv do u gather of the leo females in general . there is thread going on about cancer/leo compatibilty but i am not really convinced of it . never actually seen a leo / cancer couple . what do leo women go for , how would u compare it with cancers . what would be your suggestion to cancers for leo females ?

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It sounded to me more like 2 "Bhais"are talking

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Yeah , dawood here

I dont know if you are bored with my sorries but incase you are not here is another one "sorry" .
hey it was just two idiot cancers talking not disrespecting anyone !