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Topic: Your mum........and........dad.....
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sue g
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posted September 27, 2005 10:17 AM
 
As ever I am curious as to how people think/feel about certain issues.Would anyone mind telling me how their mother (oooh I nearly typed monster....freudian slip hey) affected their lives, when growing up. I am a mother to a 6 yr old boy and am constantly keeping my ears and eyes open in ways to improve my parenting skills...  Would be interested in the father too.......would be particulary interested in SONS views of their mothers, of course, as well as daughters views. If you can, please give Sun,Asc.Moon signs. Am interested to hear issues of love, kindness, boundaries, influences, humour, how you view parents now....cool/uncool, happy, miserable etc etc.. Anyone who has been profoundly affected by their parent/s and is able to speak of this would be welcomed, whether it be positive or otherwise. Look forward to hearing your stories..........now dont be shy and he honest as ye can..............thanks xxx IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted September 27, 2005 10:39 AM
Me: Gemini sun, Cancer rising, Taurus moonMom: Gemini sun, Virgo rising, Virgo moon Dad: Aries sun, Leo rising, Gemini moon
My mother is a critical woman. She b*tches practically all the time. We go from best friends one day to hating eachother the next.
One minute she's happy then comes home and puts on a grumpy face. Living with her does not make me feel emotionally healthy. She was never the affectionate type. Only sometimes.
She has a abd habit of even lecturing in front of me and my sister's friends.
Her mood is usually always bad.
I'd say she's happy at least once a week. She goes out alot and likes the company of her friends.
My dad was a loving man who was very affectionate and deeply hurt in his life. I don't think my mother's critical virgo moon and virgo rising would have been good for him. I only knew him for 4 years until he took his own life.
The day I get away form my mother and capricorn sister I will be happy forever.
No one who wants to be emotionally healthy and cared for should live with these people.
When it comes down to it they prefer there friends or boyfriends over everyone else. Everyone should do this report(Hidden messages) from the grupovenus.com website. My mom can be a better person but she chooses not to be. ------------------
Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra *´¨)
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Blind my eyes I cannot see
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sue g
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posted September 27, 2005 10:42 AM
Thanks MG.......sorry to read that girl.........  IP: Logged |
Pop Producer
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posted September 27, 2005 10:44 AM
I'm a Cancer with moon in Gemini. My mother was always giving me books to read and telling me stories... (Gemini)She's a Scorpio so I developed a complicated way to hide my personal stuff... She was always taking a look in my personal things (she won't admit that but I know). My dad is a Scorpio too so so if I managed to hide something from my mother my father found it.  IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted September 27, 2005 10:49 AM
My mothers a little snooper herself. So freakin nosy.Maybe that is why I am so fond of my friends and other family that arent my mother or sister. They treat me way better than them. When I cry it is my friends who hug me. Not my mom and sister.
I can't even see my sister like a sister.
I always considered my 2 cousins more like sisters.
The other day my mother called from Spain. She has been gone for a month and will be back October 1st.
Thank god.
But I know she's gonna come back all depressed. She goes on vacation and comes back and starts b*tching at us with an ugly serious look on her face.
I wish i was ricj so i could buy them each a mansion so they could leave.
I love them but do not wish to live with them anymore.
I don't know how any man can stand them.
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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra *´¨)
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sue g
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posted September 27, 2005 10:56 AM
Thanks PopOMG I am a Scorp......I really took notice of what you said....she must have drove you mad, being that nosy....I will have to bear that in mind......xx IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted September 27, 2005 11:00 AM
Forgot to mention. There were times when I was so sick. Especially in the winter when i get my asthma.The hospital is across the street from my house. My sister and mother would never want to come with me.
My 2 cousins would come driving all the way from long Island like at 12am just to accompany me. Isn't that sad? And my grandmother would walk from her house to come with me also.
It really ****** me off because even after that happened I accompanied my sister to the hospital once because she had a miscarriage and the whole time we were in the rest room she was laying on my shoulder.
They have donme this to me about 4 times. And I think they will keep doing it.
Yet if a boyfriend is sick oh my god they will swim the sea for them.
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Mystic Gemini
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posted September 27, 2005 11:04 AM
Me and my sister are chattin right now online. We are best friends. watch when we both come home from work.I won't exist and when her boyfriend is there she'll treat me like crap. Welcome to my life. BTW she is a Capricorn sun, Gemini moon, Taurus rising.
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(¸.·´ (¸.·´ * Lost in the peace of serenity
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cancerrg
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posted September 27, 2005 11:13 AM
thoughbeing a cancerian , i dont really think ,i have learnt much from my mum .
i am close to her but then even.......yeah only lesson that i have learnt from her or her life(more appropriate) is that no one should let anyone run over him/her .always maintian your own importance , its the only way to gain respect . she's a virgo. as for my dad , there is nothing to say. he is a libra. IP: Logged |
Pop Producer
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posted September 27, 2005 11:14 AM
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OMG I am a Scorp......I really took notice of what you said....she must have drove you mad, being that nosy....I will have to bear that in mind......xx
Not that she was THAT nosy but it was sometimes an issue... Well a link between a Cancer guy and a Scorpio mother in unbelievable hard to cut... We instantly know everything about each other. I found that my mum was nosy when I started receiving emails around 1996... All the emails and attached documents appeared as read and I haven't put a finger on my PC and my mum was the only one around... (I was 25 not 12). But I know she can't help it, her Pluto makes her want to know.
(OK, many people are nosy without even being Scorpio, specially with their sons/ daughters).
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Pop Producer
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posted September 27, 2005 11:17 AM
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The hospital is across the street from my house. My sister and mother would never want to come with me.My 2 cousins would come driving all the way from long Island like at 12am just to accompany me. Isn't that sad? And my grandmother would walk from her house to come with me also.
Oh how sad... Now I know why you've been involved with Cancer men... They {we) can be moody but sure won't let you alone in an emergency... IP: Logged |
cappyme
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posted September 27, 2005 11:32 AM
My mom is a pisces sun, aquarius moon and not so sure about the rising. And I'm a cappy sun/ pisces moon/ cappy ascendant.
Truth is, my mom is a very humble person and she keeps on giving to people, and it hurts me when she doesn't get anything in return, so basically I strive to make her happy, and I mean, be proud about something. Sometimes my mom can be a bit annoying, but she has got a big heart and is really helpful, what I like most about my mom, is her accepting attitude. I don't complete my homework, she wont scream at me or anything, she'll just forgive me and tell me to do my homework. My mom kind of feels inferior cause she doesn't know english, and I try to teach her english. My mom is a sweetheart  .My dad, he is another case, he is very very generous, and sometimes he has a big problem with saying no!... he is a saggi and can be sometimes rude, but people love my dad, because he is there, he takes care of everything and he is there to lighten up your day and helps you out in any way possibly, even if that means sacrificing himself, the setback is some people take advantage of that niceness, and my dad is sometimes a gambler.
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posted September 27, 2005 11:38 AM
Pisces Moon makes you to be very in contact with your mother... Like there's not a real border separating yourself from her... I dated a girl with that and it was like her mum was always present... So it was many people... She, me, her mother always present and my Scorpio mother trying to find out what was going on... IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 11:42 AM
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thoughbeing a cancerian , i dont really think ,i have learnt much from my mum .
i am close to her but then even.......
Where's your moon? That'll give you a clue about how do you relate to her and what she gave you... IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted September 27, 2005 11:52 AM
She's got:Sun conj Mars Need I say more?  very controlling.
But you know…she always had my best interest at heart. I guess we just don’t mesh well emotionally. But we can talk for hours and hours.
Her Sun trines my Merc - and my Sun trines her Merc. IP: Logged |
cappyme
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posted September 27, 2005 12:32 PM
Pop Producer.. lol yeah thats right  . I tend to get along well with mom, maybe its because her sun conjuncts my moon. Scorpio mom, it would be nice to have a Scorp mom, but many Scorpios I know, have this thing about 'knowing', they might not genuinely try to hurt you or something but they like knowing stuff about you. No wonder so many Scorps have such accurate perceptions about me and know me so well. Its cool. ------------------
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Stargazer
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posted September 27, 2005 01:23 PM
Hi Sue G!me- sun-virgo moon-aries- asc cappy dad- sun-libra moon- gemini asc-libra mom -sun -leo moon-cappy asc- cancer We'll start with mom. She is my hero. Warm gracious and wise. Always been my biggest fan. She was abused as a child. She has always been my "stick-up comittee" as my dad would say. Let's just say I was the source of many arguments between them.
As an adult, i value her opinion and am very close to her. You know leos- god help you if you say something bad about or harm their children!!!! Then there is my dad- let's just say he wasn't around much. We clashed very hard when i was a teen. He is first born generation in the US. Both his parents are from Macedonia. "Man of the house" , I'm the king and so forth. I would have to write him letters in order to communicate effectively. I always ran to my mother. However, once i moved out everything changed. once he did not have that control, he eased up a bit and so did i. He asked me not long ago, "I wasn't a very good father was I"? - I replied' "No dad you weren't but... you've got a second chance right here with your grand children" He is sooooo much more tolerable with them. He is attentive and is "all there" if you know what i mean? He is not letting his second chance get away My parents have been divorced now for about 5 years. This was after 35 years of marriage. I saw the demise begin after my brother, 14 at the time, was killed in a train accident. He was a pisces. I was already out of the house and this left me an only child. They seem to cling to me for dear life at certain times.... still (20 years later)
My dad is remarried... to another libra.
She has been good for him and is good to him. My mother has not remarried... probably never will. IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted September 27, 2005 01:27 PM
I am so sorry StarGazer. Just keep being there for them like you are doing.------------------
Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra *´¨)
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(¸.·´ (¸.·´ * Lost in the peace of serenity
Blind my eyes I cannot see
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posted September 27, 2005 04:25 PM
Me I am a Libra Sun and ascendant, Aquarius Moon female.My mother is Aquarius sun and moon and Virgo ascendant My Father is Gemini sun and Moon, not sure about ascendant.
My mother had alot to deal with married to my dad who was an alcoholic. She gave us alot of respect and treated us like little adults.
She is a very friendly woman, and can be a little naieve. She likes to help out in very practical ways and is open minded and warm hearted. My Father was in his own world and although I felt close to him emotionally he was extremely impatient and had no time for his children. He had many activites and was a sociable albeit nervous person. Very good at story telling. IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 04:52 PM
Hey Sue,
If this is this only advice I can give, it would be-
Don't let your son forget all the fantastic and magical things you do for him!
Take lots of pictures of parties and stuff and constantly remind him about stuff you made him and things you read.
Maybe this is just me, but I feel a great sense of guilt that I've forgotten many of the wonderful things my mum did for me as a kid. All the birthday cakes, games, outings. It's sad, really and I can't believe I'd forgotten these, (well, I do have a terrible memory ).....
So yeah, make him grateful, Sue!IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 05:00 PM
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Don't let your son forget all the fantastic and magical things you do for him!
Take lots of pictures of parties and stuff and constantly remind him about stuff you made him and things you read.
Kids forget those things, that's natural... If you play the "all I did for you" game he'll hate you...  Maybe just document everything and keep the proof locked for the time you'll discuss this in the future... IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 05:32 PM
Oooooh, my mom is nosy too, but, you know, once you know that, you can prepare for it. I can remember using her nosiness as a way to communicate things to her things that I didn't want to just come out and say. I think that's how I let her know about my first girlfriends.I'm a Capricorn with Gemini Ascendant and Virgo Moon in the 5th. My mom's a Leo. She's always had strong ideas about who I am, and I still feel, even now, that she tries to define me without consideration for who I am. Perhaps her definitions are correct for how act around her, but that could also explain why I don't mind living half a country away from them (only seeing them once a year). The first terrible thing my mom ever did was discourage me from being an artist. The fixed signs really do think they know everything, don't they? She thought that all my artistic ambition was impractical. It may have been ok to say if I was bad at it and nearly an adult, but I was young -grade school young, and I was talented. I wasn't one to draw from memory typically (when it comes to realism), but I could reproduce pictures well in any size. My Advise:
From my experience, I would have you do two things:
* Never discourage an interest. Always encourage, even if you completely disagree with whatever it is.* When you seek to help your son get through something, meet him on his own terms. Try to help him in a way that is meaningful to him. His development is about him. Try to always ensure it's not about you.
You're older, so you should have enough patience to communicate, and enough humility to realize what's best for him is something that he can communicate to you if you let him. You're the best, Sue. Keep up the good work. 
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posted September 27, 2005 05:57 PM
I don't know my parents' birth times, so I have no clue what their asc are.Me- Taurus Sun, Pisces Moon, Cancer asc Mom- Aquarius Sun, Libra Moon Dad- Pisces Sun, Taurus Moon My mom I never understood. I was born during her Uranus half return, so there was a basic conflict with one of my strongest planets right off the bat. Her Uranus was only a few minutes off exact opposite mine. She was a very giving woman (Jupiter/Mercury conjunction in Aquarius)... to the point where she was constantly putting the family into debt. She wasn't the brightest lightbulb in the box either... as I got older, that thouroughly annoyed me. She didn't care about what she looked like, but she was very concerned that other people thought that she was kind. My dad, I adore. He was always my kindred spirit. (I just realized now that we have the Sun/Moon flip in our charts) He was always very concerned about work and making sure that we had everything that we needed. (Sun/Saturn conjunction only a few minutes apart and Venus, Uranus and Moon in Taurus) He always made me feel that things were going to turn out for the best and pushed me to be better than what I was and take responsibility for my own actions (his Jupiter trine my Sun and his Sun/Saturn sextile my Sun) IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 06:11 PM
Mum:
sun - Pisces
moon - Pisces
asc - ScorpioDad:
sun - Capricorn
moon - Sagittarius
asc - Libra Me:
sun - Gemini
moon - Gemini
asc - Capricorn Okay, briefly... Mum = victim. Dad = control freak. No violence but lots of sinister psychological head-messing which made Mum very ill. I grew up to be Mum's best friend and support. Quite wary of my dad (though feeling a yearning to be close to him too). Not quite happy as a child. Couldn't be open with parents. Didn't want to make Mum upset or make Dad cross so learned to bottle stuff up. Grown up relationship with Dad is much better. He's chilled a lot since his early years and we share same wacky humour. Me and Mum are still best buddies and she still leans on me for support. Touch IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 07:04 PM
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The first terrible thing my mom ever did was discourage me from being an artist. The fixed signs really do think they know everything, don't they?
Well my mother forced me to art... I wanted to work at a bank... but seriously, fixed signs' idea of heaven is routine. They need to wake up, open the shop and watch the day pass like every other day. A minor change like a visit to the dentist affects them badly... IP: Logged | |
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