posted October 20, 2005 07:46 PM
Interesting questions.Well, about my Aries friend with a temper problem...or actually, in his case, it tended to be a temper tantrum problem...I felt it had to do with his abundant fireiness (Sag ASc with Aries Sun, Merc and Venus) is direct conflict wiht his Cancer Mars, which is overly cautious and passive-aggressive. Fire likes to act in a direct manner - it is its own energy and its nature is an expression of that energy. Water is a conductor of energy - it absorbs energy from elsewhere adn carries and expresses in indirect ways. Hence why a firey planet liek Mars has trouble expressing itself in Cancer, and why my firey Aries friend had a tendency to explode from time to time - had he been able to express his firey nature more directly and constantly through a more direct Mars placement, it probably would have kept his temper on a more even kneel. If this makes sense.
And the problem Cancer Mars happens with Cacner Sun too, as the same kind of active-versus-passive, fire-versus-water conflict results.
Anyhow...
"1. how do you get along with cancer men? they absolutely irritate me becoz to me they are not progressive enough, too conservative"
I get along wonderfully with most Cancer men, at least at first. Cancer rules my 11th, and my moon is in Pisces. I have an emotional nature that is very receptive to Cancer.
The problemi s the rest of my nature is very airy, and there in lies the conflict. I am very progressive minded and tend to think and act is very liberal or free assocaitions. I resist constructs and tend to ignore things like structure. Water needs structure - like water in a cup, it needs something else to hold it in place, or otherwise it spreads out in every direction. As an airy person, that kind of containment is frustrating and unnecessary.
Water's nature can make a water type conservative in many ways. This isn't a bad thing, but it is a source of conflict with someone like me whose nature is very different.
Interstingly, my last relationship was with a Cancer guy who was heavily Mercurial. I could see his needs for structure and containment in hsi environment and in his relationhships, but he had enough Mercury in him to understand my airiness. He also had an Aries moon, would yearned for indepedence and freedom for restrictions. That helped a lot in him understanding me.
"2. what do you think of aries men? they are the supposed male chauvinists of the fire / air group, but on the contrary i find them very loveable, which is why im still with this guy that i cant seem to break up with. lol . there is a real soul connection. "
I love Aries men, but unlike Cancer guys, with whom I tend to hit it off well first and then run into problems, I often run into problems first with an Areis male. If we get past those initial problems, we tend to be best buds.
Aries rules my 8th house and CHiron, and it opposes my very obnoxious Libra Uranus singleton. So there's reason fr a bit of drama at first.
I do often click with Aries SUn or moon men (and women) in a way I don't with other people. Even my brother - he's a Aries moon, and in many ways we have a strained relationship. Yet we're bonded in a way that we both know we'll never find in another person,a nd it's more than being brother and sister. There's just certain things we get about each other.
because of my 8th-Chiron-Uranus connection with Aries people, these relationhips tend to be weird and dramatic, even life-changing. They're also fun, envigoring and memorable in ways my other relationships just aren't.
"3. if you think that aries is the more conservative of the air/fire group, and cancer of the water/earth group, then what differentiates them?"
I would think Leo is the most conservative fire sign. It's fixed and doesn't handle change, while Aries inacts change.
Cancer too isn't as conservative as Scoprio as well, but like I said before, because water needs containment, water signs by nature tend to be a little more conservative than fire signs anyhow.
What would differentiate Aries and Cancer is their elements - fire and water.
"4. why are so many gem women i know compatible with aries men but incompatible with cancer men? if they are similar, that is."
Aries and Gemini are a like the Zodiac's partners in crime: they're a devilish combination, because they compliment each other so highly. Aries is the active partner while Gemini plays a supporting role. Bieng a mutable, Gemini doesn't mind letting someone else take the lead, as long as Gem can be part fo the fun. In male-female relationships this often works well as the Gem female is receptive tot he Aries male, and her airy independance and energy helps energize the Aries make without making him feel constrained.
There's is a mutual child-like quality and shared curiousity about life and the world between Aries and gem that helps them get along (and get into trouble). Cancer is kind of wher teh Zodiac start "growing up." It represents where the personal signs are ready to transform into social signs, where the Zodiac stops being so focused on the self and is ready to start focusing on others. Frankly, Aries and Gem are more selfish than Cancer, and they do actually encourage this selfishness in each other. This helps in bonding, for better or worse. Cancer tend to challenge Gem more, which is good adn at tmes necessary (even we Gems need to grow up some time (sigh*), but can be a little too heavy for long term relationships.
But I persoanlly find there's something very unique about the Areis-Gem combo. Ther's a very special "sympatico" there. They're both like the overly eager children of the Zodiac, ready to just go out and embrace the world and live life and have fun, fun, fun. Together they make a pretty deviant team, but they can be good for each other in many ways.
If you think about it, fire needs fuel to burn, and mainly it needs air. Fire without air dies, and so when paired with an airy person, a fire person is often energize. How long such a rlationship lasts depend a lto on what the fire person can give back tot he air person. Air people can burn out, and this can happen is fire-air relationships. But if the fire person can give something back tot he air person, to help recharge them, this is a relationship that is but mutually beneficial and has potenial to be very long-lasting.