posted October 29, 2005 11:38 AM              

It's like today I overheard a Scorpio b*tching to one of their friends about me and I just thought, oh well, par for the course, I shouldn't really have expected anything different, they have told me things about that particular friend that they would not want me to repeat to them, so they badmouth me to them in turn in order to keep us separate, there's an agenda there, I know exactly what they're doing, and quite frankly, I LAUGH at that sort of behaviour (and so should everybody else!!!!!)

Funny...I ALWAYS have this with Venus in Scorpio people. My Pisces Venus gets on well with them for a while but then the cracks begin to show and then we end up wanting to kill each other and I think, "oh, well, sod YOU too, then". Then, on the other hand, they can be really generous and helpful and you wonder why they want to be that way, because there is no rhyme or reason. Weird.

(Okay, b*tch over. But you get what I mean.)

Natasha, I remember what you said about someone being there for me, I just haven't met them yet. Thank you. I may start dating again soon (slowly, and VERY much on a friendship level), so I shall see what that will bring. I do believe what you say may be true, I am just a little confused currently, and a bit cynical (cue the character of Ian Faith in Spinal Tap). I feel so detached. I never imagined I could be this way. But I don't have my parental and marital relationships draining me, because for me they don't exist.

Because I am fairly blunt and because familial relationships are the norm, it probably seems to outsiders as though there must be something "wrong" with me, and to that I say, they know f- all. I do have an unconventional take on things, I don't know whether this is due to my natal Sun opposing my natal Uranus, Mars and Saturn in Gemini and Uranus and Pluto in Libra (I don't have anything except comets in Aquarius).

What do you think?

posted October 29, 2005 11:59 AM              

From the selection of choices that you have given us from your chart, perhaps Sun (self-expression, also dating) opposite (energy is over-excited by) Uranus (friends, also rebellion, restructuring) indicates this energy you describe best. In expressing yourself (or dating) others, you feel it is also important to "rebel" in some way. This results in the "close but not TOO close" energy of being "friends".

If you want a relationship, there is a need to restructure your self-expression so you take in account what the OTHER person wants. If, each time it comes to a decision of "me vs. you" you choose "me", no relationship will ever come! Relationships are about the balancing out of two people. While it is NOT about always giving the other person their way, it IS about working through the disagreements in SOME way so that BOTH people feel that their needs are being addressed.

You may already be doing this (it was not clear from your message), but if it's "my way or the highway" perhaps being "friends" with others is what you REALLY want.

Relating,

posted October 29, 2005 12:28 PM              

*taking action will help because then your life isn't a reaction to what's happening in others*
So true.

Reciprocal hugs,

AT

wilsontc,

*relationships are about the balancing out of two people*

Ohhhh yes. I understand this. Very difficult to do!!!!!

posted October 29, 2005 12:57 PM            

Plus, you mention having the trust knocked out of you, being cautious with people right now is also normal...who are others to judge how you go about living your life? You're taking care of yourself right now, getting your life in order, very healthy and good. The relationships will come along in good time.

hugs,
Laura

posted October 30, 2005 11:53 AM              

You ARE male, aren't you - I hope?!