posted November 02, 2005 11:13 AM            

Then you have this other person who has the finacial securtiy you want there is a connection somewhat nothing like the other person but it is ok you seem to be financially secure here. But somehow that other person still envade your thoughts and heart. What do you do BE HONEST.. and also put down your venus sign and house placement...

I am not gone lie being the Pisces that I am and quite the believer on true love that is where I would go.

posted November 02, 2005 11:50 AM              

~ geminstone

posted November 02, 2005 12:26 PM              

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

posted November 02, 2005 03:09 PM              

Follow your heart...money will follow

posted November 02, 2005 03:11 PM              

I don't think you ought just seek out soeone based on their financial future, but suffice to say, don't kid yourself either.

If I was to offer advice, I say neither. Just wait until you find someone who you love and you don't haveto risk putting your relationship through the hells of financial insecurity.

posted November 02, 2005 03:42 PM              

Well, being a fellow Fish, you know what I say, girl: Go for love, go for that soul connection.
I'll also say, though, don't try to make the relationship something it's not; don't rush it to commitment. See where this person really is with their life (maybe they don't have the inkling to commit to a career *or* a person ~ a soul connection's all well and fine when you're not acting on it; when something's made "real" it can be a different story entirely).
All mitigating factors aside ~ this is my pick.

As for person #2: Now, when we're talking about the connection being nothing like #1, are we lamenting that, while #1 is fireworks and poetry, #2 is friendship, slow and steady?
If that's the case, I'd give #2 a second look - not because of the money factor, but because this love might simply the kind of love that settles in while the first may be the kind that fizzles out.

posted November 02, 2005 03:44 PM              

I would pass on making a serious commitment to either of them.

Give it a good year and see how things work out. All relationships need at least a year to see how people work out together in the daily grind of life's ups and downs.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a romantic too.

posted November 02, 2005 03:48 PM              

to tell you the truth, i wish money never existed but then - there are other things attached to all of that - depending on what/where/how money is accumulated, that also has to be considered........more money, more problems

i have venus in sagittarius, 4th house. someone who is financial more secure than me scares the hell out of me - heart wise, most especially considering how the money is accumulated and the price that is paid to get that money. i also believe the element of dependence, plays a part too.

posted November 02, 2005 04:09 PM            

What a tough question – I’d lean more towards looking again at #2. Not because of the money but because it seems like there’s something already established there and loyalty is important. While the fireworks may not be blazing right now, they probably will again in the future. Friendship is the steady, lasting connection that binds two people together between the fiery passionate phases of their relationship.

If both #1 and #2 are new bloak’s you’ve just met (meaning they are on an equal playing field), I’d go with love always. In fact, in my youth I would have been in the love camp all the way (assuming there was no previous arrangement with #1), but age has made me more cautious. I’m lucky in that I’ve loved three men with my whole heart, two of them had barely a penny to rub together. I’m all about lasting love these days, and in trying to find the right formula for that kind of love, I’ve had to relook at some of my overly idealistic youthful views. Now I’d carefully take a look at which fellow I could truly love in the long term. Remember respect is a very important part of keeping love blazing. Especially for a woman – if you can’t respect your mate then your love will wither. Of course, men need to be respected by their mate as well. So find the man that you can both love, and respect, and share life with as a partner. Also look for which man feels the safest and the most like home. That is the fellow that will take care of your heart in the long run.

(I’m using personal pronouns in the most general sense – I know you aren’t asking this question for yourself, Mia, so take my you’s as general, and referring to all of humanity).

posted November 02, 2005 04:13 PM              

Venus in Virgo in 1st house

posted November 02, 2005 04:23 PM              

I've had the money. Doesn't buy happiness.

"Oh, you're upset"? "Here... let me buy you something". Or "If I take her here... or buy her this, she's bound to do this or this". Or "I don't have any substance, so let me throw my cash around... maybe that will impress".

posted November 02, 2005 04:29 PM              

Now, I know it can be frustrating when one person's doing all the work and it feels unbalanced, etc., but I have to say I would NEVER marry someone for money. Love all the way for this crab. If you've TRULY found the right person, the rest will follow and there may be problems, but you should be able to pull together and work it out.

This all being said, I agree with others here that you should know someone for at least a year before you make ANY leap into financial One-ness...

posted November 02, 2005 04:31 PM              

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"Oh, you're upset"? "Here... let me buy you something". Or "If I take her here... or buy her this, she's bound to do this or this". Or "I don't have any substance, so let me throw my cash around... maybe that will impress".

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posted November 02, 2005 05:04 PM            

i'm very materialistic..not too proud of that either