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Topic: i know i've brought this up before...sag/virgo relationship
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dorkus_malorkus
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posted November 05, 2005 01:46 AM
 
in aug i started seeing a sag guy and i'll admit there was no initial attraction on my part but i started to get these feelings for him. he's the first guy i've slept with, the first to tell me he's in love. i moved in with him and his family for awhile and i just moved back with my dad a day ago and i am miserable for leaving him and leaving my best friend whom i also have a strange (non sexual)attraction. i feel lost without having someone to hold me in my sleep. i left to get a job and save money but i don't think i can make it and i feel sick without him.a few of you analyzed our charts early on in the relationship and i distinctly remember hearing that i should stay away from him. i am usually good at reading people's intentions and i honestly think he loves me. i think that i could be happy with him despite there are a few things that myabe i can't change about him or that i will have to discuss with him (like the fact he will always interrupt me when i'm talking and sometimes it feels like he doesn't listen or doesn't even really know anything about me) i somehow feel safe with him although we are complete opposites. is there anything that would indicate abuse on his part or mine in our charts? i don't mean to bring it up again but now that my feelings have changed i would really like to know mine:
sept 6 1986 san antonio, TX 7:04 am his:
dec 13 1985 redding, CA 11:55 pm i really appreciate any insight in advance IP: Logged |
wilsontc
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posted November 05, 2005 11:27 AM
Malorkus,Yes, there IS an indication of possible abuse. His Pluto (power) conjunct (energy is combined with) Mars (being, also anger) conjuncts (energy is combined with) your Venus (relationships). So he may try to angrily overpower (or oppress) you in the relationship. In general, if a person gets in a relationship and starts wondering, "Is this person someone who will abuse me?" it is time to get OUT of that relationship. Because by the time you find out the answer to that question, it is usually too late. Insighting, Tim IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted November 05, 2005 11:35 AM
What if this is your Twin Soul,Love is made of feelings, not logic and common sense, Karma, has to be worked out eventually
astrology, and all these other tools are just tools, to base your decisions, on tools, is would not be a smart way to live your life. You must go within, and find the answers you seek, only you know, what you need.
Listen to your Heart
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pidaua
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 05, 2005 12:03 PM
Dorkus, Wilsontc has a point. If you are already worried about potential abuse, then you need to rethink the relationship. I was with someone that had major aspect indicating potential abuse (his Pluto formed a T-square with his natal Venus / Saturn and Jupiter - in his 12th house). It just so happened that my natal Mercury in Capricorn completed his T-square while his Venus / Saturn conjunction in Cancer completed mine. When I ran our charts what I saw over and over was "power struggles" "Potential manipulation and control issues" "possible violence". Not that is happens in every case, but in mine it surely was the case. I think we also warned you against this person NOT based solely on the chart, but because you expressed possible feelings for another person and you did not have feelings for him. He seemed to be pushing you towards a relationship that you did not want. Please don't confuse "Love" and "Desire" with a "need to be held". I have run across many men and women that settle into a less that steller relationship or use sex in order to get that "cuddle" or "hug". What that person doesn't realize is that not only are they hurting themselves but they are short changing the other person.. because that hug NEVER seems to be enough.. How does the Sag feel about things right now? IP: Logged |
alanabelle86
Knowflake Posts: 40
From: Somewhere over the rainbow
Registered: May 2009
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posted November 05, 2005 12:22 PM
My Boyfriend's twin bro is Dec 15. 1985, and his girlfriend is Sept. 9th, 1986interesting... IP: Logged |
dorkus_malorkus
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posted November 05, 2005 03:03 PM
ya'll are right. i'm not so much concerned with the abuse because i know i can take care of myself, i've done it for 19 years. but i mean i just feel safe when i'm with him and his voice calms me. i've never had feelings like that for a guy before. even though he did move faster than i was ready for, i'm glad things seem to be going well between us. it's a feeling i have that maybe i should keep this one, and i always try to go with my feelings, you know?i don't know we have like an unconventional relationship, but it works for some reason. alanabelle86,
huh, that is strange. how are things between them? btw.....the reason i asked about the abuse thing has nothing to do with him, but i have been around abusive relationships my whole life and was wondering if that's something that i picked up on.......... IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted November 05, 2005 03:24 PM
Stay away for a while and see if your feelings grow. It's true you may not need deep desire to have a good relationship, but you need more time to see the overview, find out more about your limits, what you can handle, and what you can't. Be honest with what you can't handle and after a while, talk to him about it.Take Care,
I know how much it feels right to be hugged, as an earth sign, and it is the right thing for you, but I don't know if he's the one who wants to give you that. He has to want to be a couple and be positive about you. Natasha
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