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Topic: Help a Cappy guy please
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iAmThat
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posted November 09, 2005 08:01 PM
 
Ok this guy and that girl are 27 each. Guy is Jan 14(Cappy) and girl Nov 4(Scorp). They were in relationship since 7 years. Problem is he just found out, right after her birthday that she has cheated him with his best friend.
Its been 2 days and the guy is very heart broken. He is going crazy over this situation and hurting himself. He is drinking at work and just had a small accident. He also spoke about feeling being used. The guy was planning to ask her to marry him in couple of months. Now he says he will not even have her as a friend.
Can you please provide your words of advice that I can present it to him? IP: Logged |
Rede411
Newflake Posts: 4
From: Framingham, MA USA
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted November 09, 2005 08:27 PM
First of all...give it time as it's only been a couple days. Generally speaking Cappy's reactions to hurt is to go and be by themselves to sort it all out. Scorps can be a bit deceitful but that's just downright wrong what she did. Don't think too highly of his best friend either. Advice for him, let him get angry, obviously he's hurt right now. Cappy's can get depressed especially when betrayed but you gotta let him work through that. Let him grieve for a while before trying to cheer him up and remember nothing is ever lost...just temporarely misplaced!IP: Logged |
iAmThat
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posted November 09, 2005 08:43 PM
I really feel sorry for the guy. The girl is very very beautiful and thinks she can have whatever she wants. In fact she was making him feel guilty about not doing enought to make money so that she can travel and enjoy the world. The guy said, he didn't even think about another girl in his dreams when he was with her. That really touched my heart. I would wait and see how it pans out. IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
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posted November 09, 2005 09:35 PM
wow what a **** .------------------
Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra *´¨)
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(¸.·´ (¸.·´ * Lost in the peace of serenity
Blind my eyes I cannot see
Lost my soul but found my heart
Again a time, when I shall start IP: Logged |
MoonDuchess88
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posted November 09, 2005 10:19 PM
Yeah, this girl is a piece of work  That really sucks  I agree with Rede though, you can offer him your support but let him work it out by himself for a while.I'm just the rising and while I do appreciate the comfort my friends offer in rough times like these, I like to be alone at my place....no phone calls, no BS....just me,myself,and I.IP: Logged |
SweetCappie
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posted November 09, 2005 10:40 PM
WHAT A B*&^%!! I hope he realizes he can do better and find someone who can be faithful to him. Good thing he hasn't married her or proposed to her yet.
I agree with the others that said he would most likely want to be alone to deal with his feelings. I'm a Capricorn and I always need time and space away from others when I'm hurting. I like knowing my friends are supportive and compassionate but the last thing I'd want is pity. IP: Logged |
iAmThat
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posted November 10, 2005 08:04 PM
Thank you guys. Its working. He is introspecting in silence. Didn't show up yesterday to speak his heart out nor am I calling him. I didn't realize Cappy guys were so sensitive as well? He reminded me of my Taurean Dad. IP: Logged |
iAmThat
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posted November 15, 2005 12:12 AM
I thought you guys would be interested in the latest happenings.Ok the guy goes and breaks off with the girl. The next day the girl is depressed and drinks too much. She meets with an accident. Gets relieved from hospital the same day (Thank God).
The guy decides to forgive her with a promise that it would not happen again.
The girl agrees. The girls parents do not know of the accident and girl wants it that way. So she asks the guy to help her get an attorney. Earlier, the cop had given her a ticket for reckless driving. So the guy decides to ask for money from a friend. He is pulled over for speed limit and gets another ticket for no documentation. Oh mine that was bad. So he decides to come and ask me for help. I agree. He comes with a idea of "promisory note". That was so cappy like hehehehe  He writes a nice one very quick and perfect. So I am glad for both of them. I remember the guy told me once that the feelings were as if there is a wall between them. I really hope he forgives her from the bottom of his heart and quits drinking. I also hope the girl will be a good wife Thanks for your feedback. It really helped getting him out of there. But I am really glad the guy made his own decision in the end. And a good one I believe. Touch wood. BTW, are earth signs also more in to dogs? Hmmm...my dad (Taurus) once got a stray dog home. Are earth signs really that innocent hehehehe..
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AcousticGod
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From: Pleasanton, CA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 15, 2005 01:06 AM
Yeah, we are, but don't mistake that for naivete.About his situation, we are tremendously sensitive and something like that is extraordinarily hard to deal with. I've only had to deal with the thought of something like that happening, and that was enough. It's really hard for us, because we fall so hard for women we really like, so the struggle is between the obvious greatness of the relationship versus the distrust of someone who's so obviously betrayed you. Then compounding that with questions as to why it would seem ok for this person to cheat on you is very hurtful. We are able to move on from this and continue the relationship, but it is difficult. ----------- I don't think we Cappies are more in love with dogs. We're pretty good with all animals. They love our calm nature. I'm not sure that Cappies are so passionate about animals, though. We like them a lot, but we don't love them like Aries do. We just get along with them really easily. I have a new friend who has a pit bull that had been trained to be a little aggressive (former owner, she [Aries] saved him). She didn't think we'd do together well, but I made friends with him and even let him out of his kennel to be free around me much to her surprise. IP: Logged |
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