posted December 02, 2005 04:46 AM              

I was married to an aqau guy, we were together for 8 years in all...

He was a most alluring and amazing personality...will never forget him. He had the most potent charisma I have ever seen in a person. He made me laugh until my sides split. He was generous and kind, would help anyone out, loved his friends, loved booze and having a good time, loved me very much........

But......

He couldnt connect the way I wanted him too. It has taken me years to realise that he wasnt in the wrong, we were just different thats all.

When I left him and went back to the house to collect some things he had up around the sitting room about 100 photos of me and the curtains were drawn.....he had made a shrine.....he was devestated......

When I asked him why he had treated me the way he did (he had lied to me), he told me he loved me more than anything, but that he always had a "deathwish" on me,,,,pushing me as far as he could, and then grabbing me back just before I fell over the edge .

I couldnt live this way....although I was at the same time very pulled by it?

I am now married to a guy who has Moon in Aqua...hahahahaha....and again there are differences, but he doesnt lie to me.....he is detached, again I being the opposite find this alluring...mysterious....and obviously I am meant to learn from it....

I have gone from completely misunderstanding Aquarian men to having some insight to where they are coming from........and I now realise they have much to teach this, at times too intense and possessive Scorpio woman.

posted December 02, 2005 12:11 PM              

How very intriguing......you will never be bored, and you will always be living on the edge.....

I have noticed how often water sign women are drawn to Aquarian men.......balance each other out hey.....and in the meantime, they may end up killing each other.....mmmmm......lovely....hahahahahahahahaha.....

posted December 02, 2005 03:30 PM              

We don't like being all kissy-kissy to our mate unless the time is right.

Yall not talking probably makes him want you even more. Hint: don't follow him around, don't play any of those "I love You" games, and don't act like your stalking him (Think of how we COULDNT go with a scorpio)

Hope this helps

posted December 02, 2005 04:41 PM              

I personally get very tired of setting limits on childish behaviour only to be told I am too "clingy". Clingy just means needy but we all have needs and they are not meant to exist or not exist for someone elses desire. That is dependent.

Aquas in my experience are sweet if you make up, but not much in the calling department. it does more for your b/f if you call him for some reason.

I don't suppose you could change him, but I hope for your sake there is more than what you see is what you get.

As Bob Dylan once said

"Go NOW, if you can't stay the whole night. I don't want to feel guilty if you have better things planned. I don't have a watch so why are you always asking me what time it is?"

One thing I can't stand are game players who ALWAYS check caller id before answering, always ask themselves why get involved, always want to make sure he or she can get involved without being stuck. Always looking to test the limits, and find a demanding, wholesome, and worthwhile mate.

Don't lose any sleep over him.

Take Care,
Natasha
Taurus
Sag rising

posted December 02, 2005 11:20 PM              

i know myself tht i can't put up with this guy but there is somehing about him that makes me curious to know him more....i can't get him off my mind...

i keep reading websites about aqua behaviour and his natal chart...

it is strange that i'm curious about somebody who is killing me with the way he is....

strange me!

posted December 03, 2005 01:39 AM              

Good Luck, it never makes any sense in the end. Just make yourself happy.

posted December 03, 2005 02:48 AM              

As I was reading your post, it brought back the memories of the 4 year emotional roller coaster ride I experienced with my ex Aquarius Sun/Scorpio moon (I don't know what his exact ascendant is but seems like a Libra rising. He was mostly detached (yuck!) yet at times displayed Scorpio intensity, sensitivity and passion (yum!) He gave me hell with all his "push me away--pull me close" control games. In the beginning of the relationship he was a little sensitive and emotionally expressive, then 8 months into our relationship he asked for space, he told me that our relationship was too intense & serious. I found out that he was scared of his own emotions for me so he pushed me away. I then became more loving and attached but he gradually became detached and constantly played games which made me feel insecure with him so I ended up holding back my emotions. At times, I still tried getting close to him but he would act distant. He complained once that I was holding back but when I told him he was holding back too, he pretended like he had amnesia and changed the subject. Whenever I tried to break up with him, he'd become very loving, intense, and tell me how much he wants to work things out, etc. I like tackling problems head-on but he never wanted to communicate, he'd disappear then pretend like nothing happened (amnesia again!) On a positive note, he was consistently very physically affectionate and used to call me everyday because I wouldn't call him (I'm not a phone person, I hate the phone).

I know when I was hurting with my ex, I didn't want to listen to my intuition and head which told me to leave him so many times. I went through four years of this because I thought we could work things out. I know I also made many mistakes so I'm definitely not blaming him for how he treated me -we just weren't right for each other. That was my first serious love relationship and it has taught me that relationships will only work if BOTH people make the effort. Your man has to at least TRY to fulfill your needs and make you happy. If he is causing you pain and frustration, maybe he isn't the man for you. I know how hard it is to be with someone that makes you feel insecure & unloved and then finally when you get the strength to leave them, they do everything right. I have a Cancer moon and its hard for me to let go even when it hurts to hold on. I was devastated after the break-up but soon I realized that I was hurting myself for allowing myself to be with someone who made me miserable. I'm so happy that he let me go and I wished I walked away sooner. Life is too short to waste time with the wrong person. I think you should focus on your needs and ask yourself what does he do for you, does he satisfy your needs in a relationship, does he make you happy, could you live with his contradicting behaviors? I wish you lots of luck & strength to deal with your Aqua guy!

posted December 03, 2005 03:12 AM              

i think ur cancerian moon helped you to understand me better.

yes...what you said is right...this guy is not for me....i've known this right two years back but i don know when we'll end up...

i have to stick like glue to my endding up decision so that i don fall in again!

posted December 03, 2005 03:43 AM              

Met Aqua at work, fell madly in love, he was the sweetest, most caring lover. Used to tell me everyday that I was beautiful, looked gorgeous, stunning, etc...(hehee...the sex was great and often). We move in together. So far so good.

Year later my best friend/ex kills himself, my favorite aunt dies of cancer in three monthes from being diagnosed and I have a miscarriage at 5 monthes. Aqua runs for the hills. No emotional support at all. Sex 8 times in one year--and with me being a scorp..uh uh I am literally left hanging in the wind. Not a hug in sight...

Sooooooooo, I open my options and find a nice, stable Taurus who is warm and caring and comforting. And, by the way, who I am crazy about.

Now Aqua tells me that I am his life and he made a mistake...(sigh) Way to find out a bit too late...but he's a dear friend and plays on that part to try to keep emotional ties...I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND AQUAS!!!

posted December 03, 2005 03:51 AM              

i went through man articles about aqua...
most described...aquas to be very devoted in love!
i'am totally surprised....the way my aqua is to me i even doubt if he knows what is "love"

please good god! DON'T CREATE ANY MORE AQUA MEN....

posted December 03, 2005 03:57 AM              

Given that though my Aqua was always very loyal just couldn't express himself emotionally AT ALL...

posted December 03, 2005 08:59 AM              

That is women who always play the one leaned on, and so it's easier. These women constantly think it's their fault for being clingy when in fact they are being normal, to choose someone and then complain of the other person's needs is very demanding and controlling behaviour. And that is a sign that emotionally the man feels vulnerable all the time.

Not just in love
You can't really fix anyone like this. If he feels weak he will always lean on you or punish you for not being there-your needs are never going to be met ever, and your feelings are being shoved away, it's unhealthy.

I recommend a good counselor to help with the breakup, make sure to stick to someone who is on your side and that you can be vulnerable with. If you can trust that person, then your decision will stand. In this case it's as if your entire world has been turned upside down.

Counselors help people get in touch with their feelings to express them, not shut them up, but it can make you stronger to accept yourself the way you are, instead of changing yourself or trying to change yourself through someone else.

posted December 03, 2005 10:16 AM              

Just couldn't figure mine out in the love arena....

(Just re-read my post and thought maybe it came across as harsh when it was just being matter-of-fact, sorry)

posted December 03, 2005 10:34 AM              

My Aqua had such a profound effect on me, I was still dreaming about him 15 years after we split up......Jeez......amazing or what.......never forget em tho....that is for sure......

love and understanding

posted December 03, 2005 10:46 AM              

I am completely with you on that one...

That crazy sense of humor gets me...even though we are split we still have a great big belly laugh everytime we see eachother...about seriously the most ridiculous things.

posted December 03, 2005 01:27 PM              

we are running out of time
time is of the essence here and now

Linda Goodman said this 20 years
twin souls uniting
bringing Pax et Bonum

GET OVER YOUR FEARS AND EXCUSES

find yoursElf!

posted December 03, 2005 01:35 PM              

They have a brilliant sense of the bizarre dont they....do you know the Aqua comedian Eddie Izzard, if not go and have a look at his website.....he is bloody amazing girl I am telling ya.....Uranus at its best !!!