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Topic: Just got dumped.....
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Rede411
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From: Framingham, MA USA
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted December 10, 2005 03:15 PM
  
...or so it seems. I've been seeing this Sag for about two weeks, things are going REALLY well, but then 3 days ago I notice he's being distant...when I call and leave a phone message..he just text messages me back a smile..no words...nothing. We've been IMing eacother so I see he's online...I say Hi and he goes offline...WTF??
I mean I know Sags needs their Freedom but I'm not a friggin stalker, plus does he have any idea who he's dealing with? I have 5 planets in Aries...I could rip him a new you know what in a matter of seconds. He also has a Virgo moon (yuk) and a Leo rising. I'm an Aries with a Gemini rising and Aqua moon. Anyone have an insights? I thought Sags are supposed to be blunt & honest, not hidden.man, i need a hug
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lotusheartone
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posted December 10, 2005 03:20 PM
that is him being blunt and honest
they can't even give you the time of
dayI'd ignore him
then he'll wonder what is wrong
his pride
you know?
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taurean_scorpion
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posted December 10, 2005 03:27 PM
that's so rude....i mean i hate it when my guy friends do that but if my boyfriend did that? certainly i'd ignore him for while until he comes back to you and finalize things...better yet why don't YOU just dump him? but that's up to you.... :]IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted December 10, 2005 03:33 PM
that would have been my first impulse
but we have to think about first, right?
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Neptune's Muse
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posted December 10, 2005 03:37 PM
I am sorry you are feeling like that Rede. I say you ignore him completely until he justifies his behaviour, if he didn't, then simply leave him. No one deserves this negativity and toxic relations in their life. Maybe he needs space to think about things or he needs time alone, you never know, but it is certainly rude let alone childish to behave like that, but then again, who knows what insecurities are driving this kind of behaviour. At any rate, I hope you are feeling better. IP: Logged |
Rede411
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posted December 10, 2005 03:40 PM
I'll give him a few days of the silent treatment....and THEN I'll kill him (kidding)IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted December 10, 2005 03:51 PM
*hugs*IP: Logged |
Rede411
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posted December 10, 2005 03:53 PM
Guys,Thank you for your kind words..I really appreciate them....I like him too much to just dump him immpulsively though.... IP: Logged |
Hexxie
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posted December 10, 2005 04:33 PM
Hi Rede <Hugz> !
Well you know that you and I have opposite Suns, but same Asc & Moon. Interestingly, my boyfriend is a Sagi Sun, Leo Asc, but he's got a Taurus Moon.I was asking what my boyfriend could possibly be thinking if he were in the above scenario. He said a few things that I hope will help you come to a conclusion. He said that as a Sagi he likes to shoot his proverbial arrows in all directions and then go out and see what he's hit. This could maybe mean that 1) he's lost interest cuz the 'hunt' is over (sorry to say) or 2) maybe he has no fricken clue, or can't concentrate on a target he has hit (you)! I totally agree with ignoring him for the time being. Something totally unrelated to you (work, friends??)could be causing his cute lil Leo Asc to sulk and he just can't deal with other people, even you, right now. I say this cuz Transiting Saturn is in Leo so that means it's in his 12th or 1st house. (My boyfriend happens to have Saturn in his 12th house of self-undoing!) Having Saturn spanking the Asc, even with a 10 ft pole (hehe I mean even within several degrees away) is a big lesson! If he dosen't contact you soon, just call him to get some closure for yourself to feel better and feel able to move on. Take care! ------------------
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Swerve
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posted December 10, 2005 04:48 PM
Hope I'm not intruding but it sounds like typical guys games really. I know my mates are like this with girls, pathetic really.This could be round one of a one-up game. If thats your thing I reckon you could beat him at his own game with your placements, but it sounds like maybe you are just a little too good for him. Blokes can know that instinctively and start the games to prevent that sinking in. That way they create immediate distance as an ace up their sleeve. I really really wouldn't bother while you don't have too much invested. Swerve IP: Logged |
bullhead
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posted December 10, 2005 05:07 PM
big hug for u
i know how u feel, u said u really like him n now giving him all the benefits of the doubt
but no matter wht his reasons are
he already showing u actions dat he is unprediticble and unrealiable in some way
so....ask urself if u can deal with it in a long run, sometimes, its better to see the true color in the begining than ppl who try to be somebody they arent n' u find it out later, its better than wasting 2 weeks of ur time than 2 yrs. as women we always have inner instincts bout red flags but we keep denying (i hope this is not the case here) remember, ppl cant be changed or fixed by someone else unless they want to do it for themselves.
if he just wanted some space to sort it out, its cool. so just stay put for now, but if he do it again, leave him alone. dat means he is not ready to love yet.IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted December 10, 2005 06:56 PM
Typical Sagittarius male 's all I got to say! I get so p1ssed when they do the disappearing act on you without saying a word!! 
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CancerianMoon
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posted December 10, 2005 07:19 PM
Hi Rede i think Swerve is right on the money..if you like him be sure this isnt a precedence for the future..i know sometimes i can be bit like that if im overwhelmed with stuff...you know, the quiet..and not saying much only a smiley..but for me it wouldnt last longer than a day..but i definately wouldnt leave an im without a word either..that would drive me up the wall!!! Give him a little time to resurface and explain himself..if he dont then let him know your not interested in games and say sayonara(maybe then you'll get his attention!)
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CancerianMoon
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posted December 10, 2005 07:21 PM
ohh and here is your hug 
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lalalinda
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posted December 10, 2005 09:46 PM
heres a hug sweetie  IP: Logged |
Rede411
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From: Framingham, MA USA
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted December 10, 2005 11:51 PM
Thank You so much guys! What a great support system! Alright, I've given this a lot more thought and I think Swerve & Bullhead hit the nail on the head. I have good instincts and I've played these games before and the red flags are waving like crazy. Aries usually has the last word cuz' we never shut up, so why should I be any different? He's going down, plain & simple....might have to leave out the tact too since Sags love to hear the brutal truth  IP: Logged |
Swerve
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posted December 11, 2005 06:10 PM
I think the boy may have bitten off more than he can chew....
Swerve
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LeylaLeFay
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posted December 11, 2005 11:32 PM
AAAAaack! No!Jumping down a mans throat because he isn't paying you enough attention will only make you look desperate for attention. The key here is to pull back without any explaination. When you confront a man on bad behavior you have turned the situation a "battle of wills." He plays to win..at your expense. "She's not going to tell me what to do!" When you pull back without any making any angry accuzations, he begins to think of ways to please you and make you happy, to win your attention back. (If he doesn't already know what area he's been slacking off in, he will ask.) So, when changes his behavior HE THINKS IT WAS ALL HIS IDEA. He believes he is clever. "I sure know how to handle women. It's the 'ol (insert his last name here) charm. Quite the sly fox I am. "
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let ther b light
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posted December 12, 2005 12:01 AM
hey rede.......biiiiiiigg hug
sorry to hear wat happened........im an aries too..so i understand ur need to go n sock him in the jaw(figuratively).....with ur own arrows of truth.......i no u must be fuming n maybe really hurt....but i think LeyLa is right........that may probably make him think ur desperate fr attn.....but on the other hand if it makes u feel better then maybe u shud jus go ahead n do it......all d best
love
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Lauren
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posted December 12, 2005 12:25 AM
Hey, if you're trying to get him back, then completely detach and don't contact him in any way.Personally I wouldn't be trying to get him back, because he sounds, for lack of a better word, like a moron. So, if you're not trying to get him back.. feel free to call and yell and do whatever else makes YOU feel better.. He deserves it after all. This won't make him apologise, and he most probably won't turn around and come bk into your life after this.. but do you really want him to? Do whatever you think will make you feel better about the situation.. and gives you closure, so you can move on. As an Aries, you should never bottle up feelings, it makes you sick, so I’d say let them loose. I’m an Aries also. I have a Cap moon and always bottle up my feelings. It’s very unhealthy, trust me.. This guy isn’t worth “careful handling”.. he’s no jewel. He isn’t worth the effort to play mind games either.. because even if you “get him” by doing this..do you really want him? Why put in the effort and waste time on Mr. Not Worth IT
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Aphrodite
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posted December 12, 2005 02:58 AM
Hi Rede, I have my Sun, Mercury and Mars in Aries. So I could understand your fury and willingness to send off the troops and attack. (Hehe). But, I wonder if may be you missed something in his vibe during the two weeks. You clearly had a good time, but what about him? There is definitely something he is feeling and is making him retreat. We don't know. It could be a lot of things. If you do launch an offensive, he'll know for certain you are ticked off, but then it may serve as evidence that he made the right move to withdraw. IP: Logged |
sweetlibra
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posted December 12, 2005 05:15 AM
Hi Rede411,
I am a libra with aqua moon. I have been in a similar situation with a Sag, Virgo moon.
I dono if this is the aqua-virgo moon thing, but I felt the same with this guy when he was cold and distant. I felt everything was going perfect and then he ignored me for days together. with this guy I never quite got any red signal(may b the signal system was damaged lol)I ignored him with gr8 difficulty. It was difficult since i was not used to playing games.
No phone calls or emails for a few days and he went crazy.
Anyway virgo moons are not meant for me 
Still i am hurt from that experience. (For me)Sags are gr8 as friends. I'll think twice if I wanted to get romantically involved with a sag again!
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alanabelle86
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From: Somewhere over the rainbow
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posted December 12, 2005 07:28 AM
I was in teh same situation years back. I dated a Scorpio Asc, Taurus Sun, Aqua Moon. Everything was magically wonderful and he started ignoring me. It started ON MY BDAY and continued for a week before i said f*** you and this bullsh*t. i dont need or deserve it. and I left him.
to this DAY he keeps crawling back, but im so disgusted still. and i want nothing to do with him ever again.
id say key is to back off. eventually hell come crawling back HOWEVER, i wouldnt take that **** . its not fair to you so unless hes worth it and you really wanna stick around, id say its time to go "FISHING".
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nannyfish
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posted December 12, 2005 07:42 AM
Hello. Why don't you text him a smilie and leave it at that?A)He comes back with a smilie and then the smilie back and forth starts...meaning he really didn't know what to say and got "shy"... B)He doesn't come back in which case he might not be as into it as you and then, wtf?, who cares. Go find yourself a nice male speciman that returns your calls IP: Logged |
Rede411
Newflake Posts: 4
From: Framingham, MA USA
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted December 12, 2005 10:25 AM
Hi guys!I'm not going to launch the full attack until he contacts me first....I'm not that desperate! When he does/if he does, I'll tell him in no uncertain terms that he blew it. Part of me is saying I should just leave it alone and walk away but my ego is ****** off and demands that I have atleast a little bit of closure. I don't think his actions warrent a smiley face from me let alone a friendly hello at this point. I'll keep you posted.... IP: Logged |
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