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Topic: HOW do you get rid of an ARIES??
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Lousianagrl
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posted December 15, 2005 09:41 AM
 
I have a friend who is an aries (his names Micheal) and he has liked me for about 5 monthes now. I am not interested in him and I have made that point clear..But SOMETHING I have done has made him more attracted to me. Before he would just tell me that he still liked me and we would go on talking about HIM.Let me mention he has Gemini Mars (most flirtatous position) and it conjuncts his Sun (aries) He's in the army reserves and he talks about it all the time. Either that or wrestling.
He has all the confidence in the world and it annoys most people but I don't really mind it (I'm aquarius, remember?  ) He called me yesterday and said "I wrote you a note but it was all mushy and s*it so I threw it away. You probably would throw it away anyway wouldnt you."
me: "Yeah probably"
him: "See that's something we have in common. You're an aries like me."
me: (laughing) "I'm aquarius"
him: "Oh. Well I.." goes on talking about his sign.
Me: "What did the letter say?" didn't care, just curious.
him: "It said you're sexy. See that's another thing we have in common. We're both sexy." See what I mean? He knows I have a boyfriend but that seemed to make him hang around even more.
How should I act to make him go away? Or what should I do?
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Rede411
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From: Natick, MA USA
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted December 15, 2005 09:56 AM
ok first of all....you've probabaly (as Linda puts it) "been adopted by an Aries". He likes the chase and you're unattainable which makes him want you even more. Being an Aries myself and having Venus in Aries and a Gemini Rising I am victim of this myself. You are a challange and the fact that you are friendly doesn't help. If you don't want anything to do with him, you have to tell him flat out "Leave me alone" and be VERY DIRECT about it so there is NO MISTAKING what you mean. With some male Aries unfortunately you might have to bruise their ego to drive the point home. You may even try saying that your not sexually attracted to him....if anyone said that to me, I would be out of there so fast...not so much out of hurt but it being almost "inconceivable" that someone would not be attracted to me...that's the Aries ego talking. Hope that helps!IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2005 10:11 AM
hey cutie,
tell him you're ready to get married! 
and watch him run.a conjunction is impossible with an Aries Sun and Mars in Gemini. IP: Logged |
sxycrzykewl221
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posted December 15, 2005 10:21 AM
Tell ya girl thats a tough one. My aries ex wouldn't give it up for years. They love the unattainable and get fixated. Aries are used to getting what they want and are very strong willed individuals. Any offer of friendship will be misconstrued, you almost have to avoid thier calls and avoid them completely and that still doesn't work. It drove my Aries so crazy he voilated my privacy, in my email tried to access my voicemail..way overboard...obsessed even..they want that which they can't have and see every challenge as surmountable. Being rude does not come easy, but it may be your only route. good luck.IP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
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posted December 15, 2005 10:24 AM
Rede: LOL thanks..I'll have to remember that next time he calls. I just don't know if I can be that direct. I don't want to hurt his feelings or anything.LaLalinda: His moon's in Libra. Are you sure that'll work? IP: Logged |
hot_ice
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posted December 15, 2005 10:25 AM
Guy/girl ignoring girl/guy always increases attraction for some weird reason,and a conj between aries sun and gem mars is impos..forget he exists,dont talk cause you feel "sad" for him etc....justr find a reason to walk away nicely,he should get the message,or if he's plain dumb or if he's trying too hard,he'll ask you himself about why you arent talking to him too often,then tell him flat out,but we guys usually get it once you start nicely avoiding them.... P.S:Both your sun signs start with letter A,you had SOMETHING in common,hmmm...they also end with an S IP: Logged |
thirteen
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From: alberta
Registered: Oct 2012
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posted December 15, 2005 12:17 PM
This makes me laugh. My aries ( now husband) once spent the night in his car outside my apartment when we were dating. I just wanted him out and then came the morning and there he was saying.... good morning! I wanted to hit him in that moment.IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2005 12:20 PM
ok that was a joke sweetie
meaning if the chase is over so should be his quest for you.Seriously, be honest tell him (tactfully of course) that your not interesred in him like that but you think hes really cool and you value his friendship. IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
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From: Portland, OR, USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 15, 2005 12:38 PM
I would bring up your boyfriend during your next email/conversation with Mr. Aries and any plans you have together, or mention any similar characteristics between your boyfriend and him.. My way of thinking, if you mention the boyfriend, most people will get what you're trying to say, if not, they're pretty thick. Then you would have to tell him you value him as a friend, but are devoted to your boyfriend. IP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
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posted December 15, 2005 07:25 PM
I told him in a firm voice "Micheal I don't like you that way. I have a boyfriend."and he just said "Come on I'm way better than him. You know you like me more. I know you do." I keep telling him to stop calling me and he DOESNT. My boyfriend is starting to get ****** though. He thinks that I like Micheal that way. IP: Logged |
MercuryBird
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posted December 15, 2005 09:32 PM
This whole story you're telling doesn't even seem very real to me.
I read in one of my moms books that you have to basically smother them and be extremely clingy. Give them what they want and they'll go away(from experience, I don't think they usually stick around long). Just be patient I guess.IP: Logged |
freebird
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posted December 15, 2005 09:41 PM
I know one Aries and he is attracted to Pisces girl. Not only he would take NO for an answer from her but would expect all his friends to do some spy work for him like find what her girl is oing and whether she is loyal to him or not. If you try to tell him politely that you can't he wouldn't get it.He would still expect to help him. Aries just don't get it when girl says "It's over"Lousiangal : It seems you have also been nice to him and kind of sending mixed signals to him. Just tell him that you wouldn't talk to him if he doesn't stop. Good Luck ! to get rid of him. IP: Logged |
Lauren
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From: Colorado Springs, CO, USA
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted December 15, 2005 10:25 PM
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Iqhunk
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posted December 16, 2005 05:31 AM
Potential Solution to the Aries Problem:
=========================================Excessively praising the Aries along with self effacement. Tell him he is like a Superman and deserves a super hot goddess like Jessica Simpson, infact tell him he can even get Jessica herself and why is he trying for a simple plain Jane etc. IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted December 16, 2005 07:08 AM
"See that's another thing we have in common. We're both sexy."  omg you’re joking right?  are you sure he’s not a Leo?
I’ve never had that problem with Arians. Maybe it's because when I’m not interested, I just ignore him…tho it doesn’t work for Gemini. IP: Logged |
sxycrzykewl221
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posted December 16, 2005 02:15 PM
or, if u want to save five or six years, just back over him with your car...
(half joking)
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ariestiger
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posted December 16, 2005 02:55 PM
Ummm...the females don't like backing down either, it seems. I know, as I have the capacity to get tremendously obsessive about people and I have to say that unless the obsession goes away of its own accord, they won't get rid of me. Not that I'm particularly nasty, I don't do hugely crazy or dopey things, I'm just THERE. But that could be my Sun in the 8th...  AT IP: Logged |
Stargazer
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From: just left of center
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 16, 2005 02:59 PM
Aries are dogged in thier pursuit. They simply can't understand why you don't consider yourself the luckiest person alive to be the object of thier affection.
The best way is to feed his childish ego with a big fat lie... like your too dynamic or passionate...for me... you need some one worthy blah blah blah... They will believe you Or... lalalinda's idea was good!! ... once they feel the chains of love snapping firmly around their ankles... they disappear fast... like Houdini...on to the next quest.... Or... you could tell him that your doctor forbids you to have sex for six months.... Panicstricken to the hilt... they'll be off to the next quest. Or.. you could run him over...  too funny!!!! IP: Logged |
funkyaquarianpixie
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posted December 16, 2005 03:06 PM
id jsut be honest cos aries appreciates directness..IP: Logged |
Pop Producer
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posted December 16, 2005 03:11 PM
Aries are intense, but not persistent (thank God he's not a Cancer). In a short time he'll find something more interesting to chase... BTW you REALLY want him out of your life don't you? IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted December 16, 2005 04:15 PM
“or, if u want to save five or six years, just back over him with your car…”omg!! that is too funny. IP: Logged |
SecretGardenAgain
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posted December 16, 2005 06:16 PM
that sounds real strange, what are his other placements? the aries i am with right now is very intense when hes in a relationship, but just like how linda describes, once he is over with it he is OVER. he has this weird abilty to completely cut off his feelings and never look back. when his last gf of 5 yrs broke it off with him he didnt even talk to her anymore, pretended she didn't exist. she begged to come back, but the answer was no, or more like, 'who are you again?' maybe that is because of his air grand trine, but me being a Gem sun with an air grand trine, even I can't do that. funny! Love
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MoonDuchess88
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posted December 17, 2005 08:52 AM
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bonneysharon
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From: new york
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted August 20, 2010 11:27 PM
lol, i have venus in aries and all of these posts describe me to a T. I don't take no for an answer when i like someone, the funny thing is that i am too nervous or scared to go up to a guy and talk to him, and i am nervous around guys, but once i get comfy about you forget about it. I won't stop until you are mine. I think i need to chillax. Btw i hate rejection too, don't know how to deal with it.IP: Logged |
Sunia
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From: Sunnyland
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted August 26, 2010 05:43 AM
Tell him BLUNTLY you just want to be friends, if he doesn't get it then ignore him. Don't pick his calls, don't answer his messages and so on... No one likes to be ignored. At some point he will get tired.
Don't worry too much about his feelings, if I were you, I would worry more about my boyfriend's feelings about all this situation.IP: Logged |
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