posted January 05, 2006 04:52 PM            

I seem to be struggling at the moment. Had an argument with my mum and she told me i never seem grateful for money and am completely unaware of my spending. I never listen and seem as if Im better or know stuff better.

I understand that i may have been reckless with money and will take responsibility for that...but sometimes I feel as if she thinks i have no feelings at all. I do though! I feel really vulnerable at times but when I do, i cover it up with smiles or a regal manner.

So, help...will i ever be sensitive enough for my mum? Also in an arguement, i tend to go cold..maybe my Cappie asc?

posted January 05, 2006 05:41 PM              

Here's Mom pointing out your flaws and telling you what to do. I can't think of anything better to tick someone off. Of course your going to distance yourself. Who likes to be told what to do! I'm 42 and when people try to tell me what to do -ooooo! do I get mad!! I'll even intentionally not do what someone tells me to do even if it's good for me - just because they're trying to control me. (so the clue here is deal with your Mom because you'll find the way that you react to her continues throughout life with bosses, friends, partners...)

I'm not sure how old you are but rest assured you do have a warm spot and as you get older you'll gain more skills in dealing with money and people.

Is it your money she's upset over or her money your spending? Consider if there is truth in your spending and whether you could improve in this area. Don't make the issue about you being "bad" or laying a guilt trip on yourself.

posted January 05, 2006 05:48 PM            

She's an awesome friend for a fun time or when you need a dose of reality or simply a fighter for your cause.

However, she is very unaware that people can live different lives than her. If she opposes a view of mine, I get completely ridiculed by her.

Once I scratched my cornea and it's stinging and burning was terrible and I couldn't open my right eye, all she could say was "stop being a baby". This was pretty amazing coming from an Aries, with their low threshold for pain. She whines and complains for hours after something like a stubbed toe, but while I sit in silence with my eye stinging, she can't seem to remember all the instances where she has had a hard time.

posted January 05, 2006 06:48 PM            

I am not sure about everyone's age, but when I was a teen and in my 20's I would say careless things. My mother is a Cancer Sun / Cancer Moon / Scorp rising. She had to live with two Saggies (my bro has a Scorp moon / Merc in Sag... so you can imagine his sharp tongue).

As you go through life you start to recognize the look in the eyes of the people you have offended. You will read their subtle cues and go from there. It WILL happen or else we Archers would not live to our normal old age since the Scorps in this world would have already taken us out for our HUGE mouths LOL.....

Seriously though.. I do find that there are times I say things completely wrong and offend the one I am with - if they are the overly sensitive type. I was with a Taurus (Venus in Cancer conjuncting his Saturn) that would pout FOR DAYS when I said something to hurt his ego.

My new Taurus has a Sag moon and Mercury in Aries. He has said a couple of things that I took offense to, but then realized he had blurted them out wrong. We also become more forgiving of that flaw in other people because WE make those verbal mistakes all the time.

I promise that it will get better.. the sensitivity that is...

posted January 06, 2006 11:53 AM            

Kat - i think i would agree with you too. I'm 22 and back and forth from University and have just returned from 4 months in the US. So all is a little tense at the moment.