posted January 11, 2006 02:04 PM
Welcome, Eddie, and congradulations, that's great.
I've also had some experience with addiction.
sd09 -
What about "drug addiction AND attention seeking"? The two dont seem mutually exculsive to me. The first is a behavior, the second is more of a motive.
Incidentally, people talk about "trying to get attention" as if its an unworthy motive for self-destructive behavior. It's not. We all desperately want and need attention, like a plant needs sun light.
"The opposite of love is not hate, its indifference."
- Elie Wiesel, holocaust survivor.
Before Buddhists talk about love, they talk about mindfulness, and learning to be fully "present" with one another; that is, to give one's full attention. Therapists will tell you that approximately 90% of their job is listening. Most of the reason talk therapy works, is just the fact that someone is taking the time and energy to really listen to you (like your friends and family never did).
~ hsc
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"My friends, how desperately do we need to be loved and to love. When Christ said that man does not live by bread alone, he spoke of a hunger. This hunger was not the hunger of the body. It was not the hunger for bread. He spoke of a hunger that begins deep down in the very depths of our being. He spoke of a need as vital as breath. He spoke of our hunger for love.
Love is something you and i must have. We must have it because our spirit feeds upon it. We must have it because without it we become weak and faint. Without love our self-esteem weakens. Without it our courage fails. Without love we can no longer look out confidently at the world. We turn inward and begin to feed upon our own personalities, and little by little we destroy ourselves.
With it we are creative. With it we march tirelessly. With it, and with it alone, we are able to sacrifice for others."
- Chief Dan George