posted February 15, 2006 08:28 AM              

There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that men are fearful these days. It's good to be the aggressor and ask him out so he can talk, open up and you can get to know him.

posted February 15, 2006 08:57 AM              

it took a year or two before I broke out of my shell and starting dating like my twenties.

It's a time to see new cities, look at the big picture, study, work, travel, and go hiking in the mountains to think. But do pamper yourself.

I would get a new haircut and massage and remember to connect to good things.

That year I cut off all my hair and spent some time hiking and studying for an art degree. Took a long time for that hair to grow back, so don't be that extreme.

geminigirl if you want to post your pic and get honest feedback I will tell you how you really look. It helps to know how others see you,
It's weird but it helps clear up a lot of doubt about your self image.

posted February 17, 2006 06:04 AM              

Also for now, try doing something that you have never done. There are lovely mountains in CapeTown, visit there for the weekend with some girls who look up to you and try hiking. With NO THOUGHT of relationship or guys in the head or subconscious.
The Auric cleanup will prepare the way for the ideal mate when you return.

BTW, you look very charming and attractive, lovely cheeks that can be kissed for days
I dont see worries on that front.

Instead of seeing 4 affairs as heartbreaks, think that you were good enough to attract 4 boys in 7 months!
Millions of girls would be jealous of that!
Invert the Situation to the positive.

posted February 18, 2006 04:38 AM              

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Gemini girl, be serious and make men aware you are looking for long lasting relationship material, not companionship. Tell yourself to follow the real thing, and be open to asking men out who seem curious about a relationship.
There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that men are fearful these days. It's good to be the aggressor and ask him out so he can talk, open up and you can get to know him.

Natasha
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GG can I but in please
LQ - what do you mean by the 1977-78 batch and their saturn returns? I'm part of the 77 batch and the person I'm seeing is part of the 78 batch. We're stuck on a merry go-round. Neither sure of what type of relationship to have. Is that what you mean?

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posted February 15, 2006 08:51 AM
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Hello Kay,
The 1977 batch has some unique lessons to learn because 1977 was the year of Chiron discovery. Also, our Saturn return is this year and so all sorts of heart breaks, hart aches, Karmic balances will occur this year.
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Saturn return for me was all about feeling unattractive and ugly so maybe there is something to that.
it took a year or two before I broke out of my shell and starting dating like my twenties.

It's a time to see new cities, look at the big picture, study, work, travel, and go hiking in the mountains to think. But do pamper yourself.

I would get a new haircut and massage and remember to connect to good things.

That year I cut off all my hair and spent some time hiking and studying for an art degree. Took a long time for that hair to grow back, so don't be that extreme.

geminigirl if you want to post your pic and get honest feedback I will tell you how you really look. It helps to know how others see you,
It's weird but it helps clear up a lot of doubt about your self image.

Hugs,
Natasha

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posted February 15, 2006 10:25 AM
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i tend to see a pattern .
all the recent gemini personal thread have been of the same kind .
is this just a coincidence or is it the inner gems without thier facades ?
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posted February 15, 2006 11:11 AM
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I agree to the pattern that Canerrg has spotted. I think AG spotted a lot of Scorpios feeling intense too. Something is stirring Scorpio souls and Gemini socializing.
Natasha is right GeminiGirl. Put your picture here if you feel blue. Let a real man praise your beauty for a change than some lousy players who dont know how to value and possess a gem

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posted February 15, 2006 11:12 AM
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GEMINI = GEM in I
Remember that always.
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The link so u can all comment on my not so great looks, although thats not really good pics anyways just to get an idea. http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/005830.html
now im more like a 1987 batch. aparently i over focus on relationships like cause i have sun 7th house venus 6/7cusp in taurus conjunction decendant opposition my rising obviously. anyways ppl always tell me that i always look determined that i look like i know what i want and usually get it. i have green eyes medium frame. im just really upset cause im so in love with this pisces guy he is everything i want in a guy and im way to attracted. so i found out he has a g/f which is horrible, cause i desire him. its so evil of me. the worst is when i look at him i see me in his eyes, and i can actually picture us together. which is very dangerous. im so attracted to his sensitivity his voice his name is like my fav. for a guys name. and his mind intrigues me. its just a perfect mix of all my preferences, i know im sorry. also funny thing happened i went to this gay guy and he cut off my hair not all of it, but it was long like beyond shoulder length and blonde my natural color now im brunette. that only happened like 2 weeks ago. so im very depressed bout that. im so pathetic when i found out he had a g/f i cried like the whole night i felt like i was gonna die. i wonder if its a mind thing??? i just feel like i somehow have a connection with him its really weird. im positively going crazy. and i wonder if its really that i feel theres something wrong with me, or its cause i dont get what i want. when i get it im no longer interested? then again im just looking, and needing someone i can trust that i can really rely on. cause i get like controlling if i feel a lack of security.
i also have scorpio in my chart, and when it comes to my emotions i feel like a scorpio most of the time. Iqhunk ur so cute thanx. and thanx for all the replies guys. really sorry for letting my heart out, but it helps preventing me from jumping off the edge.

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Hi, I am a gemini, leo rising, and although I feel that this a changing period for me, I am in a relationship and we ere going to meve together soon. But lately we tend to fight more often. He is scorpio, taurus rising,so after what iqhunk said about gemini and scorpio I thought maybe this is difficult period for us. Could you give me some more information?
About your broken heart,gemini girl, be pacient, donīt rush you.Just let it be without pressure, I used to feel the same, but it is nothing wrong with you, it is likely that you have too much expectations vey soon, just let things happen without thinking in your soulmate for a while, so you will avoid deceiving and one day suddenly you would realize you are in the right relationship.I donīt know if this is usefull for you but at least is what another gemini has learn!
take care

posted February 18, 2006 04:49 AM              

GG I think there may be two forces at work here, and none of them is astrological, although I guess both of them could be traced to being Gem, I believe you have Scorp moon like myself too:

1. Gem women tend to look too fast, you couldnt possibly have had four really good relationship prospects in the last few months, there had to be bad seeds in there, men playing you or yourself projecting unrealistic expectations, or just hoping for a relationship so badly that a man asking you out seemed like relationship material. Dont mean to sound critical, Ive totally done that too and took me a while to realize it. I wanted to date every guy that asked me out! Then I stopped and wondered, why give all of them that status / importance when they havent even expressed it explicitly? Believe me if a man wants a relationship he will say so quite outright...Ive pretty much seen that if a guy isnt sizzling with love for you then forget it because that sizzle cant develop over time it has to be inherent in the chemistry and compatibility of the relationship.

2. What kind of men are you seeing? Maybe you would need to go out and find different kinds of men. You're very young anyway and I would say, why are you looking for a long term relationship? I am seeing an Aries guy (steady) right now, although I do occasionally date others (dated two other men over the last 2-3 months), and let the Aries know of course, but what I decided after the Aqua broke my heart was, Im *not* in this for relationship, its to meet nice men, to go to nice places and have good conversations, watch good movies, brush up my dating skills and of course, the game of being wanted, isnt that a big part of it always for Gem women? Of course Im not deceiving anyone coz I already told them Im not looking for a relationship, but whats funny with Air and Fire men in particular, if you tell them that, they want you MORE in a relationship way. Now I have this pesky Gem guy who wont leave me alone and apparently wants to MARRY me and this Aries who keeps not letting us break up.

If you take a stand for yourself, and step back a bit, the men who really deserve you will be at your feet. Its all about who is too emotionally involved, and who isn't.

posted February 18, 2006 05:44 AM              

<< anyway i just u speak to me as im sure u speak to many ppl, but i feel that i want ur knowledge ur enlightment and ur wisdom>>

I can tell you exactly where I got my knowledge but it will be heavy reading and you may have to spend about 150-200 US$ to get all the books. As many free links as I can get I wil collect and post them, no worries.

Enlightenment/Wisdom is not much and very much still in learning mode. Thats why I am here to learn from so many experiences.

<<would u mind telling me a bit more about urself that is the reason when u first posted in the beginning i replied i just felt this need to >>
I have tons to tell, you will get bored

I did not like you feeling upset because you and Tim Wilson selflessly looked at my chart when I was confused about my Kundalini/Past Life issues when I joined here.
This shows that you care a lot about people, and I am sure you will find much happiness once you start feeling deserving of it. Thats the secret, you must affirm that you deserve it. And I am 100% convinced that you deserve happiness.

But you must also feel gratitude. I posted this to Alisa, the girl from Bangkok. I will repeat, 1 billion women on earth have never had even 1 day of genuine love/sex/affection in third world countries. If you count all the good days with all the men you have had, just imagine, you are 1 trillion times luckier. Retain only those good thoughts, release the breakup thoughts or feelings of lack, and you are on your way to attracting perfect happiness.

<< i think u can be very stimulating mentally and pls this is in no way making a move lol or trying to sweet talk u.>>
What do you mean just mentally stimulating ????
I look better than Sylvestor Stallone in Rambo!!!!! I am a physical stimulator!!!!
And do sweet talk me anytime you want, I like it I got a Libra Moon

posted February 18, 2006 02:18 PM              

Sun-gemini, Moon-scorpio, Asc-scorpio, Mars-cancer, Venus-Taurus, NorthNode-aries.

posted February 20, 2006 10:17 AM              

A dream of "Mom having cancer" could be a warning that your true empathy was dying. Meditate on this.
What is true empathy? When you empathize with another's problem and assist without expecting anything in return. This could be empathizing with family members, children, lover, friends or a social cause. Right now, you are feeling self pity and desire for pain so that you can play a victim and attract a particular saviour to whom you have a passion. This will obviosuly cause misery because your Soul does not need this. Anything not needed by your Soul will cause only misery. Your HIgher Self is always ready to help the Soul have experiences- positive or negative and the Soul must choose.

Suggested Solution:
Choose Positive Experiences.

You need to get a fresh diary. Put on a Sherlock Holmes thinking cap and start noting down in reverse chronological order every happy moment you have had and why it was happy for you. In a parallel column, note down every sad moment and why it was sad for you.

Go all the way down to childhood. Some events might trigger tears. Cry it out one last time if need be, it helps release the negativity harmlessly.
[I cried at a stock market disaster. Later I cried for joy because the losses were made up . See, even tough guys cry ]

Now, you must mentally send all these sad events to your Higher Self. Imagine them going from your diary out through the top of your head into a giant white sun, and disapearing forever.

Do this for a few minutes, then imagine all the happy experiences coming down to fill the space left in your Aura by expelling sad events. Go through the happy expereinces and send thanks to your HIgher Self for every one of them, and request better happy experiences. They will be sent for sure.

Thats it. YOu have started the happiness cycle. No looking back.

Go over the happy events/happy emotions and find the common link. Affirm that you will now give
similar feelings of happiness to others. JUst affirm and intend. You dont have to act yet. When the time comes, you will get the right opportunity to act. It could be as little as a baby sitting or as powerful or helping someone get through the loss of a loved one.

WHat will this do? It will set up an spirituo-magnetic force to draw in the ideal man for you who will give you happiness. You can stick together by keeping each other happy back and forth.

The diary will have to be re-written every few weeks and soon it will be an endless loop of happy expereinces and learning. Some sad events may occur but they will be illusions of a bigger happy event to come. Whenever some guy leaves after giving happiness, it will always mean that someone better is coming and he has done a favor by moving.