posted February 16, 2006 04:35 PM              

So what's up with him? What is bringing on the new found openess to me on? It's just a bit curious. I would think with his venus conjunct saturn transit...he'd be hunkered down far, far from thoughts of me and my neck of the woods... Any comments on his transit or even his natal chart would be helpful...

posted February 16, 2006 05:27 PM              

My hunch is D may be happy to have transiting (planets in the sky) Saturn (duty, also restriction) off the conjunction (energy is combined with) to his Ascendant (self)!

Restrictively,

posted February 17, 2006 02:09 PM              

The Pluto over Jupiter I assume has to do with major things happening at work? He is involved in expanding the research side of his work--still contemplating the book. Any take on the Moon and NN hooking up. May also simply be a time of bolder moves..

posted February 17, 2006 07:52 PM              

I wanted to ask you LILYGIRL, how long ago did this shift seem to take place. Sounded like you were saying he was being more "expressive", so I was looking for Gemini/Mercury/3rd House stuff.

* Mercury Conj Mercury
* Transiting Mars cuddling up over Gemini's territory
* And then the more recent Moon Transit over the 3rd

Some other observations...

posted February 18, 2006 01:03 PM              

In my case it was coming to terms with my thinking of the current relationship. I tried to look at it as objectively as I could. Based on your earlier suggestion didn’t try to force myself to be unnatural (as it was affecting more). I tried as hard as I could to make myself feel/think that there is nothing from her end. Also taking a cue from your earlier thread of whole person, I am making myself think that she is a whole person and doesn’t require any help or has no needs. So I have no reason to be there in her life in that sense and get myself attracted to her with Piscean dream fantasies of helping her out.

Based on this I tried to act natural. Earlier I used to try shying away eye contact, as once I felt “hey I am not listening to what she is saying and might get lost”. However it was again odd shying away. So now I try making proper eye contact whenever we talk. Let myself speak what I wanted and not restrict myself (earlier I used to think if I speak more I am making the relationship grow more). In fact now it is more than natural, I mean I have sometimes tried to flirt or tease her (maybe one of the reasons was of my thinking – she is just trying to be flirty, so let me also just flirt; lol – so that I made myself think that she has no attractions to me and just being a flirt – trying to give her taste of her own medicine).
Again there are instances where I feel to back off and be bit unnatural, as its me who might get more attracted to her and in turn affected for acting naturally. That’s where jumping in and jumping out could happen. Inner fight on how to deal with such a relation.

Good news is that I am flying off, for work purposes, for couple of months (I wish it was permanent); away from her. Hope this cools down the attraction. I am also trying to have more interactions with other girls, so that my attraction for her becomes less (as she is the one with whom the interactions are more).

I had recently Sat trining, Mars/Chiron sextile, Node conjuct Merc (4 house), at the same time Asc Sq Merc.
Transiting Mars would enter into Gemini (7 house) soon. While Sun, Chiron and Neptune were in my third house for last few weeks.
By the way I am trying to locate my Eros, however am unable to locate the asteroid name in the s/w which I have with me. Is it known by some other name?