posted March 07, 2006 01:18 PM              

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...can’t find boyfriend for years! Is it some transit or some bad aspect in my natal chart? (Just for the record, I’m very popular, and it’s not that I CAN’T find boyfriend, it’s just that no one seems to suit me.

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As you indicate with Venus (relationships) trine (energy goes very easily with) Libra (relationships) modifying your Ascendant (self), relationships aren't that hard to find! However, since you have most of your planets on the left (self) side of your chart, you tend to want to have a relationship that works best for YOU...and may not be taking the other person's wants into account in your relationships.

Another challenge is Venus opposite (energy is over-excited by) Neptune (spirituality, also idealization), indicating you may be looking for the "ideal" relationship. Since "ideal" relationships don't exist you get into relationships THINKING they could be "ideal", only to become disappointed later when they don't work out as perfectly as you expected them to.

In addition, you have Saturn (duty, also restriction, structure) conjunct (energy is combined with) Ascendant conjunct Mars (being, also action), indicated you may feel restricted in the ability to take action. This possibility is increased since Libra (relationships) modifies Mars, indicating a need to "balance out" all actions (seeing how all possible actions "relate" to each other) before deciding. If people don't have the patience to wait around until you have it all "balanced out", they could leave the relationship while you are still trying to decide whether or not it is worthwhile having a relationship with them!

The challenge is to give up on finding the "ideal" relationship, and instead actively work towards structuring your relationships in the way that works best for you...and finding someone who is willing to work with your "vision" of what a relationship "should" be. This may take awhile to find someone willing to work on a relationship in this way...but, in the meantime, you can enjoy LOTS of relationships with the "also rans" while you are waiting to find someone who REALLY wants to work at relating!

Currently transiting Pluto (transformation, also power) is conjuncting your Neptune, so you may becoming more aware of these relationship issues as Pluto brutally strips off the "rose colored glasses" and forces you to confront your idealism. Pluto transits are challenging and ultimately are about the need to take control. Use your new-found source of power at this time to take control of your idealism and use it to create an "ideal" relationship...as described above.

Relating,

Tim

posted March 08, 2006 05:00 AM              

I'm noticing your Mars in Libra is in your 1st House, & very close to your Ascendant in Libra. There seems to be a lot of energy in your Chart focused on that area. Do you feel very Libra?

How is your health, especially your heart?

The other thing I notice is you have your Sun and Moon in the 10th House, your MC (Midheaven or 10th House Cusp) in Cancer, and for the last few years, you've been feeling the tug of Transiting Saturn on your Sun in Cancer in the 10th House.

I'm trying to show you there are opposite energies at work, Cancer/Moon/4th House is Opposite of Capricorn/Saturn/10th House.

But it's not over. Transiting Saturn is going to start getting closer to your Natal Moon in the 10th House. Those opposite energies again.

Your Descendant is in Aries. So it's like you have a bit of a past-life having learned Aries lessons. You enjoyed a time where you were able to be more spontaneous, but you now have that Cancer Sun, Mercury, Venus & NN - Plus all those opposite energies which causes more restraint.

You will need patience WITH YOURSELF. If you don't have patience with yourself, no one is going to expect you to be able to give it to anyone else.

Try to cultivate any Libra energies you have working for you. It is Cardinal enough to sort of over-rule your Cancerian tendency to hesitate at this time.

And be careful with your health. Get checked regularly, and don't ignore what your body tries to tell you.

posted March 08, 2006 05:04 AM              

Keep track of this for you own use. Like a diary. See if you feel like you are doing "worse" or "better" during those two times, and remember that the Transiting Moon moves quickly.