posted March 10, 2006 09:13 AM
Heya Green Fairy 
I envy you your wonderful childhood family 
Re: Your Friend: It'll vary greatly given the Scorpio's Asc and House positions, but his Pisces Moon would go a good way towards helping him to navigate her extremely watery depths.
At a quick glace, she doesn't have an awful lot of pertinent fire in her chart...the greatest risk in this relationship may be her getting too moody/broody for him, or of him just being too generally callous with her feelings.
Here's a good very generalized description of a pairing of those two Sun Signs:
Leo with Scorpio
Leo is fire and Scorpio is water, and together the two of you can produce a great deal of steam. The steam can be the creative vapour of two fine imaginations combining to generate wonderful ideas.
Leo's generous heart can help Scorpio to be more open in emotional expression, while Scorpio's depth of insight and compassion for human failings can help Leo to recognise that it's acceptable to be an ordinary human being. Joint creative projects can bring the best out of both of you.
But the steam might also be the hot atmosphere of emotional confrontations. Both of you are proud people with powerful personalities. It's likely that both of you recognise that you have met your match in each other - in strength and determination as well as in intensity. But neither of you is a good loser, and you can be stubborn if you feel you are being "bested". Both of you can be possessive, and you are not quick to forgive a betrayal.
If you honour each other's sensitivity and pride, you can keep your passion burning long after other couples have traded it in for safety and habit. Friends may sometimes feel they are watching the last act of a Verdi opera, but neither of you would have life any other way.
You are a Leo
Leo's public relations staff have made sure that the King of Beasts is presented in newspaper columns as the top of the heap: mane flying, radiating confidence, creativity and self-assurance, ready to outsmart and outshine any foe, loving life and the applause of the crowd.
It's true that you strive for all these things, and spend a lot of energy developing them. But Leo, confident? The reality is just the opposite, which is why you spend so much time thinking about yourself. Deep inside, you're driven by the need to fulfil your own individual myth. And you don't have to look very far to discover that myth: the larger- than-life hero, however humble the worldly disguise. Beneath the apparent extraversion of this powerful sign there always lies a secret child.
Leos are so idealistic it can make one cry. Even Leos who cloak themselves in cynicism are really romantics to the core. Your idealism can make you cry too. Leo envisions life in a certain way, and that way is usually coloured by the nobility, beauty and romanticism of a fairy-tale royal court. Once you've got that vision, you don't appreciate having to change it.
It takes a lot to convince you that villains don't always wear black, heroes don't always win the battle and rescue the beautiful princess, and the beautiful princess isn't always suitably adoring and grateful afterward. Leos have a kind of black and white perception which is often bruised by the complexities of human nature.
Being a hero is a tough role to play these days, since people can be so damned unappreciative. But if you can stick to your inner vision without demanding that the rest of the world conform to your ideals, then it may one day dawn on you that you are indeed the hero, on a quest for your own Self, and that the rich love of life which blossoms in you is not wasted just because you sometimes have to compromise with reality. The tendency to cling to an ideal and become bewildered when it's punctured is most visible in your relationships.
You're perpetually baffled by the pettiness, ambiguity and general nastiness that abounds in the human psyche. Not that you don't have your share of these human attributes. But you usually make an enormous effort to be honourable in your dealings with others. Loyalty and honour are terribly important to you, and these things are hard to find in the marketplace these days.
Leos need to paint their canvas with large, unrestricted strokes. Wherever a new, original idea is needed or some new creative possibility can be envisioned, there Leo is to be found. No Leo likes to be the power behind the throne. Nothing but the throne itself will do. But that's part of your charm - the more distinctive and individual you are, the happier you feel. Some Leos carry this to outlandish extremes. Napoleon, for example, wanted to conquer the world. Whenever it's said that something can't be done, there will be a Leo determined to do it.
The trouble with all those big, bold brush strokes on the canvas of life is that somebody has to clean the paintbrushes afterward. It's pretty certain this won't be you, because you feel trapped and miserable having to deal with the details of everyday life. Of course you can do it; Leos are wonderfully competent. But you don't feel it's your role.
Leo's famous extravagance comes from two sources: first, you love things to be beautiful and luxurious, and second, you can't be bothered to see whether there's enough in the bank account to cover it. Save? Budget? Don't be silly. Your intuition gives you unquenchable optimism. The down side of this is a belief that you should be exempt from all those banal restrictions that afflict mere mortals. Yet your gifts are often so outstanding that others make allowances. You need to feel important to yourself, and often try to find that sense of self-esteem by being important to others. When they don't notice you, you're hurt.
Leos often find it very difficult to share the stage. You're generous to a fault, but you can be insensitive to the emotional currents around you. And as for pride...Well, you invented the word. Leos are often deeply introverted, but you depend so ferociously on the love and acceptance of others that you'll do virtually anything to earn their admiration. It's really a problem of identity.
The big task which challenges you in life is the issue of who you are, why you're here, and why you're uniquely yourself. It's a lifelong challenge. If you can't muster the self-esteem you need from your own inner resources, you'll crave it like a drug from the audience. But the real journey is within, into the source of your own being. It's in the process of creating that you find your real sense of self-value. And the Leo who learns this, and lives it, is indeed heroic.
The Scorpio partner
Enough has been written about Scorpio's famous passion to make further descriptions redundant. These descriptions aren't strictly accurate either. Scorpios do indeed possess passion in abundance. But the passion may not necessarily be expressed in the obvious way. Sexuality, for Scorpio, is a gateway, a means of reaching a different order of experience. It isn't just a physical release.
Sex and love are bound up with a longing for some kind of transformation which no ordinary relationship can provide. Call it what you like - a mystical experience, a taste of the depths, a surrender to something greater than oneself - it has more to do with the soul than with the body. The Scorpio partner has a capacity for enduring, indestructible loyalty and love. She's capable of acts of great self-sacrifice. There's a touch of fanaticism in her, and this can permeate her relationships as well as her spiritual and political attitudes.
Scorpios don't paddle in shallow pools. They dive into depths well over their heads. Sadly, that fanaticism, unleashed in a relationship, can sometimes breed extreme suspicion and absolute possessiveness. That is, if the Scorpio is in love. If she isn't, and the magic gateway into the upper (or lower) realms isn't available, you're liable to be confronted with real emotional ice.
The Scorpio partner's biggest problem is the need to be in control. This can show in some pretty unattractive ways. Like having too much pride to apologise when she's done something really stupid. Or displaying implacable resentment and "punishing" you (with silence and an atmosphere so thick and dark you can cut it with a knife) without telling you what you've done wrong. Or finding subtle ways to test you, because she doesn't really trust you. You'll rarely get to hear just how much you mean to a Scorpio partner, but you can bet that, the less you hear, the deeper her love.
On the other hand, Scorpios have little respect for someone who won't fight back. The Scorpio partner has to win, but don't hand victory to her on a plate. Not surprisingly, crises are endemic in Scorpio's relationships. That is, if you haven't got one of those repressed Scorpios where everything seethes inside but all you see is an occasional wisp of steam. If you've got one of those, beware. Send your Scorpio to a therapist to release the pressure. It won't be much fun if it blows up at you.
What's really rare and wonderful is that the Scorpio partner has an incredible capacity for understanding you. Since she misses very little, she knows a lot about your deepest motivations very quickly. If you don't like that sort of honesty in a relationship, choose another sign. But if love means something more to you than hanging about the disco chattering, Scorpios have a lot to offer. A relationship with a Scorpio promises nothing less than transformation.
Probing is Scorpio's favourite pastime. A suspicious Scorpio isn't above scanning the telephone numbers in your little black book while you're in the bath, or checking the receipts in your wallet. Some Scorpios even become professional detectives, or forensic pathologists. But whatever games are being played, for the Scorpio partner a relationship is alive and important every hour of every day, not something which can be placed on the shelf while she gets on with something else.
Some people think possessiveness is something vaguely pathological or ideologically "wrong", and we should all go around saying, "Whatever makes you happy makes me happy." The Scorpio partner is more likely to say, "If you're happy without me, you'll pay dearly for it." To Scorpio, possessiveness is as natural as breathing. Scorpio feelings are intense. They take a long time learning to trust, but then they don't let go easily. Some Scorpios harden their hearts because of fear of humiliation, and allow only superficial encounters into their life. But that's a Scorpio on the run.
No one experiences a relationship with a Scorpio without changing. Whether it endures or ends, you'll become more self-aware and look at life more deeply. Don't expect all sweetness and light. Some very wise people have said that life is made up of both light and dark, and only a fool believes it to be otherwise. And Scorpio is no fool.
The Scorpio woman
There are two keywords you should remember about the Scorpio woman. The first is "depth". She has a subtle and complex temperament, and you'll never get to know all her secrets. The second is "will". This woman won't bow her head to anyone or anything, unless it's temporarily necessary to achieve an end. No Scorpio is easy to understand or live with. But then, if you wanted something light and frothy, you'd be with someone else, wouldn't you?
The Scorpio woman can't accept things at face value. This can span a pretty broad range, from the woman who, when you say, "Good morning!", wonders exactly what you meant by it, to the woman who passionately needs to understand herself and the deeper motivations of the world around her. This woman expects something more than sentimental tokens. Love, to Scorpio, is a bond which touches to the soul, and she expects honesty of character. She has a lot of compassion, and she's probably more capable than any other sign of understanding and accepting human foibles and human darkness.
What she can't stand is a hypocrite and a sham. If you need masks and props, stay away, because her X-ray vision will see right through you. And she won't stop at seeing, either. There's a strong tendency in Scorpios to remake other people, and the Scorpio woman may try to transform you - with or without your consent, and especially if you've got a lot to hide.
She's capable of not only seeing but also sharing your pain, your dreams and your burdens. Her enormous strength of will and loyalty are unshakeable even when yours are flagging. But her expectations are high. She expects that you, like her, will realise that life is a boundless mystery to be plumbed and explored. If you prefer shallower pastimes, your only hope is to convince her of the justice of your right to be yourself.
Justice is a thing she understands. If she feels something is just, she's capable of sacrificing her own desires and opinions completely. If she thinks you're in the wrong and you don't apologise or change, she'll retaliate. You'll have to get used to her propensity for retaliation. It's a powerful gut-level emotional reaction to any situation where she feels she (or anyone else, for that matter) has been abused or wrongly treated.
Betrayal is the thing she fears and hates the most. If she feels betrayed, she's more likely to strike back than to turn the other cheek. It's good, basic, primitive stuff - an eye for an eye, and all that. Never maliciously or with gratuitous cruelty. Just enough to teach you a lesson. Does it sound a little hair-raising? Well, it can be. The Scorpio woman's feelings run deep and intense, and she won't tolerate having them taken lightly. And she has a long memory for both good and ill. Help her, show her encouragement, and she'll always remember it. Betray her and she'll never trust you again.
The Scorpio woman needs an arena where she can express her fighting spirit. She's not really a domestic creature, unless domesticity means periodically setting the house on fire. She needs to engage in battle against what she feels to be the darkness and destructiveness in the world and in life. She may often be seen championing the weak or the abused, in political, medical, legal or psychological spheres. Because she thrives on crises, she needs the right setting to slake her thirst for transformation and change. Otherwise, guess who bears the brunt of it.
Scorpio women don't like things to be placid for too long, and they mistrust complacent contentment. She's always looking for the worm in the apple, and if things are quiet for too long, she'll begin to suspect something's going on underneath. Then she'll start a quarrel or provoke a scene in order to find the worm. When it turns out that there isn't any worm, she's not in the least upset. She accomplished what she was really after: a change in the relationship, a shift in your (and her own) attitudes, a new level of insight. She'd rather have you furious than uninvolved.
No other sign can ever subdue or remodel the Scorpio woman. Just decide whether or not this is someone you can respect, understand, love and believe in. Oh, and work out whether or not you're prepared for your secret soul to be seen. If so, then don't trail your toes in the water. Jump in, and learn to enjoy the depths. One thing it will never be: shallow or boring.
If you'd like to play around w/ some more pairings: http://www.astro.com/cgi/aclch.cgi?btyp=syn&&cid=0xhfilezbYufv-u972220642
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If you'd like a good lap read, try Linda Goodman's Love Signs - it not only gives excellent descriptions of pairings, it has scads of great general astrological nuggets tucked about as well.
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