posted March 10, 2006 04:52 PM              

Plus I am cheap and I keep changing our travel arrangements costing time and money. He's about had it.
How do you defuse a cap?
He has only really yelled at me by email but I dislike it.
My sun trine pluto attracts caps and likes the structure and caring..but my sun trine jupiter and uranus gets confused.

posted March 10, 2006 05:15 PM            

My dad gets furious with my Pisces Step-mom because she will talk for months about taking a cruise, in reality she wants HIM to make all the arrangements because she gets lost in the details and she is MEGA-CHEAP!!!. Finally, he told her "we will NOT be taking a cruise unless YOU can figure out where you want to go and get it booked - you just make sure it occurs during the 'said' time frame and all is good".

The result? She changed her mind because she was too cheap to book it and basically wanted my dad to foot the entire bill (the woman is loaded).

I would suggest you put together some kind of travel package (a couple) and then present them to him. Decide what the parameters of the vacation are - such as

Time period
Destination
Length of time
Shared costs

How much are you willing to spend? Work with that. Capricorn's are impressed by decision making skills and also the ability to save money. Don't be frivolous, but also don't be so cheap you end up going no where.

I end up attracting Cappies for some reason, but I am not attracted to them for the most part (other than as friends). I find them to be bit too intense for me (too active as well).

posted March 10, 2006 10:17 PM              

The cappy gave me the plan by phone but gave ONE option? I couldn't say yes or no because I preferred to take the train than fly so I wouldn't have to take a cab to see him.

Instead of being able to say that I said go ahead and now have to change the flight.

BUT I couldn't go into the whole cab issue right there on the phone in 5 minutes. He had meetings all day so it as now or never.

I don't want to pay for cabs because I don't like them when I can take the subway or train, the train takes longer from Boston to NYC but it's more relaxing. yes I want to see him but he's not that relaxing, and there is no way to say that in a hurry.

Anyway, I said I wanted to fly Jetblue but he went ahead and used a different airline...so my question is do people ever plan a trip together? Does this relationship include me? I would ask him what he wanted when planning, I assumed he would do the same for me but I think not.

So for now on I won't include him in the decision making process but then I won't go if I'm responsible financially-
In my value system, he makes 8 times more than I do every year, and I am not going broke dating.

posted March 11, 2006 03:33 PM              

capricorns sure do get angry and sometimes in a more explosive way than most other signs (Leo/Scorpio excepted). Anyway, your friend should not be pressing you to hurry up and make a decision while he can clearly see that it's taking a toll on you. Have you tried explaining that it's difficult and not all that simple to him? Caps usually like to be involved in/help out with anything to do with planning, so he should soften up and try to see things from your end for a bit.

posted March 12, 2006 11:32 PM              

Then it took six hours due to mechanical problems with the plane for a one hour flight but he took it in stride. He did complain he had flowers waiting for me and they were wilted but overall, patience was rewarded with a big kiss.

I like the way Caps warm up and keep giving in the hugs department. Once I finally GOT to his house, we had a relaxing time and he treated me to a long back massage.

My interest in Caps is big.

posted March 13, 2006 12:02 PM            

I was just going to say - you need to lay down that law with a Capricorn. Unlikes some signs, the Cappy man can take the whole "Hey, you are not being considerate of my time and my needs concerning working and trying to travel" See, a Cappy man respects that because he respects a strong woman and one that has priorities.

He is more apt to spoil YOU when he knows how hard you are working and how you have made the effort to SEE him even though you are SO busy .....

Even though my step-mom can be Wishy -Washy, she does warm my dad's heart with her work ethic. He is retired and always comments on how she gets up so early in the am, works out in the evening, yet still cooks dinner with him..etc....

I have learned that you have to approach certain signs differently when it comes to respecting your boundries.

The Leo I am with lost when it comes to subtlety or dropping hints, which is great because I am blunt. So when I say to him "baby.... you are just being waaaaaay to clingy and I need a bit of space". He laughs and says "I knoooooow, I am being super-affectionate today". But he doesn't take offense at all. I tease him that he is like my other cats (but always acknowledge that he is, of course, the king of cats) and he keeps getting under my feet. I tell him "You DO know why cats historically stay away from horses don't you? I am not the most graceful Archer and may end up tripping over you or stepping on you" LMAO...

He has a Pisces moon which makes him a very affectionate guy - yet he can take when I get a bit edgy. Then again, I make him laugh until it hurts and we seem to have a blast every time we are together. The ex-Taurus would get very hurt if I talked to him the way I talk to the Leo.

It's all in the approach. Make a Leo laugh / purr and you can tell them just about anything. Talk in terms of work / responsibility to a Cappy and he'll accept the bitter pill. Taurus needs the conversation to revolve around food (preferably while you are cooking or while he is eating just so that he isn't HUNGRY). Hee hee....

I am happy that you had a great time. It seems that the two of you are really enjoying each other's company.

What sign is his moon / venus?

posted March 13, 2006 12:40 PM            

I think I would still get upset at having to listen to the minutae of constantly changing plans that (and this I think is typical Capricorn) should have been done correctly the first time. We are pretty big on doing things once.

I could probably tolerate it better than your Cap, though. I always assume that a person's going to do what they want anyway, so there's no need use in criticizing. I just wouldn't want to have to hear about it. The end result is what I'd be after, not how many steps it takes you to get there.

As far as getting angry, I'm a slow burner myself. I can call on a great amount of patience in order to keep myself in check. In order to get a really good outburst from me, you have to prove yourself to be pretty unrespectable. Even then, though, I realize that a person is not always in control of how much of an @ss they are, so I still go easy on them.

posted March 13, 2006 04:35 PM              

Natasha
Yep we had a good time, lots of holding hands, walking and talking.