posted April 25, 2006 06:37 PM            

Now, this next part may not apply to all Scorpio men, but in my case it certainly did. My ex, knowing me so well would sometimes use that information against me if he got angry or felt hurt. He could be very revenge oriented when he was mad...and usually when he was mad it was because he felt like he had no control. So you see, it was a sort of vicious cycle in a way.

On the positive side (now that we have gotten the not-as-savoury items out of the way) he was the most affectionate man I have ever met, once he opened up. Scorpios take a long time to trust someone, but I think if you are always honest then it helps to speed up the process alot. He was the best cuddler I've ever known and the least judgemental boyfriend I have ever had.

Whether this applies equally to all male Scorpios, I cannot say, but I suspect that in a Scorpio/Cancer relationship, you will likely find that much of this holds true.

One last piece of advice that I have found from observing other Cancer/Scorp match-ups...the relationship seems to progress VERY quickly from what I have noticed. I would maybe suggest that you take your time about getting to know each other even though it might be awfully tempting to rush things. Every single Cancer/Scorp relationship I have ever known of was a victim to this, which is not to say all of them are, but it's a good thing to be aware of I think.

Hope some of this helped!

posted April 25, 2006 07:27 PM            

Being with a Scorpio is sort of like toeing the line between too much and not enough. For me it was a balancing act. I always talk about my feelings and I'm pretty blunt about things and Scorpios are definitely NOT at all. I just gave him time to trust me and see what happened.

On the other hand, I was very upfront about the pushing and pulling thing...I let him know that I appreciated that he wanted to take his time, but that I didn't like to feel manipulated with all the back and forth.

I don't think that after 4 months it's about booty. Beneath all the trust issues is usually (usually!) a guy who is very sensitive and super sweet and maybe just afraid. Most of the Scorps I have known will usually only sleep around when they are feeling like they need to detach from something. It's usually a distraction from what I can tell.

As for the "L" word, I let him say it first (I've learned my lessons the hard way lol) and maybe that helps Scorpios to feel like they know the score...?? No matter what I think I know, they're still Scorpios and full of mystery but that's one of the reason we love them, no? How old is your Scorpio?

I will say lastly as a bit of encouragement, that even though we're not together anymore, I have never loved any dude like I loved my Scorpio. And Sweet Moses, I'm going to be 30 in June so take that to the bank and cash it!

Love

posted April 26, 2006 10:40 AM            

I've been with a scorpio man for about 16 years. I'm a gemini. Yes they do have some control issues and becareful of that. My advice keep an air of mystery about yourself, they would like nothing better than to keep you in their little cocoon.

Fights can be downright nasty, they can use some hurtful words that you feel right down to your soul, but hours or a day or so after they've brooded long enough, you get to catch a glimpse of that soft emotional side that they try to hide so well, and before you know it they put themselves comfortably right back in your heart.

Scorpio men tend to get the reputation as great lovers, and yes I would have to agree, but if your the shy type, prude or inhibited, probably not the fellow for you.

From my experience they are intense not with just love or sex but with everything they do, that's why I find him captivating. I think I secretly wish I was more like that.

Well I hope my info helps. Good luck to you.

posted April 26, 2006 03:14 PM            

You are absolutely correct about not having things sugar coated my husband says it like it is, some people this offends some respect it, his friends are mostly the same friends from high school and were in our mid-thirties, people don't just drift in and out of his life unless of course he's been betrayed in some way then you might as well forget it, he's done, and there's really nothing you can do about it.

As far as the bedroom I would say yes they like to be smothered but then again I think they like just about anything lol. It's more than just sex to them it's like there is an all consuming depth there that after 16 years I still can't understand.

I believe my dear your in for a fascinating trip hang on and enjoy it. Good luck to you.

Pearl

posted April 26, 2006 03:42 PM              

Yeah we like just about everything, being smothered, smothering, deep deep meaningful sex with someone we adore and who adores us....

The only advice I can give is enjoy the rollercoaster ride, never bore him, be a little mysterious, and if you like short and frequent short trips to hell....

YOU WILL HAVE A BALL !!!!

Enjoy the experience....Pluto's children are like no other, we are just misunderstood at times.,..

posted April 28, 2006 04:35 AM              

As a scorpio sun just to let you know that it isn't nesessarily the case that scorpio's are promiscuous OR loyal. We are BOTH. This may sound odd, like it doesn't make sense, or isn't possible. It is.

When we are with someone we love and have committed to we are completely loyal. Utterly devoted, and expect the same back.

But when I was single with no commitment to anyone I was - in my younger days - rather promiscouous. I made no promises to anyone, I just had some fun.

So we scorpio's can be one extreme or the other. That's the key you see - extremes. All or nothing.

posted April 28, 2006 10:49 AM              

He doesnt like me telling people anything about him or about what we do, which sometimes makes me feel like he doesnt care about me...im used to being very open about who im dating. Our close mutual friends know theres something going on, but we dont give them details and i dont think he even talks about us to them...which makes me wonder, cause dont guys like talking to their boys about the chicks their dating? He just seems too secretive.
Not that he hides me, but when it comes to talking about him, he tells me to watch what i say or tell people.
do you think its more or less because he's a scorpio and i hear they dont like anyone getting into their personal business or info...or maybe hes got something to hide?

We have mutual friends and one of his friends always tells me "dont listen to him, he always over does it, hes too paranoid" lol.

Im the type (and what woman isnt..lol) that i like to tell my friends every detail of my relationships, but after being with him, i noticed that i dont tell them anything anymore, i guess out of respect for his privacy.
ANd besides, ive learned that when you tell your friends too much about what goes on, they can turn around and use it against you. Which i experience first hand, so as ive gotten a bit more "mature" i realized that its better to not say too much.

posted May 04, 2006 01:11 PM              

i read a few times for your and cancer husband..i loved your bhaviours about your love..you are very energetic and lovely..i hope this will always live..
and i hope i will find a cancer some day haha..