posted May 20, 2006 05:06 AM              

Three husbands on, I am still ever hopeful of finding that place I so wanna be in.....

And I am told that I will get there....with a little patience....

B R I N G I T O N.......

posted May 20, 2006 05:47 AM              

Ciao, I have Venus in Aries at 8* in my 1st House square Neptune in Capricorn at 9* in my 10th House. And I do participate a lot in the arts [drawing, painting, singing, I play piano, ect.].

posted May 20, 2006 06:02 AM              

I’m 20 now, but when I was younger, from about 10 – 17 or so, I was very lost in my fairy tale idea. But something happened to jog me out of it. I got the most perfect, fairy tale- like beginning you could imagine, which ended, well, *not* so fairy tale like.. It shocked me enough to jog me out of being that dreamy, ever again.

I see the beauty in realistic, boring day to day life these days. Somehow it's much better than I initially thought it would be. Fairy tales are so volatile. When you try to live a fairytale you ignore the cracks to the extent where they come bk to bite you when you least expect, and with Neptune these aren’t necessarily small things.. but can be pretty huge mountains of negative stuff that were completely covered in a thick fog to start. Besides, realistically there are very few *strong bond* fairy tale-like love stories, historically, which ended well. I think the whole infatuation with *that* kind of love comes from it’s rarity and the fact that it doesn’t last.. If it didn’t end bad, it’d lose it’s charm quickly and gradually die down. So it’s always either forbidden, unrequited or simply impossible. In fact I don’t think it would become that kind of love in the first place it wasn’t under pressure for one reason or another.

posted May 20, 2006 06:24 AM            

Every love experience I've had has been an experience of dreamlike idealizing and being idealized.... and it's very hurtful because the crash to reality goes both ways... and when someone has put you on that pedestal and then goes through the realization that you're only human, well... disappointing some with YOUR REAL SELF is always hard to take. I try very hard in all areas of life not to judge, and when I love, I try to do so unconditionally... I try to accept others flaws and shortcomings... and we all have them, nobody is perfect.

But it's so heartwrenching when someone suddenly questions your worthiness because you aren't as perfect as they thought, or the reality of the relationship isn't what they dreamed.

I too succumb to idealizing my partners, I can't help it, when I'm in love, I feel completely drunk on that person. Under a spell. They truly look like the most beautiful, sexiest, smartest, kindest man that ever lived. But I'm evolved enough to realize that NOBODY is flawless. I've come to expect cracks in the veneer.

It's just hard to be held to such a standard that you can't possibly live up to... and thats been my experience and the "why" a lot of my relationships have broken up. I can't live up to an ideal.

I feel in the past, the real me has disappointed or made people feel disillusioned... and then I'm taken for granted, treated with contempt... the latter I'm talking about my marriage. he was so contempuous of me in the end. And so paranoid and insistent that he was "better" than me (deeply insecure).

I really believe it can be a blessing, because for me, the Venus/Neptune spawns an idealized, dreamlike, magical enchantment to begin with... and I've been able to parlay that magic into unconditional love, forgiveness, kindredness... I don't expect anyone to be perfect and I'm not disappointed by their flaws. I've had some wonderful experiences from it and learned so much, I feel.

posted May 20, 2006 09:04 AM            

My chart ruler is Venus and it's in my 1st house.

posted May 21, 2006 04:11 AM            

It is of vital importance that you find some kind of "cure" -otherwise you could be doomed to be a "social junkie." That cure is in your realization that you yourself are carrying around within your psyche that ideal human being. The people that you long for and are fatally attracted to seem to be supremely gifted and so you worship them, or they are in some way afflicted and seem to need your help.

posted May 22, 2006 09:35 AM              

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I know Venus and Neptune have a lot to do with romance and love, but what about being too romantic and idealistic in issues of the heart? What placements and aspects have a strong influence on the people who want fairytale romances [like myself]? I mean, I'm sure I'm not the only one in the world who wants their first kiss to be with their one and only soulmate, the person they're destined to meet and be with forever. Or their first experience with sex to be with their soulmate. To marry who fate has already set aside for eachother and to not divorce with this special person. And hope that the other person waits for them too, to experience all their firsts with their special someone. And basically, like I said, have that fairytale romance!
Does anyone else feel this way too ?

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I have the square, tho I’m not that bad know how you feel tho, lovers seem flawless in your eyes. But once the fairy dust disappears you’re like “wtf am I doing with this weirdo?”

posted October 26, 2007 10:24 PM              

i have venus conjunct neptune. actually, my ascendant is my venus-neptune midpoint. i feel destined to be a romantic fool and it seems to govern all of my social interactions. it is a little bit trippy for me because i am living on my neptune-ascendant line and i am experiencing a lot of psychic awareness of people on top of feeling like they idealize me as i idealize them which is a LOT to sort through in my mind!!! consequently, i have become a bit of a hermit lately and am contemplating moving even.. since it can all be a bit much.

anyone else have venus-neptune conjunctions or strong aspects and want to talk?

posted October 26, 2007 11:15 PM            

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Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer