posted May 23, 2006 05:06 PM              

The second area of contention concerns (surprise, surprise) my dating life, I met a guy who seems lovely (we are only just getting to know each other) but he looks a lot older than me (I don't know how old he is). Thing is, even though he's not very good-looking, he has a nice voice, nice eyes and a sunny smile (he's a Leo). I think there must be a lot of trines going on in the synastric chart because he is just so easy to be with and we seem to get on well. We went on a date together and he was unobtrusive, gentlemanly and POLITE - wasn't rude to staff etc. and didn't make any sort of embarrassing comments out loud (which I hate in men). And he seems to really like me and be very attentive, which has made me rather thoughtful. The thing is, because in many respects we are very different, I don't know if it would work in the long-term. I also still have a "thing" for a Piscean whom I was crazy about for years, but he is attached and though we had a terrific rapport within our friendship I always felt he was stringing me along. At this point I feel that asking him whether he ever felt the same way might be inappropriate and too much (he has a very busy work schedule right now), but I always felt he was as near to a true soulmate as I could get. But I went through an emotional mill with him and I don't want to go through that again because he never gave me a direct answer to anything.

The third area of contention concerns my parents. I went down to see them over the weekend, having thought I had patched up a lot of our differences. I mentioned I had a date that weekend, they asked me all sorts of questions about it, then proceeded to twit me about my date (who they don't know personally). I lashed back with "don't you DARE make comments on my personal life" they came back with "you're too sensitive", and acted as if I was the one being "funny", and my mother brought out a ton of "man-hater" type books including one somebody went on hundreds of dates (of which each and every one sounded the same) purely to fill its pages. I don't know why she does this every time I visit her, she tries to egg me on to read this sort of stuff and I have absolutely no interest in doing so because quite frankly, I find it boring, pointless and negative. One thing I do know, I absolutely won't mention my personal life to them again. I brought my guitar down to entertain them but I'd only played about 2 songs when they started talking over the top of my singing and then wandered off to fix the grandfather clock. Needless to say, I was a bit p*ssed off because I thought my father particularly (as he is musical) would be genuinely interested to hear what I had come up with.

So, I feel utterly confused!! Is this a function of Neptune going retrograde, or some current aspect to my chart?

AT

(DOB: 16:15 pm, 18th April 1974, Bristol, England)

posted May 23, 2006 05:31 PM            

1) The job propects sound great even if you are going to have to choose. I'd look at which position will be the most fulfilling and provide the most intellectual or creative stimulation. Then ask yourself which job will offer the most security in the long run (meaning, where you will be challenged, compensated and won't feel like you are going to lose your job at any moment). Which one do you see yourself wanting to do a few years from now and which will also keep you more on track with your hobbies / art/ landscaping?

2) Looks aren't everything, but if you aren't feeling that spark - you'll have to either give it time or be just friends. I think it must be "Leo Season" or something LOL.... lots of Leo men are meeting people these days and I think we fire women are picking up on their sweeter, unobtrusive ways. Just kind of play the field for awhile and see where it takes you.

3) Ahhh... mom is a secret man-hater. How awful that must make your father feel. It sounds like your mother is jealous of you and your path, so she seeks to sabotoge things by giving you books on how to hate a man or play mind games with a man. I came across many women like that after my ex and I split up- but it didn't work. When you meet that special someone you'll know but at the same time why spend any energy learning to hate the male species just because? You aren't like that anyway!!!

I am not sure about the transits - Neptune is a big wishy washy right now, but I think things will become clear. I know it sounds cliche, but follow your heart when it comes to the career choice.

posted May 23, 2006 05:35 PM              

You have transiting (planets in the sky) Pluto (transformation, also power) focused in the 4th house (home, also emotions) squaring (energy needs to be combined with) birth Pluto, indicating that now is a time of home/family and emotional transformation. This is a time when we decide which home/family and emotional things to keep in our life...and which to get rid of forever. Although the transformation is challenging, the end result is a development of power for ourselves.

In addition you have transiting Uranus (friends, also restructuring) conjuncting (energy is combined with) your Descendant (others), indicating that now is a time when you have an opportunity to restructure how you relate to others and who you relate to. It is also the opportunity to explore deep friendships with others around you...including those people who normally you might not feel attracted to.

Plutonically Uranified,

posted May 25, 2006 03:09 PM              

To No. 2, I think I will give it time...thing is, I DO feel a *sort of* spark and I wonder whether I should necessarily go for *looks* all the time, as I have been out with guys that were good-looking (and knew it) but quite obviously b-ds.

No.3: Yes!!! You are dead right, my mother IS a man-hater - thing is, my father has never ever even noticed (not even when they were living together) - I'd left one of her books that I'd half-read out on a table, face up and when we all sat down later as a family I noticed it was turned face DOWN ... I doubt, however, my father would put two and two together in that case, though...he seriously believes my mother's an angel. I don't know how gentle they are capable of being in love relations, but for me it sometimes seems as though a sensitivity or gentleness, maybe just simply old-fashioned *niceness*, is lacking.

Tim,

Thanks for this, I enjoy your writings, they always illuminate me. I do see my parents for what they are and even though I thought at one stage they had made some improvement, this probably isn't the case...never mind.

Very interesting what you say about Uranus CJ the Descendant and friendships/ relating.

Can I ask how long the Pluto, and Uranus, phases respectively will last?

posted May 25, 2006 04:00 PM              

Pluto and Uranus transits are LONG, with Pluto being the LONGEST. The Pluto transit will take many years to be fully complete, and the Uranus transit will take several years to be fully complete.

Looking at the upcoming years,