posted August 29, 2006 07:48 PM              

Did I do it too soon? Is it hard for them to express themselves? We've hit a snag of sorts as of late - he's training for a marathon and is tired, and not in the mood for sex and he's been preoccupied...sort of causing me to panic and think it's over.

At times, he's hard to read. And last night he was like a wall.

Any advice on how to proceed with him? I know to give him space and today he was chatty with me and we had lunch together, although I have to say, he was a bit grumpy (Taurus's can be grumpy!) so that was interesting.

posted August 29, 2006 08:30 PM            

The difference sometimes lies with how we communicate. I need verbal communication, sharing of ideas, talking about the future sharing about the day. My physical nature is how I SHOW someone how I feel- but it is different that affection- or at least it was.

I was engaged to a Taurus man (Virgo moon) Taurus rising for over a year. He was the worst experience of my life (but let's not talk about that). I noticed that he communicated in a very physical way- eye contact, squeezes and nuzzling. I did not take any pleasure in that because I like communication- I prefer when we can touch AND communicate.

He would hold on to me too tightly, thinking it was showing how he felt which would normally make me feel like that cat in the Pepe la Pue cartoons. He hated that I wanted to talk (and I don't mean that let's have mushy talk and hug and snuggle in bed) I mean, "Hey did you hear about what is going on in the congo?"

Suffice it to say, his.. ummm, Earthy nature was a total turn off. How one being can languish in their own.. well, ick... (He was, most likely, and ABNORMAL Taurus-- highly afflicted).

I can't blame him though because I need to be with a verbal acrobat with an offbeat sense of humor that admires my loyalty and loves to spoil me as much as I spoil him..

hee hee... Which is exactly why I am married to a Leo Sun / Pisces Moon / Virgo rising ..

The Taurus will come around- or at least that is what I have heard. In my case, the two Taurus men that I got involved with aggressively pursued me. Have you ever seen a Bull run? It's kind of funny to have one chase you..

LMAO.. image in my mind..my ex also resembled a Bull - especially when he was p1ssed and his nostrils would flare. LMAO.. I have stop or I am going to spit water out my nose.

posted August 30, 2006 03:58 AM              

pid i will have to add that altho geminis are notorious for having two faces at least our faces are OBVIOUS. even a blind person couldnt miss our ups and downs , mood swings and several personalities. theyre so obvious. but a taurean, those ppl can be so complex and have as many faces as the gemini, but all under this cool surface! i dont mean it in a negative way but just by the way. there is this taurus guy who i cant figure out if he likes me or not, introduced me to his mom and his cats, but he keeps passing comments that make me think that he thinks im UNATTRACTIVE (major turn off for me hahaha. if leo and aries men find me attractive, i would think im some sort of catch, afterall leo and aries are the sexy rugged playboys of the zodiac).

but hes so complex and cool that sometimes its infuriating. taurus men can be very scared during emotional expression particularly coz they dont know how to express their emotions. this taurus im talking abt is sooooo sweet and gentle, he never realizes when hes offended my scorp moon (we have a direct sun moon opp.) and when i tell him he gives this formal cordial apology which i know is 'heartfelt' for him but its dry as cardboard for me (linda says that geminis are the most charming apologizers and shes darn right we know how to dress up those apologies). this taurus has a leo bro who told me once that when the taurus gets mad he walks around the room looking for something approp to break that wont make too much of a mess but will demonstrate that hes angry. LOL if you think abt that its HILARIOUS. like even emotions are pre planned.

theyre so frozen dinner ish that it takes a while to get taureans to be spontaneous. for an air/fire person , perhaps they will never be spontaneous enough.

for a feeling , sensitive piscean like urself u might be able to sense his untold emotions with the innate understanding of the water-earth combo.

good luck! he is probably in a shut down mode as u said. iwill agree with that. but keep in mind when things change with taureans they dont tell u. so make sure u keep tabs on his emotional problems, his life problems, and help him thru them or he could surprise u with a sudden bye or resentment or fight! ive seen it happen a lot!

posted August 30, 2006 05:32 AM              

Haha ha...we like to communicate with *grumble grumble* ....though I'm a seriously afflicted Taurus cow, my mercury in Gemini demands I communicate, even when I just don't wanna talk (i've usually got something to say)

I think Taurean males are more the 'touchy' type rather than the 'talky' type, if he took you home to meet the folks, thats gotta be a good sign in my books, I don't just take any random person home to meet mine.

I do agree they're not spontaneous, and won't shower you unexpectedly at the office with flowers or any such thing, but they're dependable, hard working, kind and usually easy to please, after all the way to a Taureans heart is definitely through the stomach and not with a sharp knife through the chest.....

posted September 07, 2006 04:18 PM            

Sorry it took so long for me to respond but I was out of town for the holiday weekend (and on business). I agree that Gemini's are easier to read, the Taurus I was with had his Mercury in Gemini, in the first house- but it was opposed to his Neptune in Sag and both squared his Moon in Virgo.

He was a pathological liar and was also a sadist. He pursued me like mad in the beginning and even bought me a $5000 engagement ring. All that changed once I moved in with him and then he became "secure" with the fact that he "had" me. He used subtle ways to put me down and should I react, he would turn it on me. I allowed this to go on for a couple of months, but I was already planning my exit within a month of living with him.

He used to tell me that he "owned" me, like his car, his furniture etc.. .I was "HIS" and he could treat me as he wanted. Basically, he bored the living crap out of me and I thought I would suffocate under his fat bull butt. LMAO...

That is not to say that Taurus men or women are bad in any way. Some just don't get along with other signs. My husband was married to a Taurus woman that seemed like the female version of my ex. She is psycho pure and simple and she also looks at their children as her possessions. She used to wake him up from the couch by slapping him upside the head- real smart when you are married to an Airborne Soldier that just got out of an intense school for how to evade being a POW and how to react if you are one.

The one thing that I have noticed about Taurus people, not all but some, is that they have a tendancy to let things go when they feel secure. They take the security for granted and therefore we all become little collectables that gather dust from time to time. Mine figured that giving me a ring meant that I would be fine sitting on the shelf until he was ready to play with me. LMAO... poor fool.

Being an Archer, I need to have a break from routine more often than a Taurus does. I can't just sit in the house for days on end, watching movies or playing video games (or in the case of my ex, surfing transexual porn for 15 consecutive hours). I also demand loyalty in my relationships and he was anything but, as pleasure was his only focus - that and putting me down. LOL...

After we broke up he came back begging for me to give him another chance. He apologized for all he put me through (he was not really sorry- a narcissist is never truly sorry) and wanted me to be with him again. I knew I would never take him back, but I kept a dialog to find out what was in his head. He basically told me he hated the fact that I was so "alive" and that he hated me for understand my own emotions. He hated my education and he hated how people paid attention to me. - He also had his Sun in the first house - so he was very "me" oriented.

No.. not all Taurus people are like that at all- he was a fluke, an aberration, but he did show me hell and from that I learned to look at life differently.

****Be careful of the man that lets you "in" his world too quickly and then starts to fizzle as the two of you get closer. That has nothing to do with astrological sun sign, but more to do with an abnormal make up in his head. There is a wonderful thread on Emotional Vampires in Soul Unions that details this type of behaviour. http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/001973.html