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Topic: Wanting more from an aquarian male
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GrlyGirl20
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 03, 2006 12:11 AM
  
Hey how are you guys? I would love some info on aqua guys. He and I have been friends for about a year but in that year there have been alot of ups and downs. I am in love with him but for some reason I have never been able to show him, I push him away (I blame my venus in the 11th house). We had become better friends and had been talking over school break but when we got back I had started to feel unappriected because he never tries to iniciate anything with me as far as hanging out. I sent him an email saying that I felt that I was being needy and that I did in fact still have feelings for him and that it sucks he won't hang out with me or that I feel like something is wrong with me. I basically said that I care about him unconditionally and that I am trying to get to know him but each time I try I get rebuffed. He then replied with that there is nothing wrong with me, and that he did not return my feelings (which I wonder if he actually does...I told him so many times that I did not like him when I did). And that he is sorry that he kept me at arms length and that the reason he doesn't express emotions is because he had a tough freshmen year that changed him. He said that he values our friendship and that the reason he kept me distant was because he did not want me to think he was playing games when he had no interest. The email never once said he was sorry or anything. I replied in another email saying I felt bad for what he went through freshmen year, but that is no excuse to keep anyone far away. I also said that I was done with contacting him that if he wanted us to be friends then the ball is in his court. We have since hung out but I find that his just friends stance is hard...the way he talks at least online is as if there is more...It kinda seems that he uses the whole concept of friendship to pretend that there is nothing more. We recently talked online and I had said that he was great for being patient with me...and he had said that he would be that way for as long as I want him to be. Also his emails have a tendency to be flirty. I just am not confused I want to take what he says at face value but I don't know...please help? I just don't know why he is so hesitant to get closer even as friends. Thanks.My placements
Cancer Asc
Sun Can 1st house
Moon Cap 7th house
Mer Leo 2nd house
Ven Tau 11th house
Mars Can 1st house
Jup Aqua 8th house
Sat Sco 5th house
Pluto Sco 5th house
Nep Cap 6th house
Uran Sag 6th house His Placements
Pisces asc
Sun Aqua 12th house
Moon Sag 10th house
Mer Aqua 12 house
Ven Aries 1st house
Mars Aries 1st house
Jup Aqua 11th house
Uran Sag 9th house
Nep Cap 10th house
Sat Sco 8th house
Plu Scor 8th house
I should tell you his venus and mars in Aries in 1st house are intercepted in his 3rd and 9th house of Gemini.
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posted September 03, 2006 12:20 AM
yuck! Im sorry youre dealing with this drama,
Iam surrounded by Aquarians in my life so I got them down most of the time,
my advice is: MOVE ON. He told he didnt feel that strongly, let it go, it cant be a fake letting go either, they can sense when youre really gone...intitutive people....
I had the same BS, I was friends with an Aqua sun/Gemini Moon for years and he would say he loved me, but then acted as though he never said it, they change their minds, once you get serious, it seems like they FREAK OUT, and run!
the trick with them is be subtle, dont force them to do anything, be aggressive in a very intelligent way, you cannot screw with them, they are FIXED,
ive realized with them, you have to be a B-TCH, I cant stress it enough, dont let them get away with too much, they want a strong woman....I realized I let my guards down after knowing the dolt for years, thinking I didnt have to have my guard UP, WRONG- guard up, move on,
and dont expect anything from him,
and he'll be back with some heartfelt letter, saying he misses you...*rolls eyes* it never fails,
good luck and i hope it gets better hun! ------------------
"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit" "Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation" -Khalil Gibran IP: Logged |
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Knowflake Posts: 250
From: The Strand
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 03, 2006 04:17 AM
A tip from an Aqua girl, so I tell you advice from myself and from dealings with Aqua males.Me as an Aqua love to flirt over email; for me it is the distance that thrills me; that I can tinker but not be responsible for anything else but still have the thrill of anticipation. I am guilty of leading guys on like this, but have also been interested in them (I found my current partner like this as well). It could indicate some interest from him in you and I think it would. However, with us Aqua, make sure you never push. Show interest but hang back and be cool. I read this somewhere and it is true, you have to give the perception to them that they are in control and that they do the wooing. Otherwise, we will drop and run for our lives: especially if you show emotion. I had an Aqu male do this to me after I cried over the phone to him. However, if he tells you that he is not interested, then please let it go. He might have said it to keep you hanging on, but don't bother. If he is interested, he will come after you slowly. But really the best thing is to let go and occupy your time with other people. My concern is also your stars and his based on what I see so far. He has a lot of Aqu, Aries and Sag which indicates he is very independent, free and aloof. You need someone more secure and intimate around you. IP: Logged |
Gooberzlostlovefound
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posted September 03, 2006 07:36 AM
good advice given here, sorry you're dealing with this GrlyGirl. Like 23 wisely pointed out, he has a lot of Aqua and Aries in his chart, with a Sag moon on top of it. Eeeek. While it may be highly attractive -- my guess is, it's not at all what you need, looking at your placements. Personally, I haven't had really good experiences with Sag moon guys, either. Good luck and hang in there. IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
Knowflake Posts: 319
From: USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 03, 2006 09:16 AM
I want to keep the friendship but it is hard just because I happen to care, but it seems he won't open up to me...and I can't figure out why. I have to admit that I have not really been an innoncent player in this as well. I told him last year that I did like him and he said he wasn't interested, however I told him while I had a boyfriend. And aqua guy saw that I did not treat the boyfriend the best. Not to mention he see's that I have a tendency to like a new guy all the time or be interested in a new guy, I say around him that other guys are attractive, and I in fact have even gone as far as to say he has to meet someone and that I'll fix him up with people I know. I have also ignored him, blocked him on aim and I have been pretty mean to him. In short I have played major games. And I admit this...I don't want to get hurt or anything. I have been in love with him for a while but I don't want him to think I am so I treat him the opposite of how I feel and tell him I feel nothing. In fact this past email where I said how I feel when I see him I act as if nothing happned. I know he is sensitive but I don't get why he takes my crap. Or why he again is so hard to get to emotionally as friends. He does say that he holds me high in regard because of my intellect...but I just don't get him and I want to. IP: Logged |
Gooberzlostlovefound
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posted September 03, 2006 01:31 PM
I know it's hard when someone you like keeps you at arms' length. Aquarians tend to do that, even in friendship. Especially males. But you can't force it. Your best bet is probably to pull back a little and see what happens. You don't have to ignore him, just let him come to you. Don't email, IM, call, or initiate plans. If he wants to see or talk to you, he will find a way. IP: Logged | |
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