posted September 21, 2006 03:59 PM            

I'm so happy to hear you are falling in love with a fellow crab. Crab men are truly delightful. I'm sure you know all of the pros and cons to dating one, so I'll spare you my normal list of warnings.

To answer your questions:

1. How do you know when a crab likes you? Crab men show their interest by scuttling around you. They call, hang out, talk, are always around in some way but never seem to directly grab on. They often drop subtle hints encouraging you to make the first move. Linda's description really is accurate - they are like crabs on the beach, trying to approach a shiny thing. They never let the object of their desire out of their site, but they never approach it directly. From what you've told us about your crab’s behavior, I'd dare say he's crazy about you. He's even dropped some of the legendary subtle Cancer hints - like telling you he's super shy and tentative in relationships. In my opinion, he's trying to encourage you to make the first move.

2. Do you need to let him know how you feel about him? Probably. : ) If you are patient enough and give him the right signals he’ll say it some day, but do you really want to wait that long? And what if you don’t give off signals his shy little crab mind understands as signs of your adoration? For my crab and I it was fairly seamless. We hung out all the time, sat on the couch for hours, almost touching looking at pictures. Tentatively kissed. But for about a month we never spoke a work of our true feelings, until one day while drunk and dancing he told me “I think I’m falling for you” and I told him “I know, I think I’m falling for you too, and it scares me.” Haha. That was our tentative crab way of saying we were in love with one another. It took us another few weeks to actually use the L word, although we both knew very well we loved one another. I think we were just too afraid to say it and have it not returned or have the other person seem awkward about returning it.

But in your case, I’d try dropping a fairly clear comment about your interest. A little known secret about crabs is we LOVE honesty. Absolute, no holds bared honesty. I think we love it because it’s so hard for us, and because absolute honesty is one of the few things that can banish our hundreds of fears and insecurities. There can be no monsters hiding under the bed if everyone is honest, and turns on all the lights, right? I dated a Sag for about a year, and one of the things I loved most about him was his honesty. I knew he’d ALWAYS tell me the truth even if it hurt. It was so comforting. So go for it, girl! And keep us posted!

*hugs*

posted September 21, 2006 06:55 PM              

Thank you so much for your reply. I feel so much better and more prepared. I have been doing all of those things that Cancers love. I bring him baked goods, ask him about his day, leave him little notes, etc. Fortunately I am a total motherhen anyway. But I want to have as much insight as possible.
I have started charting his moods according to the moon phase and that has helped me know what to expect a little.
I have made an effort to compliment him when ever possible, which generally results in an "aw shucks" kind of response, but I think he likes it. He was going to shave his beard and when I said "oh, no it's cute!" well, he decided to keep it. I think that's a good sign. He doesn't really compliment me a lot physically, he said my hair was cute, my feet are cute, and my first response was to worry, but he compliments me in all of the areas that really seem to matter to him. ???
We had two really wonderful chats last night and in the first, the subject of some of my childhood "trauma" came up. HE seemed really disturbed and actually brought it up in the next conversation. I have noticed that he has a strong need to watch out for me be it heavy lifting or guys who look at me the wrong way, but I have been reluctant to share any of my "personal issues" because I wanted him to feel like he could open up without interruption. However, I am wondering if perhaps sharing some of these things might bring us closer and if he needs to feel in some way like the knight in shining armor? Is this a male Cancerian trait?

posted September 25, 2006 09:54 AM              

Also, thank you to Dulce Luna and Double Trouble Gemini as well!! Things are moving forward nicely. Thanks again.