posted October 26, 2006 06:08 PM            

The goal is to eliminate,let go..
not be held back in the past and be resentful but forgive and move on.

posted October 26, 2006 06:26 PM              

I also have Venus in Scorp. I've had similar impulses after any kind of betrayal, although I've never acted on them.

posted October 26, 2006 06:44 PM            

In ancient Egyptian mythology and in myths derived from it, the phoenix or phœnix is a mythical sacred firebird.

Said to live for 500 or 1461 years (depending on the source), the phoenix is a bird with beautiful gold and red plumage. At the end of its life-cycle the phoenix builds itself a nest of cinnamon twigs that it then ignites; both nest and bird burn fiercely and are reduced to ashes, from which a new, young phoenix arises. The new phoenix embalms the ashes of the old phoenix in an egg made of myrrh and deposits it in the Egyptian city of Heliopolis ("the city of the sun" in Greek). The bird was also said to regenerate when hurt or wounded by a foe, thus being almost immortal and invincible — a symbol of fire and divinity.

Although descriptions (and life-span) vary, the phoenix (Bennu bird) became popular in early Christian art, literature and Christian symbolism, as a symbol of Christ, and further, represented the resurrection, immortality, and the life-after-death of Jesus Christ.

posted October 26, 2006 07:31 PM              

We take matters of love very intensely so it's difficult to handle that kind of a happening.. I agree with the advice above, just grow from this and show the world who you are and that you a better than that..

posted October 26, 2006 07:33 PM              

Kaira please don't feed this guy any more energy at all, good or bad. You wanna lash out at him because your anger is covering over your deep hurt right now. Cut him loose completly! Maybe you can do a 'cutting of the cords' ritual or something to make yourself feel better. If you look at it this way... if you can somehow get yourself to a point where you get all those emotions out on your own, without any revenge on him, then you will not keep this circle-cycle going in this life (or the next if you believe in that kind of thing)! I mean, with revenge you'd still have to see him again at some point. Or at least have thoughts of him clouding your mind. Yuck. Let it all out to your close trusted friends. This too shall pass. Sending you some energy for your pain

posted October 26, 2006 10:09 PM              

Love is something of an emotional battlefield for you. When you give your heart you give it completely, with an intensity and committment that could easily scare the faint-of-heart. You are a passionate soul, and you are fully aware of the importance of sexuality in making a relationship complete. Fear of loss and rejection makes you manipulative, and gives you problems with jealousy. You would like to have a love that lasts for life, but often sabotage permanance because of an inner insecurity.

posted October 27, 2006 06:32 AM              

Yes
Yes
Yes

To what everyone else said....it can be DEADLY !!!!

I dont believe anyone who has this placement can escape from feelings of jealousy and revenge...its very powerful indeed...

Lots of therapy helps

posted October 27, 2006 07:16 AM            

Yes, extremely so. I have this placement as well. Makes me so damn passionate about everything...especially revenge and jealousy. Its hard to control it too, becuase I know for me at times, I tell myself I'm being ridiculous, but at the same time. Saying one thing, and feeling something else is entirely different...

I would think ina cheating situation, Venus would lend towards more how I felt and what I WANT to do, while my Mars (Aquarius) would be what I actually do.

I know when I get angry enough (like the level I would if I was cheated on, which I havent reached yet..thank god because the gates of hell would fly open and unleash chaos on everything in my path..), my reaction is to turn my anger inwards and dramatically detach myself. Like no communication, no acknowledgement what so ever. I can look at a person as if there's nothing but air in front of me, no matter how close we were 2 minutes ago.

Feelings wise, I'd want to be the destroyer of the person's life. And I'd hold that grudge like nobody's business..

posted October 27, 2006 09:03 AM              

I won't allow anyone to affect me that much. This sounds sort of mean, but if someone is being immature in words and/or actions, I just pity them and move on with my life with focus and determination to be a better person.

On a side-note: I've just recently in the past 2 years or so started leaning more towards this direction. I've always waffled with feelings... now if I'm hurt to a mind boggling point, I just shut down... they can't touch me emotionally or mentally. I guess you could say that they're dead to me.

I know it sounds silly, but after years of doing this, karma has proved to take care of things for me.

These people can't go all through their lives being liars, manipulators, cheats, etc. without it biting them in the arse eventually.

The one amusing trend that I notice is that when their karma has come full circle back, they almost never realize that the issues they are dealing with are usually due to what they've put out onto others.

As for the cheating bit... it hasn't happened to me (fortunately, crosses fingers not to jinx myself). I would think I would let them know how their actions made me feel... then just go on with life. Even though I'm sure when I tell them how they made me feel, it wouldn't be very nice or pretty... shutters thinking of how full of rage I'd most likely become.

I mean, do you really want to throw that much energy into someone that would lie and deceive you like that? Those 2 qualities aren't on my desirable traits list.

Edit - This made me think of a conversation I was having with a male Taurus friend... We were talking about how a few movie stars have come out and said that humans aren't designed to be monogamous.

I told him that if men aren't designed to be monogamous, than I don't want one.

It's a flaw that I can't tolerate very well. I'm very monogamous, so therefore in my mind, the person I'm with should be equally so.

NOTE: I'm not saying that my way is the law for everyone... just for me.

My Scorpio venus in conjunct Uranus.

posted October 27, 2006 09:06 AM            

Oh boy do I understand! I've got venus in scorp too, and I had a guy that I was madly in love with about 5 years ago cheat on me several times. It made my blood boil to a point that I cannot describe. It was all consuming. I started having the most visceral, unsettling dreams. I fantasized and dreamt about the most violent scenarios toward him and/or his other lover - not for the faint of heart. They usually involved me with a metal baseball bat and skull crushing, all the while screaming to them that they "will never, EVER disrespect me"...yeah, not kidding. Mind you, I'm a pisces moon (although it's in the 8th) and I'm usually very peace loving and non-confrontational, so these thoughts and dreams really upset me.

When I finally had enough of it and ended the relationship, it took me the better part of 4 years to get over it, but the relationship itself only lasted 2 1/2.

posted October 27, 2006 09:31 AM              

Thanks guys for yer honesty....

posted October 27, 2006 09:47 AM              

I work with a Scorpio... we got along (and still do now) until I didn't agree with something that was said.... good grief. Are we all like that? I hope not.

I mean come on... everyone is different... just because we see things differently doesn't mean anything. There aren't always hidden motives behind everything. Sometimes yes... always... no... and no one is "always" right.

This is coming from someone that has a few Scorpio placements herself.

posted October 27, 2006 11:15 AM            

....Scorpluv....